cryingcloud
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So about 5 or so months ago, me and my long term "best" friend went through a series of arguments until we cracked. We eventually put it behind us (with no apologies) and are still friends. One of our many arguments happened when we planned to go to a concert on a beach a few hours away from us.
I bought the tickets for us and thought it'd be a nice trip for us two. We had planned it all out, and we knew that we wanted to drink, so we agreed that her sister would come and be the DD. Little did I know she also invites two other people and did not tell me, till they got in the car. (much to my confusion)
She has a history of surprising me like this, and that's not in a good way. I have never liked or felt comfortable with her not telling me when she invites others to come along. I am not against having a group of mutual friends to hang out with, but instead it's like she took a vacation made for the two of us and made it her own.
We ended up fighting because she stuck me with the hotel bill (she wouldn't even pay half) and built up tension from the unsuspected guests. After that trip, I swore to myself to never travel with her again, and especially not to travel with her and her friends.
Ironically though, I am in a similar situation, yet again. We wanted to plan a trip to NYC for spring break, and a family member of mine has graciously offered to pay for a hotel for us for the week. She wants to bring her boyfriend...I don't have anyone else to bring...I can already foresee myself being the unhappy third wheel. She said to me that if NY doesn't work out, that she'll probably go to Florida with her boyfriend. (that he'd be paying for) Basically she gets a free ride either way.
When she said that, it kind of hurt, because we had planned to spend spring break together. It's as if she just asked me to make a trip to NYC because she knows I have family there that would provide a place to stay for free, not because she actually wanted to spend it with me.
So...should I take a risk and go through with this? Or break it off? I don't think our friendship can take another beating. Please give your opinions!
I bought the tickets for us and thought it'd be a nice trip for us two. We had planned it all out, and we knew that we wanted to drink, so we agreed that her sister would come and be the DD. Little did I know she also invites two other people and did not tell me, till they got in the car. (much to my confusion)
She has a history of surprising me like this, and that's not in a good way. I have never liked or felt comfortable with her not telling me when she invites others to come along. I am not against having a group of mutual friends to hang out with, but instead it's like she took a vacation made for the two of us and made it her own.
We ended up fighting because she stuck me with the hotel bill (she wouldn't even pay half) and built up tension from the unsuspected guests. After that trip, I swore to myself to never travel with her again, and especially not to travel with her and her friends.
Ironically though, I am in a similar situation, yet again. We wanted to plan a trip to NYC for spring break, and a family member of mine has graciously offered to pay for a hotel for us for the week. She wants to bring her boyfriend...I don't have anyone else to bring...I can already foresee myself being the unhappy third wheel. She said to me that if NY doesn't work out, that she'll probably go to Florida with her boyfriend. (that he'd be paying for) Basically she gets a free ride either way.
When she said that, it kind of hurt, because we had planned to spend spring break together. It's as if she just asked me to make a trip to NYC because she knows I have family there that would provide a place to stay for free, not because she actually wanted to spend it with me.
So...should I take a risk and go through with this? Or break it off? I don't think our friendship can take another beating. Please give your opinions!