A_kind_Stranger
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36 (F), I am currently in a long distance relationship with someone I have known for 3+ years. I had just gotten out of a relationship 3 months ago, which lasted a yr and half because the person had to move overseas. Before that I was married and divorced (due to alcohol abuse). The current boyfriend (let's call him Sam) lived in Seattle, and was a fwb when we first met. (Back when he was in NY) At the time I was exploring myself because I had gotten out of an abusive marriage, being bi I also pursued females,etc.
Sam and I shared a similar past, where we were both sexually abused. We had a lot of passion for each other, and he made me feel special. But ultimately I moved on because of different goals in life and I wasn't ready to date someone with bipolar. We kept on touch, he was not over me even though he dated a few people. So after my last breakup I decided to give this a try because he wanted the same things I wanted, commitment, marriage, and kids. He come to visit for a bit, but due to sudden database breach of his company and pending lawsuits he went back to Seattle, he promised he would move back after his trip with his parents. He went through a small period of depression, where communication was lacking. We then started texting on a consistent basis, about future plans, etc. But the texting stopped this week, and I was looking forward to seeing him because initially he was suppose to come back last week. His last text was Wed night that he's sorry he's been distant, but he was either too busy or had no desire to text. I didn't know if he's going through moods, but I texted him that he needs to let me know what's going on, and to call me if we're continuing to be long distance. And hopefully let me know when he's coming back because I am looking forward to seeing him. I didn't want to seem desperate, and am hoping he'll make things right. I'm trying to prepare to mentally move on, but I also really want to see where this can go if situation gets better, because I do think he loves. He trust me with his inner thoughts, and provides emotional support, and I love him even as a friend. My gut says to give it a little more time, but I have to prepare if things don't work out, and it does hurt to be in this position.
Sam and I shared a similar past, where we were both sexually abused. We had a lot of passion for each other, and he made me feel special. But ultimately I moved on because of different goals in life and I wasn't ready to date someone with bipolar. We kept on touch, he was not over me even though he dated a few people. So after my last breakup I decided to give this a try because he wanted the same things I wanted, commitment, marriage, and kids. He come to visit for a bit, but due to sudden database breach of his company and pending lawsuits he went back to Seattle, he promised he would move back after his trip with his parents. He went through a small period of depression, where communication was lacking. We then started texting on a consistent basis, about future plans, etc. But the texting stopped this week, and I was looking forward to seeing him because initially he was suppose to come back last week. His last text was Wed night that he's sorry he's been distant, but he was either too busy or had no desire to text. I didn't know if he's going through moods, but I texted him that he needs to let me know what's going on, and to call me if we're continuing to be long distance. And hopefully let me know when he's coming back because I am looking forward to seeing him. I didn't want to seem desperate, and am hoping he'll make things right. I'm trying to prepare to mentally move on, but I also really want to see where this can go if situation gets better, because I do think he loves. He trust me with his inner thoughts, and provides emotional support, and I love him even as a friend. My gut says to give it a little more time, but I have to prepare if things don't work out, and it does hurt to be in this position.