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People almost never see themselves how others see them, my wife tells me this, she says, "You don't notice when women are flirting with you", and she is convinced that her hairdresser (a gay man) has a crush on me. I think she thinks these things because she is projecting her insecurities, she...

I think this might partly be what the OP is talking about - as people get older, they do become more closed off, because they've been hurt, because they have emotional baggage, because they find the idea of embarking on new relationships to be exhausting. I do, too. Particularly as that person...

You and I have quite a few superficial similarities, and I have been in quite a dark place recently (not as dark as in the past, though), but reading your story made me realise how fortunate I am. I don't know why, but reading your posts on this thread reminded me of a song by the band Eels...

Romance is overrated. Banter is where it's at in relationships.

Indeed. Depends what a person considers constitutes a fulfilling life.

I think of course it depends what is meant by a "normal" life. I don't think necessarily that being a blonde blue-eyed supermodel is something to wish to be - if you want to be fawned over by shallow men who never tell you the truth, then yeah, I'm sure it's very helpful, but I don't expect that...

I was thinking earlier about the issues discussed in this thread in relation to the current news story about the murder of Gabby Pelito in America. Obviously it's an appalling tragedy that she died, and you can only feel for her family - but, people die every minute, and I don't think that...

2019, Budapest. When was the last time you listened to a podcast?

I've noticed it too, but I think one of the reasons that some men get frustrated these days (and I include myself in this), is that criticising 'women' has become almost completely taboo in real life, whereas criticising 'men' is practically mandatory. That's not to say that I would agree that...

I think you're making a slight error there, by lumping 'men' into one big group, in the same way that misogynists complain about 'women' as if all women are the same. A site like this, is for lonely people, and I think it's inevitable that a lot of the men here are going to be unhappy about...

I don't know who said it, but there is a quote - "There is no such thing as an ugly woman, only a lazy one". The thing is, as somebody else pointed out, women will find all kinds of bizarre men attractive (serial killers being the obvious example), often it's about how the man feels about...

Every 20 year old boy is an insufferable ******, and it's amazing we aren't all murdered by someone at that age. I always like the Kingsley Amis quote, reflecting on his own libido - "It's like spending 50 years chained to an idiot". At 20, the idiot is completely and totally at the controls.

Yeah, this is me too, I've never had a birthday party and I hope I never do, the idea of being centre of attention like that gives me chills just thinking about it.

I’m sorry you are having a hard time. Yes, we do seem to be in quite similar relationship positions. ‘Compromise’ is not a word my wife understands. As far as she’s concerned, heterosexual relationships exist for females to be indulged, and men should just be grateful if their partner doesn’t...

Which platform is it? Facebook?

This is the second time I have recommended this book in the last few days on this forum, but it is an excellent book - have you read 'Quiet' by Susan Cain? It is a book about introversion, and I think that absolutely everyone should read it. I think if you are an introvert it will speak to you...

People are often most distraught by the loss of pets, I've found. Probably understandable - you love them as much as people. They're more a part of your life than most people.

I'm very sorry to hear this. People deal with loss in different ways. I often think about my mother's death, she died young (suicide) and I found her body, and I organised her funeral, and in all that time and since I have never cried for her. As I get older (soon I'll be older than she ever...

Nor do women.

Deal breaker? I guess if they were xenophobic. Or French.