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Sadly not, at least not without hefty waiting times. On my own money, it's around 50-75 per session at a minimum. Like I said, I'm not dead set against therapy, I've just not seen a convincing argument for it other than "but you'll feel better about it". I would not say this is a localised...

Again, I'm just not seeing how. I felt good in myself for many many years, even day-to-day I can still feel good about myself. That's all fluffy and all, but doesn't really do anything to change the situation.

Sorry, I genuinely didn't see the notification you'd replied! Really sorry to hear about your issues, at least you've taken steps to recognise them, and even at near 60 there's time to turn it around. As for myself, nobody's ever really given me a concise answer as to how therapy would help in...

I feel I should clear something up here; it's not that I feel unattractive, it's that I'm seen as physically unattractive by others. Believe it or not, I think I'm somewhere near 'average', but then when you get to your 30s without anybody being attracted to you, it certainly doesn't sound...

I see, well I genuinely hope I've described what I'm looking for in enough terms. I'm not accusing you specifically, but some people do seem to deal in absolutes; as soon as I mention that I don't want to jump straight into a relationship that will last the rest of my life, people jump to the...

So, there's a lot of assumptions going on, and I suppose that's something of a current problem here, we project ourselves onto other people, and get annoyed when reality doesn't match up. In this thread, I have consistently said that I would like to be found attractive by more people than zero...

I mean, it's literally in the word "bride", they're not called "mail order escorts" for a reason 😂 I still refer to the reasons above, I am not interested in having to import a human being from a third world nation to be with me because nobody else wants me. It would not solve the problems...

So many reasons, I'm just going to riff off the first few that come into my head: 1) I don't want to decide to marry a stranger. 2) I want to be found attractive by someone, not wanted only for a green card. 3) I think going from "never had anyone interested" straight to "married" is a terrible...

Again, I just see that as a distraction rather than a solution. There's no other situation in life where the solution is "just keep going on vacation", as though that's just a sustainable lifestyle. Let's go walk through it: Option A) I save up money to go somewhere exotic for a few weeks, I...

I'm not worried, I make friends very easily. Some of my friends skew older (late 30s early 40s) and went for the whole "2.4 kids and a labrador" and I still see and speak to them regularly, other friends are in their 20s and still in their wild feral years. Between dancing, gym and meetup...

Sure, like I said, I'm a member of several meetup groups, which is great because there's always something happening; nights out, rock climbing, gigs etc. That's all great, and I continue to stress that I do have an active social life and no issue talking to girls. The "carry on doing what...

Sure. Some will say it to me, some say it to others and word gets around, some are more diplomatic; earlier this year I got the “oh you’re such a lovely guy, I’m just not ready to be with anyone right now”, 2 weeks later she was draped over a hot guy. I once had a woman at a party describe me as...

Hey! I do appreciate the message, but I have highlighted that my problem is not a lack of opportunity to meet people, or not being comfortable around women. Where I am, I do go to events and festivals, I’m an accomplished lead at Swing Dancing, which I have done all over the country, and is a...

You do realise that the majority of dating apps adopted the Tinder model, where you are not allowed to message anyone unless you both match up? I cannot, by definition, be sending boring messages if I’m not allowed to message anyone, because nobody says ‘yes’ to a photo of my face 😂

Occasionally, and I mean pretty rarely, I will get a notification that I have a ‘match’, but when I open the app the match is gone. On Bumble the woman has to message first, so I have seen a couple of people match with me, then unmatch shortly after. I guess they swiped by mistake etc. As for...

Nah, calling it “soccer” is just your thing, like “measuring things in stadiums rather than adopting the metric system” 😂

Okay, here we go; 1. Nope, hygene is not an issue. I’m into fragrances (Tom Ford Ombre Leather is pure ***) and will match one for each occasion. This does not affect my online rejection. 2. I would say I’m assertive, but not aggressive. Nine times out of ten, you can get your way by getting...

I can take compliments when I believe them to be sincere, which largely means ‘unprompted’. This does happens very rarely. My friends are lovely, but seeing as they know I’m hitting a rough time, they’ve gone to overcorrect by complimenting every thing I do, which sort of devalues the currency...

Tinder, Bumble & Hinge are the biggest three apps with my generation, the last two in particular as they're designed to be safer places for women (in Bumble the women have to make the first move, for example), so of course I'm trying to be where the women are. I'm up for a hookup, so I'm not...

I believe Match is a monthly paid only service, so I have not. I'm not strictly against paid sites, but with the abundance of free ones with thousands of users, it just seems a little daft. Nope, I'm in a fairly big city (about 150K population), it's a vibrant student town. If I was in the...