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Sounds like you are a misfit,  or an outcast. My theory about this is people like you (and me) never became 'institutionalized' by society, and thus we're largely rejected for it.  What I mean is we never embraced a 'social genre' and used it as our "identity".  Dressing and acting like a...

I was looking through videos about social issues etc on the internet and I came across this guy who said "just because you are nice to people does not mean people have to like you back". I dont agree with that statement at all - because its attempting to coverup the ugly side of many people...

Anyone notice all the advice about how to be sociable usually means being fake,  as in not who you really are? Stuff like learn an instrument.  Really?  That should only be something you do if you truly have a passion for it. Be funny, have a good sense of humor.  Sorry,  but not everybody is...

Black sheep here, too. The 'problem' stems back to being alone and largely rejected by my peers throughout childhood.  Because of that I developed a personality that simply does not 'mesh' with people who have had 'healthy' social relationships throughout their life.  I never learned how to be...

When I think of small talk Im referring to these definitions of it from urban dictionary t A When you come across that person you haven't seen in a while, but you really have no close connection with them anyways. But you know... you don't want to be rude and just walk right past them... so...

The best way I know of to be more comfortable and open around people is to find a job where you have to be around groups of people that you have to interact with constantly.  Like working at a big department store where you have people constantly coming up to you and asking questions.  One of my...

Sometimes I feel like I've been pushed into a corner all my life, cant help but feel I dont deserve what has happened to me, that it is in no way fair. But it got me thinking - this is our challenge in life, our adversity that we have to overcome. Our social issues is like someone having a...

I dont want to be one of those people who tell you 'get more confidence'.  Because I know that doesnt work.  And the people saying it usually havent a clue what we are going through, they've probably been validated by others constantly throughout their life.  I have never had anyone outside my...

At its deepest core, what I feel gives someone value is their dreams. Everyone has this, thus everyone has value by default. What separates a human the most from anything else is the ability to dream about where they want to go, what they want to do, the ability to conjure original thoughts...

You have to find a way to be content and happy to a reasonable degree when you are alone. If you overcome your morbid fear of being alone and not receiving attention then the vulnerability of friendships shouldnt stress you out as much. Dont make the mistake of devaluing who you are, while...

Depends on how I measure up in a relationship I understand that a relationship requires both parties to give of themselves, whereas single life requires, in comparison, no sacrifices In short, I feel a relationship offers much greater happiness potential then single life, but it also requires...

You are in your 30s and single. That says alot right there. Not necessarily negative things either. See many people find someone in their 20s without ever looking. For those of us who made it into our 30s without finding someone it means there is something girls do not like about you thats...

It could take 1 year or 50 years. But what matters is if you are actively pursuing what you want, instead of feeling it is impossible and becoming idle. Your chances of success might be slim if you pursue what you want, but they surely are 0 if you remain idle. Personally I feel being in a...

Hey, you are actually meeting up with girls.  Just a matter of time before you find the right one.  It seems you are panicking, but I feel you should keep calm.  If you become desperate odds are you'll end up 'settling' and become even more miserable in a marriage then you are single.

Everyone needs to calm down, this is no longer productive conversation just chill out

Yes, I was naive.  I'm often told I look for and assume the best of people too much. Lack of female friendship/interaction throughout my life is another big reason for my misconception of women.  In school I actually had a couple girls talk to me, but it was always 'romantic' interest, so...

Its mostly my fault - I had created a delusional fantasy in my head that all women magically were exceptionally caring and compassionate - and seeing that fantasy broken can be crushing.  I think I created this idea that all women were like that because thats who my mother was.  And women tend...

Most importantly I would like to start off by saying yes, 'nice guys' do need to work on kissing too much butt etc etc.  But on the same token 'nice guys' need to understand they shouldnt try and swing the pendulum over to the opposite end of the spectrum and be the 'bad boy' and 'dont give a...

TheSkaFish you sound alot like me.  Your upbringing, social experience, etc etc all very similar to what I have experienced which has led me to become the person I am today. The problem is I feel men and women like us are rare, and thus its hard for us to find eachother.

I joined this forum about 15 months ago when I was at crossroads in my life.  At 30 years old I was trying to enter into a new career.  I had my first crush in almost 10 years and of course it didnt work out.  I had all these strong emotions swell up in me at once,  feelings of failure...