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No fire or acid disfigurements, thanks! The looks thing is really all I can boil it down to, as everything else is pretty much 'in check', and I do get called out for being ugly fairly regularly. Like I said, I'm good at quite a few things, one of which is the dancing. But here's the thing...

The link doesn't work for me, but I'm getting a gist of what was said. For me, I do like to keep a "weak tie" with people. I guess in my situation it's because I'm single, and have nobody in my social circles that would be eligible to date. This means I have to expand my circles, which...

It's not something I particularly am interested in, but the older I get and the more I learn, the more that legalising, or at least de-criminalising most drugs seems like the most sensible thing. I've watched some talks with Johann Hari, one of which I'll link here, which makes a very strong...

I would take umbrage with the use of the word "entitlement" here, if this post was directed at me. At no point have I felt "entitled" to have somebody want me, entitlement is a feeling of just deserving something without having to work for it or put any effort in, and that's not what we're...

Hi Frank! I suppose it's that the feeling from this side is that I've lived long enough "flying solo" as it were, I've done it and really have no aspirations for what I want to do for the next 50 years if that is going to be just more of the same. I definitely agree that everyone should spend a...

Why the hell is any of this in mine? 😂

Like I said, I just want some indication a thing is worthwhile before I commit time and energy to the thing. And even then, what's the acceptable amount of time to say I tried it? A year? Two years? Five?

Well, that's your thing and I'm glad you found it. Good for you, but it's not for me. There really is nothing else that I want, so the idea of never getting it does make me want to end it.

I do not, which is a point of frustration. Took the words out of my mouth, fella. It's not a case of "wanting to", but if I can't get what I want out of life, I don't see what else there is. By which I mean, there really is nothing else that I want, other than to no longer live in a world...

I suppose it's the element of putting my energy into X, whereas I could be putting it into Y. If I heard a convincing argument that it's going to be helpful, it would make me more motivated to jump through the various hoops to do so. Even within this thread, it's difficult to be understood; I...

Like I said, it's not that I'm *against* it as a practice, I'm just unsure of how it's applicable here. I have to agree with my friend when she says that what I'm doing is not working, which is fair, but so far I'm not hearing any convincing argument that therapy is the solution.

I feel like y’all have gone wildly off topic here.

Nope, I genuinely think I'm somewhat in the margin of 'alright', I don't feel I'm unattractive or lack confidence. As to your question, I guess I'm looking for more of a solution, or something pro-active to fix this, I'm just not convinced therapy is it. Like, for someone who's actually normal...

A little louder for the people in the back: I don't "feel" unattractive, I genuinely check the mirror before I leave the house and think it's somewhere in the ballpark of 'ok'. Again, building rapport is not difficult, it's very easy for me to get people to like me, they just don't want to...

The barn and the community sounds pretty good. The arranged marriage and lack of refrigerated beverages.... less so. 😂

Finding anyone who finds me attractive, which is the only thing I want. Ah, sadly I’m not blessed with good beard genes. Facial hair only seems to grow around the mouth and under the chin, nothing on the cheeks. I’d make a great Amish person.

Not as far as I'm aware, no obscene nose or ear hair, no spots or blemishes, nose isn't weird, teeth are all there etc. Ehh, so 12 years with varying photos over the years, I can't really blame "angles" any more 😂 Right, but I know why it's there, I just don't know what I can do about it...

I get that you're trying to bee helpful, but "wearing the wrong colour for your aura" certainly seems like a stretch 😂 I don't know what to tell you, I'm not saying I'm Mr Smooth, but I would say that if I find it very easy to make friends I must have some at least ok levels of charisma. The...

Like I said, it's just not something I can explain. When the Jeremy Kyle show would be on, and you've got a toothless smack addict with three teeth left, and he's got two women arguing over him, it would baffle me that I can't get anything. Objectively I would say I can name men that I'm...

There's no simple answer for this, because there is no consistency to the type of people that comment on me for being ugly. It's usually women, but sometimes also men, it's been women younger than me, older than me, sometimes it's just someone yelling something from a moving car so I don't...