NormalishGayGuy
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After scrolling through this site for a bit, I came to the conclusion that there is not much coverage of LGBT issues, beyond ardent claims of heterosexuality to questioning mothers and the occasional juvenile insult.
Believing that the internet can be a somewhat useful tool to acquire information beyond porn, I'd thought I'd try to start up a thread for my fellow LGBTs as a place where they can rant about their relationship struggles, and ask questions, and where we can encourage and cheer for each other, and of course, offer whatever advice we have, with a grain of margarita salt.
So, I'll start it off then, after that indulgent intro...
It seems to me that it is very hard for gays/bis/tris/and whatever the hell Lady GaGa is to find relationships. The most obvious fact is that numerically, there are less of us than the heteros. Another problem is that for the most part, gays et alia are rather average. We pass each other by every day, and assume that the other is straight.
Then there's the coming out process, which may be easy or hard depending upon your circumstances. It does seem to be getting easier, though. As young gays are coming out at an earlier age than ever before. Some gays try to fake relationships (and sometimes even heterosex!
) before they come out, while others prefer to lay low. For the latter group, when we come out (usually around college age) we're well behind our straight peers when it comes to basic relationship skills, and of course, in sex.
My own story is this: Came out late due to negative environmental influences, and started going to college. I laid low my entire puberty and high school experience, and came out early in my sophomore year. My problem is now basically beginning where other people began at 13,14 or maybe a bit younger. I'm totally behind, and it does chip away at your self-confidence and makes you feel like a weird immature freak. Adding more frustration to this issue is the fact that everyone assumes I'm straight because of my "hetero mannerism". I refuse to act like something I'm not, just to be more obvious so that I can score. Over a year later and I'm still in the same boat. In a way, it's very ironic.
I want to open this thread up to my other card-carrying gays. Feel free to share your own stories/experiences or to comment on mine. Let's build up a resource for people in our boat.
Believing that the internet can be a somewhat useful tool to acquire information beyond porn, I'd thought I'd try to start up a thread for my fellow LGBTs as a place where they can rant about their relationship struggles, and ask questions, and where we can encourage and cheer for each other, and of course, offer whatever advice we have, with a grain of margarita salt.
So, I'll start it off then, after that indulgent intro...
It seems to me that it is very hard for gays/bis/tris/and whatever the hell Lady GaGa is to find relationships. The most obvious fact is that numerically, there are less of us than the heteros. Another problem is that for the most part, gays et alia are rather average. We pass each other by every day, and assume that the other is straight.
Then there's the coming out process, which may be easy or hard depending upon your circumstances. It does seem to be getting easier, though. As young gays are coming out at an earlier age than ever before. Some gays try to fake relationships (and sometimes even heterosex!
) before they come out, while others prefer to lay low. For the latter group, when we come out (usually around college age) we're well behind our straight peers when it comes to basic relationship skills, and of course, in sex.My own story is this: Came out late due to negative environmental influences, and started going to college. I laid low my entire puberty and high school experience, and came out early in my sophomore year. My problem is now basically beginning where other people began at 13,14 or maybe a bit younger. I'm totally behind, and it does chip away at your self-confidence and makes you feel like a weird immature freak. Adding more frustration to this issue is the fact that everyone assumes I'm straight because of my "hetero mannerism". I refuse to act like something I'm not, just to be more obvious so that I can score. Over a year later and I'm still in the same boat. In a way, it's very ironic.
I want to open this thread up to my other card-carrying gays. Feel free to share your own stories/experiences or to comment on mine. Let's build up a resource for people in our boat.
