10 Reasons Not To Marry - Why Men Should Avoid The Trap

[WWu777]

Hi all,
Check out this new essay I wrote covering many disadvantages, consequences and opportunity costs of marriage, which society never tells you about. Hope it gives you another side to think about. Let me know what you all think.

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[Anten]

 

[Lost Drifter]

You would think, after once being married and later divorced myself, that I would be a bitter old cynic when it comes to marriage but I’m not. Marriage is whatever you make of it, sure you will get some marriages that fail but believe it or not there are a lot more that work. I’d like to get married again someday; I still like the idea of it.

I found a lot of those reasons rather insulting and pessimistic for example:

You might regret it?
It will kill your sex life?
No more sexual variety?
No friends of the opposite sex?
It’s artificial and unnatural?
Marriage takes away freedom and liberty?

Yes, you will get partners that are incompatible or have even grown apart, but I'd say all those problems you've listed are more related to the individuals and not necessarily marriage per say.

 

[kamya]

ITS A TARP!!

But seriously, the only reason I wouldn't want to get married in the United States is because of what happens in the case of divorce. Divorce doesn't really exist for men. It only really exists for women. Why? Because a woman's responsibilities in marriage are ended, a man's usually aren't. There are few exceptions but it is rare. Plus, men face a very high likelihood of loosing their relationship with their kids. When you get married you are basically putting your freedom in the hands of your wife. Just hope they do the right thing.

[Edit- I still want to get married some day to the right woman.]

 

[EveWasFramed]

I can't say that I've ever heard anything so utterly off the mark as that.

 

[kamya]

Elaborate?

 

[EveWasFramed]

I don't think I will. It would just make some opinions seem foolish and I'm not looking to get the thread closed.

 

[kamya]

I didn't know that was how threads got closed. I'm all up for some learning though. :/

 

[EveWasFramed]

Threads get closed when they get out of hand, as you well know. Hence me not elaborating any further.

 

[Nolife Princess]

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Your life as you once knew it, will never be the same....

 

[mana]

Well I'm gay so if I will marry anyone it would be a dude lol

 

[blackdot]

I would love to get trapped in marriage.

 

[whispers]

Men trapped ??? Come on, ive had marriage proposals... was always smart enough to refuse. Manipulative men who wanted to trap me in staying with them. Last one was doing everything in his power to get me pregnant... even though he new i didnt want anymore. I know why now, he would have had a hold on me for the rest of my life. Anyway, i wasnt married but was with someone long enough to get half of everything and allemony. I didnt, took what was rightfully mine, and thats it, why would he support me if i'm not with him anymore ??? society needs to review these things, its not like women are not working these days. I know most men get washed out, i think its sad. because it keeps them from making a new life with another women, because they cant make it financialy.

 

[kamya]

Men trapped ??? Come on, ive had marriage proposals... was always smart enough to refuse. Manipulative men who wanted to trap me in staying with them. Last one was doing everything in his power to get me pregnant... even though he new i didnt want anymore. I know why now, he would have had a hold on me for the rest of my life. Anyway, i wasnt married but was with someone long enough to get half of everything and allemony. I didnt, took what was rightfully mine, and thats it, why would he support me if i'm not with him anymore ??? society needs to review these things, its not like women are not working these days. I know most men get washed out, i think its sad. because it keeps them from making a new life with another women, because they cant make it financialy.

That man was lucky that you are such a good person.

 

[Anten]

In a reponce to whispers.

I think it is a woman's way to get revenge by hitting a man where it hurts once they got scorned. I would say sometimes it is justified since a marriage license is just a contract.

 

[annik]

I would love to get trapped in marriage.

Snap.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Oh ****....
It finally hitted me.
No wonder all those chicks asked me out. It was a trapp.

 

[AFrozenSoul]

Damn, I should have looked at this thread sooner. I don't understand why it was removed. I can see that link as helping people be happy they are alone. Isn't that the point of this forum?

 

[Anten]

I think the link may have been one person's jaded view on marriage and not unbiased facts or statistics.

 

[AFrozenSoul]

I think the link may have been one person's jaded view on marriage and not unbiased facts or statistics.

When it comes to stuff like this there is no real unbiased opinion. All of your stats and facts will point in the direction of being for or against. I think it was just because women on this forum do not like articles that go against them.