2 women

[putter65]

I'm 43, never had a girlfriend and all of a sudden I seem to have 2 women interested in me.

I went out on a date with one 3 weeks ago. It went well and she is very nice, I like her. Since then, lots of texts. Not seen her yet but hopefully it will be next Tuesday. She has problems with child care.

This other woman is a co worker. She is a huge flirt but never actually does or says anything. About 6 weeks ago I suggested we go for a meal but she didn't get back to me with her number. So that annoyed me a bit. Once I was going on my date with woman no 1 she gave me her number and has been sending texts. I always reply. I don't mind her but I don't want to go out with her.

Today at work this woman started telling me that woman no 2 had been talking about me in a romantic / suggestive way. She 'talked up' woman no 2 and said we should go out as friends. She knows about my date but said I should see woman no 2 as 'mates'

I don't really want to do this because I don't think you can see two women at once and have one as a girlfriend and one as a friend. Woman no 2 hasn't said anything directly to me yet. What do I do if she does ?

 

[oopsiedoop]

Uh -- what's the problem? You say you don't want to go out with Woman #2

 

[Tiina63]

It sounds as if woman no two is only interested in going out with you because you have started dating woman no one, in other words she doesn't really want a relationship with you herself, but doesn't want someone else to be in a relationship wtih you. If you dropped woman no one, I bet woman no two would no longer be interested. I would keep away from woman two and concentrate on getting to know woman one.

 

[putter65]

Uh -- what's the problem? You say you don't want to go out with Woman #2

I don't.

There isn't a problem really, just find it odd after all these years I get 2 women interested.

But I can't complain can I ?

 

[theSmokingRabbit]

It's entirely possible for you to have women friends.


If you go out as 'mates' don't ever let it progress to more than just a friend you occasionally go out with where other people are invited.



But whatever you decide, don't let anything stop you from going after the one you want. If you're upfront and honest than you're not at fault for any unwanted rejection that they may feel.

 

[Limlim]

Age might have something to do with it? who knows? Take that good fortune you got going on and run with it.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

eerrr....Putter you're getting way a head of yourself, man.

You dont even have one GF. Your having a hard time getting a second date of the 1 chick.
Hell..have you even kissed her or gone down on her yet? I mean on first base.

I wouldnt go around telling people you have a gf,..especailly other women.
Especailly when you actaully dont have one.

mmm..for some people age might be an issue but not in my case.
Like WTF Dude...i thought you had threesomes....
BTW..dont freakout when the women makeout with each other, take turns blowing you,
then kiss you...when you do a double hitter

Just date dude....multy task.

 

[putter65]

eerrr....Putter you're getting way a head of yourself, man.

You dont even have one GF. Your having a hard time getting a second date of the 1 chick.
Hell..have you even kissed her or gone down on her yet? I mean on first base.

I wouldnt go around telling people you have a gf,..especailly other women.
Especailly when you actaully dont have one.

mmm..for some people age might be an issue but not in my case.
Like WTF Dude...i thought you had threesomes....
BTW..dont freakout when the women makeout with each other, take turns blowing you,
then kiss you...when you do a double hitter

Just date dude....multy task.

I've never referred to woman no 1 as my girlfriend. In fact when my Mother asked me how my girlfriend was I said I haven't got one.

It's true I haven't got a second date yet. Her kids and her jobs seem to be the reason. She is saying all the right things; I'm sweet, kind and funny. I suppose if she backs out on Tuesday then I may have to think again. But I'm in a good headspace about it because I'm not getting too excited or upset. I'm just cool. Woman no 2 is just a distraction.

 

[Felix]

eerrr....Putter you're getting way a head of yourself, man.

You dont even have one GF. Your having a hard time getting a second date of the 1 chick.
Hell..have you even kissed her or gone down on her yet? I mean on first base.

I wouldnt go around telling people you have a gf,..especailly other women.
Especailly when you actaully dont have one.

mmm..for some people age might be an issue but not in my case.
Like WTF Dude...i thought you had threesomes....
BTW..dont freakout when the women makeout with each other, take turns blowing you,
then kiss you...when you do a double hitter

Just date dude....multy task.

Agreed.

 

[AFrozenSoul]

I say go some place with popcorn and sit back and watch the fireworks

I don't see the problem. Your co-worker flaked out, her loss.

 

[putter65]

I say go some place with popcorn and sit back and watch the fireworks

I don't see the problem. Your co-worker flaked out, her loss.

Going for a meal tommorrow with the woman I like.

The co worker sent me a text and asked me what I was doing. So I mentioned I was going out for a meal, left out who with. She started fishing for more information so I told her. She replied and said ' don't let her take the piss, your a nice man and your having a better life than me' - I replied saying if she had given me her number when I asked for it we could have gone somewhere. She replied and said 'don't be daft, people are nice at first and then they turn nasty and they use you' - there was more but I didn't reply to it and wasn't that impressed.

 

[Thrasymachus]

Putter, I think you should just return, trade or sell used your smartphone, and get a simple, basic clamshell phone. Then tell all these women you don't do texting, it it takes too long on your clamshell. It seems you cannot interpret what they mean and it is no wonder, especially for the less socially adept, since text misses so much like a sense of volume, emotion and other context normally conveyed by voice. That way maybe you will not always have to ask for interpretations of text messages on this site, like we are psychics or tea leave readers.

 

[putter65]

Putter, I think you should just return, trade or sell used your smartphone, and get a simple, basic clamshell phone. Then tell all these women you don't do texting, it it takes too long on your clamshell. It seems you cannot interpret what they mean and it is no wonder, especially for the less socially adept, since text misses so much like a sense of volume, emotion and other context normally conveyed by voice. That way maybe you will not always have to ask for interpretations of text messages on this site, like we are psychics or tea leave readers.

I don't have a smart phone, don't know what one is. I have a simple £10 phone. I know what she meant, I was just passing the information onto here because a few people have shown interest. Like I've said before don't like that co worker and her reaction to my date (which is completely different to everybody else !) isn't great. While everybody is pleased for me, she is saying 'don't let her take the piss' etc. There is a bitterness to her that I don't like. Maybe I will not answer her texts as much now.

 

[putter65]

Putter, I think you should just return, trade or sell used your smartphone, and get a simple, basic clamshell phone. Then tell all these women you don't do texting, it it takes too long on your clamshell. It seems you cannot interpret what they mean and it is no wonder, especially for the less socially adept, since text misses so much like a sense of volume, emotion and other context normally conveyed by voice. That way maybe you will not always have to ask for interpretations of text messages on this site, like we are psychics or tea leave readers.

I don't have a smart phone, don't know what one is. I have a simple £10 phone. I know what she meant, I was just passing the information onto here because a few people have shown interest. Like I've said before don't like that co worker and her reaction to my date (which is completely different to everybody else !) isn't great. While everybody is pleased for me, she is saying 'don't let her take the piss' etc. There is a bitterness to her that I don't like. Maybe I will not answer her texts as much now.

Turns out the co worker was right !