Ache

[Sassy]

Right now, all i need to know, is does this ache ever go away?

 

[mink]

I think it depends how deep and painful the aching is.

 

[NewBirth]

wish i knew. ask myself the same alot

 

[Blue Sky]

Yes it will go away if you do something about it.

 

[Guest]

I don't think the ache ever goes away. you just learn to live with it over time. till it turns into regret. or remorse. depending on what caused it. but many people have gone on to live full lives. it all depends on how you let that ache affect you. it may not be what you want to hear now. but you will heal in time. I know when some told me that I wanted to slap them! I just did not want to hear that. but as time goes on. I've found it to be true. I'm still a mess. but I can at least function now. almost like a normal human. your just going to have to go through the motions. but my advise to you. if you want to heal faster then people normally do. then don't deny how you feel. it sucks! and your going to feel like your going to lose your mind. but in letting the pain devour you. you take the worst of it head on. and when its done with you. theres not much else the pain can do to you any more. the only thing left for you to do will be to deal with it. and just try to move on. you can't change the past. so theres no point in trying. but what you can do is influence the future. figure out who you want to be. and what you want to do. hopefully you'll be ok

~ T.R.E.N.T

 

[mink]

I think it's more like this. The ache - it never changes. You feel the same pain everytime. But maybe over time, we do tend to get distractions and forget about it once in awhile, that's the only time it'll go away. But by the end of the day, every single day, you'd probably find yourself feeling it again and thinking about it. That's how I've been feeling..so..it's a matter of accepting it as part of our lives I guess if we wanna make it go away. Cos when it's a part of us, we tend to allow other distractions to come in and like I said, that's when it goes away. So maybe it does go away, but it comes back each time and it never changes. That's life, I guess. *shrugs*

 

[mountaingirl]

Sassy, I can assure you the ache will go away. Many things have helped me. I was taught a lot of ambition by my family, and so sometimes have spent literally years just working very hard for some goal. For instance to buy a small plot of land that I wanted to work on and plant trees etc. Also, one of my very worst times when I was in a bad relationship, I went to college. My theory was that my life was not always going to be this bad and by the time it got good I would have a college education. It worked as the lack of life gave me more time to study and graduated with honors. I have interests that I lose myself in. Somebody gave me excellent advice one time. They advised that I needed to be more accepting of my place in life and where I was. They further advised that was where God wanted me to be. It is none of my business if you have spiritual beliefs, but they are wonderful to draw on in times of sadness and sorrow. If you could just fill your life with goals sometimes that helps. Try to treat life as a challenge. Busy busy busy always works for me. Good luck and I do hope things go well for you. Life can change from good to bad in a split second or vice versa.
Bad does not last nor does good.