Almost, but not quite

[Gravity]

So I joined this site a few months ago, and I'm doing generally better - getting past a lot of stress revolving around an ex, dissatisfaction with my job, feeling like I wasn't heading anywhere with my life, problems dating, bad relationships with family, and a dwindling pool of friends. Not everything is perfectly fixed, but I FEEL a lot better 95% of the time.

The other 5% though...sometimes I feel the old depression and anxiety coming back, sometimes at really unfortunate times. Had a great day today, enjoyed a win by a sports team I'm a fan of, and have been talking to a great guy that wants to meet me soon - but for some reason I'm not enjoying myself tonight. I'm not riding the enthusiasm from earlier anymore, and I'm thinking of telling this guy I'm not ready to meet, even though I know it's probably a mistake not to let myself open up to him.

Anyone else have these little "relapses"? How do you deal with them? Am I just being impatient with myself?

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Yeah....I had a little anxity attack early this evening...actually less than an hour ago...agghhhh I dont like that feeling at all...

Today was a good day. Renae called me all day off and on...Nope our lives isnt perfect..but it going in the positive direction. I feel good or ok 90% of the time...

I practice the sedona methdoe...
It say..this will happen time to time..
Sometimes...I can let go of those negative thoughts and feelings easly...
Other times it dosnt....

Thats why the sedona teaches me different technique...
When I cant make the negative feeling go away....I have 2 other options.

1 stop trying to make the feelings go away.. when I fight...it actaully cuase more tensions....Then I guess itll just pass if I dont figure it out..

2. I can dive right into my anxities...
The concept is....Feelings are clouds.
Clouds lack substance...bascailly Ill just go right though it.

Yeah...relapse is part of it..
.Progrsss not perfections..

I feel bette now.
Writing or talking about it helps sometimes too.

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Ill also do deep breathing exercise.
Take a deep breathe..Then Hold it.
Then breath out as like a sigh....
5 reps...will generally get me to relax again....

Ill also do muscle tension and releave tech....Tighten up my muscles and relax my muscles.....

Kind od like streghting in the morning when we first awake..
When we stregth...our muscles tighten up...then we let go and relax...

5 tp 6 reps of this also gets me to relax again..

A lot of methode you can do to relax and be OK and feel good again.

 

[Naleena]

Anyone else have these little "relapses"? How do you deal with them? Am I just being impatient with myself?

Would you believe sleeping it off helps?...lol Distraction is what I use..that and sleeping it off...lol

 

[Vagrant Legacy]

Those small relapses are normal, really Happens to the best (and worst) of us As Naleena said, you can try sleeping them off.. or you can just focus on something that you like doing, or find anything that is just distracting enough to cover the period of time it takes for your "relapse" to go away again.

Or you could just try and see thigns in a relative way - if you're 95% better.. you really don't need to even feel bad for 5%, you obviously don't need to feel bad anymore. If you can follow that line of logic, it's possible to just snap out of those relapses completely.

 

[Gravity]

Thanks for the comments, all.

I have been distracting myself with things, as much as I can - work especially, as it's kind of an intense time there, cleaning tends to help, and sleeping usually (though not always) helps me feel better in the morning.

The problem is, I'm starting to get the feeling that the distracting isn't helping in the long run - I'm getting worn out by the feeling of living my life via distractions and not being able to dip into any real emotional life. I want to try to have a bigger social life (a couple close friends but that's it) and try dating without running from everything that sounds like it might work, rather than the "oh, I'm feeling down again, maybe I should just dust my apartment" approach.

Am I being unrealistic? It's been a long time since I was really what I might call happy so maybe I'm just out of practice - and I almost feel weird complaining about this because it's not like people don't have bigger problems, a lot of people would be happy to deal with the "emotional band-aid" life I'm sure, and more power to them. I just don't feel like things are progressing for me anymore, and being stuck in this "almost but not quite" mode is starting to wear on me.

 

[Sci-Fi]

Don't feel weird about complaining (or asking for advice I'd call it) it's important to you and what is going on in your life right now. Even if people have bigger problems this is yours at the moment.

No you're not being unrealistic, you are being human. It definitely sounds like you are out of practice. If you want a bigger social life then push yourself to get out and do it. The dusting can wait until you come back, it's not going anywhere.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Cleaning house is a positive thing. Our enviorment effects us.
So living in a nice clean place helps us relax better...

Maybe try redecorating it. Thats want i do or did.
The arts or painting in my apt are soothing
and there's not cluther everywhere....

yeah...simply out of practice.
Thats all the 12step program is...it's to get me into a postive peaceful state.
It's a oneday at a time program. It works if i work it.
It's really simple.
Thats why I also set 1/2 hour or an hour in the morning to just chill out or charge myself.
Do step 1, 2, 3....if I awake sometimes with negative thoughts or feelings.
It donst have to go on all day..
Bascailly let go of whatever...or start each new day freash and clean.
A new day...A new beginning...as if I'm starting everything again on a blank sheet of paper.
A clean slate....

As the day gose on..I can simply start my day over any time i want.
A clean slate...Kind of like having a re set button.

At the end of the day..step10, 11, 12 is bascailly like taking
a shower...cleaning myself of mental and emotional baggages that i might had
build up during that day.
If i practice this everyday...it's not a big task.
Once I practice this enough...60-90 days it'll just becomes habits.

As far as meeting women. I apply the same principles.
I took baby steps..Just putting myself out there.
Going to malls, coffee shops or out in public in general.
It felt uncomfortiable at first becuase i was making changes.
But I made a commitment to myself.

Overtime I started meeting more people or women.
Heck I've meet so many people or women...
Freaken some people on this forum just dont like it or think want I've accomplish
is a sinful or whatever the ****.

Yeah...I post pics. write about women and sex.
Thats becuase my life had changed and plenty of women came my way and
I had lot of sex.

All you have to do is click on my first post that I made on this forum.
Where i was at and how far I came.