Hey folks. I just need to vent and tell my recent story. So I meet a girl and its instant chemistry. I mean literaly a date the night after we meet. First date goes great. She even extended it by us going on a walk. The night ends with a kiss. The next day we easily exchange 100 texts a piece. The next day she comes over and hangs out. Nothing sexual. But everything is going great. For about the next week and a half or so we talk non stop. A lot of textinv but actual phone conversation every night. We would talk before going to sleep. A few days ago we start making more plans. And she tells me how much she wants to see me. The next day she doesnt answer my phone call and wont text me back. This was totally unusual. And then I see that her facebook account has been deleted. And red flags went off. That day I find out she has blocked me from facebook and her profile has her listed in a relationship with another guy. At this point im so confused and a little hurt. And the worst thing is she wont even give me an explanation about it. Im still just totally clueless about this. So what do you guys think??
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Andrew said:
Sorry to hear. It sounds rough. Did you know her situation before? You were spending so much time with her up to the point she was in a relationship, that it would seem to me she a)used you as a rebound b)used you to make someone jealous. It's unlikely in the short span she just met the guy and decided to have a relationship with him. More than likely she already knew him, and something was going on. Maybe they just broke up, and got back together, or something of that nature.
Andrew said:
There's single, and then there's "single". You can be single and definitely be in a situation where there is somebody in your heart and on your mind. I was in a situation where I never had anything official with this girl, but I've spent immense amounts of time, and emotionally care for her deeply. She is in my heart and on my mind. But for all of that, I am single.
That girl in specific is part of that new breed of daters as well. Where she can casually have sex with a guy on the first night. Text him constantly, and engage in a series of nights. But the whole time she considers herself single.
Not to say that this is what happened with your exact girl. But it's a possibility. It could also be nothing of the sort. The only REAL way to know what happened is if she, or someone close to her told you. But as you kind of just met her, I don't see that happening. The wise thing would be to move on. But in life the wise thing is also often the hardest. I can only imagine how much it must suck right now. It would be bad if one of my guesses was right, but not knowing is even worse. I hope you can find some peace soon and are able to move on as easily as she did.
Badjedidude
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Realistically:
She was probably already with another guy, and was just playing around with you.
OR:
You didn't move quickly enough for her and she moved on.
OR:
She's horrendously timid and has problems with getting close to people.
OR OR OR
...
My point is... you can drive yourself crazy trying to figure out why it happened.
But ultimately, judging by her behavior, you're probably better off moving on.
...just my two cents.
She was probably already with another guy, and was just playing around with you.
OR:
You didn't move quickly enough for her and she moved on.
OR:
She's horrendously timid and has problems with getting close to people.
OR OR OR
...
My point is... you can drive yourself crazy trying to figure out why it happened.
But ultimately, judging by her behavior, you're probably better off moving on.
...just my two cents.
Triple Bogey
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Andrew said:
sounds really awful, nothing much you can do though. Just move on if you can.
Badjedidude said:
This is what I thought, maybe she was in the process of choosing. Whatever the case it's best if you try and move on like what was suggested, it's clear she doesn't want to communicate. Bitch.
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A girl like that doesn't deserve neither your attention and time nor your emotions, if she continues playing with guys like that will only reveal her true self and she will be ignored by serious guys when she feels it's time to quit fooling around and get a serious man. So, just be glad you avoided a future disaster and feel more sorry than that other guy, whom she will dump when she finds someone better, like she did with you 
Somebody says that they want to see you and the day after, without you doing anything, they delete you from Facebook? Sounds pretty bitchy to me, not anything a decent person would do. People have different values about how to treat others, you don't want to be anywhere in the range of 50 miles with someone with that kind of values, it's a shame considering that you liked her before, but think how lucky it is that you discovered her true colors after some weeks and not after, say, a year. She did you a favor and freed you for the person you are supposed to be with, now go out and meet her please.
Sounds like she played you for whatever reason, maybe she was trying to make another guy jealous and it worked so she got what she wanted. Could be several reasons why. Like others have said, don't beat yourself up over it and move on.
constant stranger
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Sounds to me like she was 'shopping' for a relationship, made her choice and was not authentic enough to disengage with you so that closure could take place.
I don't envy her boyfriend. Say goodbye and keep looking. Better you discover how inconsiderate she is now, before you move in together or have a joint bank account or something.
I don't envy her boyfriend. Say goodbye and keep looking. Better you discover how inconsiderate she is now, before you move in together or have a joint bank account or something.
Batman55 said:
No I don't think this is too far off. If you truly thought you could do better than your current relationship, most people would do it.
However just like most things in life, the things stopping you are laziness, fear, age, etc. Think about working at a crappy job, and thinking you could do better. A lot of people think this, but don't necessarily go out and get the better job.
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Andrew said:
Flipping hell, she sounds like a ****!
