Am I crazy?

[soulsby]

ggjgjghjg

 

[nerdygirl]

... This chick cheats on her boyfriend with you and gets mad at you? Now she has hooked up with one of your best friends? Pft. I think you need to stop and consider that she's a jerk.

 

[soulsby]

vcbcvb

 

[Hoffy]

Sounds like she felt it was a good way to get back at you by hooking up with one of your friends.

 

[soulsby]

ghfgh

 

[DesertWolf]

... This chick cheats on her boyfriend with you and gets mad at you? Now she has hooked up with one of your best friends? Pft. I think you need to stop and consider that she's a jerk.

But she isn't though. She was mad at me for telling her boyfriend and risking ending a two year relationship. She probably i doesn't imagine im even bothered anymore, the problem is i am.

It was her own fault for cheating on her boyfriend. She's refusing to take responsibility and doesn't sympathize with the reasoning behind your confession to her boyfriend. I agree that she does sound like a jerk, or at least the decisions she made are not fair.

P.S: You're not crazy.

 

[passage]

Maybe shes just an attention whore. I'm not sorry, its probably true.You should also know that she isn't that special, there plenty more women out there that are far better than her.

 

[whispers]

OMG you are not crazy. You had true feelings for her, the fact is she doesnt. I mean, she probably cares for you as a very good friend, the kind that you can share everything with... but the love aspect is not there or else shed be with you.
I tell you this because i was in a similar situation, my best friend in the whole world was in love with me and i didnt even know, people said i was using him, but i was just with him because we were so compatible, but when it came to actualy having a serious relationship, he wasnt the one.
Looking back i realise that he was going through torture, seeing me with other guys... always there when i needed him. He was hopefull i would eventualy see him as a boyfriend but i was soo stupid... didnt even realise i was hurting him.
I understand that you are hurting, but i think you should remove yourself from the situation and focus on meeting other girls. Take care

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Love triangle, alcohol, cheating, growninng up in dysfunctional homes....
**** gets pretty complicated dosnt it?

Its a family disease and it gets progressive.
Guilt is a terriable thing.
You might try reading step #9 from the 12 steps program.
It's stated like so for reasons.
Sometimes it's not always cut and dry in complicated toxic situations, to make amends.
Cant recover at the expens of others.

It's not always easy to accept that someone you love cheated on you.
Unfortunatley you cant fix people.....

You feel like **** cuase you still want the girl of course, Its not that complicated.

 

[VanillaCreme]

... This chick cheats on her boyfriend with you and gets mad at you? Now she has hooked up with one of your best friends? Pft. I think you need to stop and consider that she's a jerk.

But she isn't though. She was mad at me for telling her boyfriend and risking ending a two year relationship. She probably i doesn't imagine im even bothered anymore, the problem is i am.

You mean she was mad because she was caught when someone had the sense to tell the truth to the dude? Are you serious, bro? Honestly, if she does it to him, she'll do it to you. Don't allow someone like her to get you down that much. Straighten your life back up. By the sounds of it, be happy that she's off bedding other men besides you. You either keep that drama or drop it like the bad habit it is.

And no, cheating is never good, but at least you had the decency to tell the truth. She had no right to get mad at you. She should be mad at herself for being that way. If she were any type of real friend to you, she would have been right by your side telling her partner what happened.

 

[Poguesy]

She's a *****.

Life's a *****.

 

[TheSolitaryMan]

... This chick cheats on her boyfriend with you and gets mad at you? Now she has hooked up with one of your best friends? Pft. I think you need to stop and consider that she's a jerk.

But she isn't though. She was mad at me for telling her boyfriend and risking ending a two year relationship. She probably i doesn't imagine im even bothered anymore, the problem is i am.

Look at this logically, without your feelings obscuring your reasoning.

It's clear to me that she's a manipulative person, straight away as an outsider that hits me.

If she was doing stuff with you when she had that "two year relationship" she apparently cares so much about, it's obvious that she is not an honest or trustworthy person when it comes to relationships.

What kind of relationship is one where you cheat with someone else? She's deluding herself that she is not to blame for having a crappy relationship with the guy, and the best way to do that is to blame you and make you feel bad.

You did the right thing by telling him.

Anything she did with you is just as much her fault as yours. The fact that she cheated on her guy like that without telling him (and pressured you into a bad situation too) shows immaturity and selfishness on her part.

Additionally, she used you, not just him. To get intimate with you while not breaking her old "relationship" off is to imply that you're not worth her full time or attention.

The fact that she's got with your friend so hastily just shows to me that she is, again, highly immature and uncaring.

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I'm sorry that she's made you feel so bad. However, I don't think it's worth expending so much emotion on her.

Just think about her poor "boyfriend": she essentially did to him what she did to you, only worse, and for two years!

So in all honesty, I think you're lucky that she's decided to go and mess with someone else's feelings. She isn't worth your time at all

 

[Lonesome Crow]

she nevered had sex with him...so how dose that constitute cheating?
Souleby crossed some boundaries. Violated her trust.
Her relationship with her BF was hers...

Beats the hell out of me what he means by the other stuff.
Maybe she just hugged or flirted with him.
I had female friends that I used to wrestle with when I had a GF.

Same old crap friendzone dudes trying steal other peoples GF.

She's not hear to defend herself....Onesided stories suck ***.

In any case SOBER UP. Get help.
Growing up with alcholic parents life gets completed and twisted.
Being an ACOA...there's alot things going against you.
1, You'll wake up oneday and tell yourself...****, im just like my parents and I hated those ********.
2, You're also co dependent

 

[soulsby]

dfdsfs

 

[Lonesome Crow]

she nevered had sex with him...so how dose that constitute cheating?
Souleby crossed some boundaries. Violated her trust.
Her relationship with her BF was hers...

Beats the hell out of me what he means by the other stuff.
Maybe she just hugged or flirted with him.
I had female friends that I used to wrestle with when I had a GF.

Same old crap friendzone dudes trying steal other peoples GF.

She's not hear to defend herself....Onesided stories sucke ***.

I don't mean to be rude but i'm going to be. Your either out of your depth or intellectually unable to understand this story. I at no point violated her trust. It wasn't just hugging and flirting, I tried to be delicate before but that obviously isn't working for you. THINK LOWER AND MORE FUN. Foreplay stuff... everything other then penetrative sex. Do you do that with your friends????? cause if so maybe i was friend zoned. But as stated i never tried to steal her.

YOUR SIDE OF THE STORY....

DID SHE HAVE SEX WITH YOU?

EVIDENTLY YOU WERNT THINKING ABOUT HER BF.
You're such a saint.


Look on the bright side. Dependening where you live.
There's plenty of single chicks trying to sober up.
Stories like your's are dime a dozen.
So, I'm not going to tell you my story about my mother fucken friend and that one girl.

Sober up....dont dig a deeper hole.
It's a bottomless pit...go as deep as you wanna go.
Make this your bottom.
You cant save her or fix her.
Save yourself.

 

[soulsby]

fgdfgd

 

[Lonesome Crow]

well, sorry dont mean ****.
Drunk tells people they hurted " sorry " millions of times.

Yes, you told her BF so they would break up...that would be your motive.
Yes, it blew up in your face.
Yes, she's seeing other guys.

I seriously doupt you would have any complaints if she's ******* the living ****
out of you right now.
It would be really convient for you to overlook her flaws of cheating on her BF.
You'll be such a forgiving and unbderstanding person.

Drunks dont take rejections too well.
It's all about you....

 

[TheSolitaryMan]

Yeah, LC, that hostility isn't really helping. I can't see what the OP has done to deserve some sort of intense grilling over this :\

There's a lot more to it all than just sex. Having sex doesn't immediately mean things are great for everyone :s

Soulsby, all I can really recommend is that you try to get over this manipulative girl and next time don't go quite so far without being in a solid relationship.

This is the very reason I'm hanging back on any kind of physical stuff until I get a proper, dedicated relationship with someone: it's all too easy for someone to take what they want physically and then disappear if they're not committed to you.

That leaves you with a lot of emotional pain and open to being "used" by people like that on a regular basis.

By contrast, if there's no crap going on in the background with other guys or whatever you know:

A: She likes you for you.
B: She's honest and trustworthy.
C: You need not be guilty about getting intimate.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

Lonesome Crow, you are the only one defending the girl. Everyone else here has recognized that she cheated on her boyfriend with the OP, which makes her a jerk.

 

[Sci-Fi]

There's the old saying "it takes two" she seemed very willing to mess around with you. Whether or not you two had physical penetrative sex doesn't matter, cause she obviously had no respect for her relationship with her boyfriend if she was doing things with you. Many people believe making out with another person is cheating, on some level it is. You are in a relationship with a person you should be going around swapping spit with other people or other bodily fluids. You both messed up and suffered the consequences. Sounds like she still doesn't want to accept what she did was wrong, so forget about her and move on.

You lost a very close friendship that went a bit too far beyond just that. Maybe one day she'll realize that she is acting like a child. You are man enough to admit that you are no saint in this, that you know what you did was wrong and you tried to do the right thing, even if that meant losing a friend. Sometimes those are the hard choices we have to make in life. Do not let this keep getting you down, what's done is done, let it be now.