Trent said:
one may not be the foremost authority on relationships (or the opposite gender in any context)...
if one has never:
- had a girlfriend
- had sex
- had an actual date
- had enough experience of any kind to speak in terms outside of theory
Given our earlier disagreement and my recent post remarking upon my lack of relationship experience, I'm assuming this describes your feelings towards
my opinions and advice as well as others?
In which case: first, I've had chances to get physically intimate with girls quite a few times. Each time I didn't feel comfortable with the circumstances, so I didn't.
I'm also waiting until I have a decent relationship before I have sex, I don't feel right with the idea of casual intimacy. Quite why you feel whether someone is a virgin or not matters when it comes to their description of non-sexual relationships (such as friendship) I don't know, but that's your opinion I guess.
Secondly: I've spent the last 2 years helping to look after my sick grandfather. I've had essentially no social life outside of my time spent at University, I've gone clubbing only once in my life and attended 2 parties, that's about it.
While other 20-somethings are probably thinking about dating or drinking, I'm usually worrying about whether my grandfather's latest infection is going to be lethal or not. Does that mean I'm worse at dating than anyone else? Or worse at giving advice?
Thirdly: I dance with girls each week when I have a day off from everything. It's a great tension release for me.
I've had a lot of "girl friends" in my life, if not girlfriends. Some of these have found me attractive, some have not. However, I get on well with most girls and if I wasn't cripplingly shy when it comes to asking them out (and lacking in my social time) I'd likely have a lady in my life by now.
So...yeah. That's all I'm going to type, it's getting long anyway.
blackdot said:
one may not be the foremost authority on someone else
if one has never:
- met that person
- had an actual conversation with that person
- been that person
Exactly my thoughts. What gives one person the right to pass judgement on another unless there's some dire reason to do so? Or discredit their opinions?
