Betrayed?

[PrinceCharming]

Hey, my first post here.

I am going to make it short for a bit, since I am about to hit the bed. I'll come back later but right now I really need to get this off my chest:

On Friday, my so-called "friend" discovered some mistake that I made at work (something that I wasn't even aware of) and practically embarrassed me in front of 2 of my colleagues by making fun of me. She gave them my name, right when I was there, looking at her face, and made fun of me. I looked like an idiot. I felt betrayed. And I like(d) her a lot. I thought we were friends.

Then after a couple of minutes she went out for a cigarette and told me that she was only joking, fooling around, and that I shouldn't be upset. I couldn't say anything at that time, but I have been thinking about this today and...

WHAT THE fresia? Seriously, you just made me look like a complete idiot, and I H-A-T-E THAT. She knows I hate looking like a dumbass and I told her that 1232140249184 times.

Am I being too sensitive? I always try to treat people nicely, and I almost always get messed. For fresia's sake, she could have simply said "Hey guys, guess what? I came across something today by chance" and warn them not to do what I did. WITHOUT GIVING MY NAME AND POINTING ME OUT. I would have never ever given her name to anyone if something bad happened to her, unless I really really had to.

Is she so perfect? So perfect that she thinks she does everything right? Am I not allowed to make a mistake?

fresia HER. The moment I catch her do something wrong, God help her.

I hate my job. I hate going to that place with no motivation whatsoever. I am planning on talking to her first thing in the morning on Monday; I have been thinking about this the whole weekend. So annoying. So ******* annoying.

Does a workplace have to be like this? Do we really fresia each other over for money? Am I not supposed to have a real friend there?

Cihan from Istanbul, Turkey

 

[LoneKiller]

Hey, my first post here.

I am going to make it short for a bit, since I am about to hit the bed. I'll come back later but right now I really need to get this off my chest:

On Friday, my so-called "friend" discovered some mistake that I made at work (something that I wasn't even aware of) and practically embarrassed me in front of 2 of my colleagues by making fun of me. She gave them my name, right when I was there, looking at her face, and made fun of me. I looked like an idiot. I felt betrayed. And I like(d) her a lot. I thought we were friends.

Then after a couple of minutes she went out for a cigarette and told me that she was only joking, fooling around, and that I shouldn't be upset. I couldn't say anything at that time, but I have been thinking about this today and...

WHAT THE fresia? Seriously, you just made me look like a complete idiot, and I H-A-T-E THAT. She knows I hate looking like a dumbass and I told her that 1232140249184 times.

Am I being too sensitive? I always try to treat people nicely, and I almost always get messed. For fresia's sake, she could have simply said "Hey guys, guess what? I came across something today by chance" and warn them not to do what I did. WITHOUT GIVING MY NAME AND POINTING ME OUT. I would have never ever given her name to anyone if something bad happened to her, unless I really really had to.

Is she so perfect? So perfect that she thinks she does everything right? Am I not allowed to make a mistake?

fresia HER. The moment I catch her do something wrong, God help her.

I hate my job. I hate going to that place with no motivation whatsoever. I am planning on talking to her first thing in the morning on Monday; I have been thinking about this the whole weekend. So annoying. So ******* annoying.

Does a workplace have to be like this? Do we really fresia each other over for money? Am I not supposed to have a real friend there?

Cihan from Istanbul, Turkey

Welcome to 2011! This entire world is so messed that nobody knows what the Hell is going on. As for her, it's one thing for her to razz
you, it's quite another to purposely embarrass you while others are there.

I know that you are drooling at the thought of sweet revenge, but be very careful. Revenge can sometimes backfire horribly.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

fresia it....laugh at yourself everyonce in a while.
Everyone make mistakes. Big mistakes little mistake.
She could of handle it differently.
Is she your supervisor?. If she's not...fresia that *****.

I used to supervise or manage people.
I rather have poeple tell me about mistakes instead of not telling me.
At least we can make corrections or adjustments in a timely manner or not
let it take a domino effect and be really hard to correct months on down the line.
Plus it saves money and man power.

honeysuckle...my boss used to check my work over and over again for mistakes.
Not to fucken redicue me...to makesure we catch mistakes.
Heck sometimes I'll even inform him his fresia up...He's human too. He's not perfect.
Hell sometimes he'll even make me go over honeysuckle again and again for days.
fresia...even after he and I went over that honeysuckle....our clients catch fucken mistakes.lmao

and yeah...My clients makes crap load of mistakes too. Engineering honeysuckle even.
I simply just inform them of the mistake, They're happy....
Becuase if the honeysuckle gose into production all messed up...we're all fucken screwed.

And yes...sometime even products get put into production with fucken mistakes
or things needs to get upgrade...its a pain in the ass...but we all work together
to make corrections...Attitude.

Thats why I manage honeysuckle...cuase things are always ******* up or dont always run
smoothly. Making my workers feel like honeysuckle is bad for morals, lower quailty and is dangerous.
Bad for business....

mmmmm than aGAIN she might just have the hawts for ya...women are crazy...
You know...That girl in the sand box that use to throw sand on your hotwheels and giggle.
Then the next you know...she's holding your fucken hands in class.hahahahaaa
Think of it as the adult version..
Like I say..fresia thaT *****.lmao

 

[TheSolitaryMan]

You know, I saw a very interesting thing in a Horizon documentary on morality recently.

Apparently in a business setting, psychopathic people are 4 times more prolific than they normally are.

These are people who have absolutely no empathy for others, but despite this (and because of it) they are excellent at conveying "charisma" and making new bonds because they can manipulate others without feeling any guilt.

Similarly, they feel no fear when engaging with an audience, because they can't grasp what the audience is feeling. This gives an illusion of confidence.

I'm not saying your "friend" is a psychopath, my point is more to do with the eye-opener that documentary provided to me.

Is she being straight with you? Does she really value you as a person, or is she just nice to you in private but using you to "score points" with colleagues?

What she did was pretty nasty in my opinion.

 

[Ian Haines]

Hi...

She stepped down hard on your self-image (and sensitivities) in order to reach social approval heights that she considered unreachable without doing so.

That's a disgusting way to behave - especially considering she knew about your feelings and went ahead, anyway.

Back in my teens, I casually walked into my best friend's shop just in time to hear my most recent girlfriend (who worked for him) mocking the way in which I kiss. They were in a large changing booth area and I could see them in the upright mirror, in there. They had no idea I had walked in.

My best friend was laughing heartily away and encouraging her to tell more. She willingly obliged! A third person, his girlfriend (with whom I was very much in love) also joined in the merriment and laughter and questioning.

They didn't realise that...there would, from that moment on, be NOTHING ON THIS EARTH that they could ever do, or say, that would take away the pain and humiliation caused, that day. Some lines are meant to be never crossed and, once those lines are crossed, the insensitive rats who hurt us that way can never make good!

Ian.

 

[floffyschneeman]

Some people are just plain insensitive. I admit of being overly sensitive sometimes, but I also make extra effort to be sensitive to others, even as it turns out not needed by them. It's hard to be in a situation where you have to deal with people who continually bash each other for maybe, the sake of competition and getting ahead. It's silly.

Avoid people who can't even let go of a joke for the sake of his/her friend's feelings. If you don't like your job and the people in it, look for another. We only get very few shots in our lives. One short phase we go through can make us a very bitter and negative person.

 

[PrinceCharming]

Hey, thanks for all the replies. Feeling better now.

I sent her a message via Facebook (more on my attemps at being a more social person later). I couldn't wait any longer and told her how she made me feel, and how I hated it.

She wrote something very short like, "I don't know what to say. What can I say? "

... anyway, I won't be trying to take revenge or anything. That's not me, I guess. I have never been a vindictive person. Or maybe I should have been.

 

[PrinceCharming]

I could have worded my first post better, but it was almost 2 am and I was sleepy, tired and angry. I am sorry and thanks again for the replies. Much appreciated.

I have been following this forum for the past few weeks and wanted to contribute, maybe just for the sake of venting.

 

[HappyYogi]

It's hard to say what her motivation was. Did she really think it was just a joke and funny? Was she just clueless? Or was it a passive aggressive way (it was just a joke!) to uplift herself at your expense.

I personally don't like her reply to her. She is acting confused and won't cop to how it made you feel. That is not fair considering you were the one who was hurt/humiliated.

I've learned a few things in life. Some will say they are your friend but friends don't say rude things, don't embarrass you (at least not knowingly) and they care about your feelings. True friends, people on your side, will care about your feelings and address them if necessary.

Only you can decide is she is fake or real. Her response to me was weak and you deserved more. In time you should know the truth.

 

[Limlim]

Recently when I was at work, buddy was taking a long time in the bathroom and I was waiting on him so we could go and do a supply run. Eventually I go into the mens room to ask whats up, and he tells me in the stall that he has to go home because he accidentally honeysuckle his pants! After we laugh about it, he requests that I don't tell anyone because he doesn't want to do the walk of shame. So I'm like "I promise I wont tell anyone."

Immediately I run out of the room yelling out "Ahahahaha! Buddy just honeysuckle his PANTS!!!" and alert the entire building.

yeah.

 

[Doubt The Rabbit]

Recently when I was at work, buddy was taking a long time in the bathroom and I was waiting on him so we could go and do a supply run. Eventually I go into the mens room to ask whats up, and he tells me in the stall that he has to go home because he accidentally honeysuckle his pants! After we laugh about it, he requests that I don't tell anyone because he doesn't want to do the walk of shame. So I'm like "I promise I wont tell anyone."

Immediately I run out of the room yelling out "Ahahahaha! Buddy just honeysuckle his PANTS!!!" and alert the entire building.

yeah.

At this rate you're never gonna get laid, bro. -.-

 

[Limlim]

It's cool, I don't really go for dudes anyway.

 

[Thrasymachus]

1. What modern people call their friends are not really people you can count on for support. They are people who use you for entertainment and so they won't be totally isolated in a society that pretends you only need money. Likely you do the same with the them.

2. Sometimes another person is mostly nice, civil and then other moments seemingly out of character they lash out against you. This is often because their subconscious takes control with its negative programming. I am not saying that is the case here.

Since other people were around they probably wanted to put themselves over by putting you down. Personally I rib the people I know often, but I have limits most the time, which I think are safe. My mom, the few times I or my brother have friends over lately decides to threaten to kick us out the house to humiliate us infront of them.

 

[Badjedidude]

Immediately I run out of the room yelling out "Ahahahaha! Buddy just honeysuckle his PANTS!!!" and alert the entire building.

I am now gay for you, man.

That's just too ******* funny. You did the right thing. XD