big brother, big sister

[isthatso]

Do you ever find yourself in relationships where the other person starts giving you patronising advice as if you are an ignorant child and they are all knowing and sage like?

maybe my boundaries are not clear but people seem to feel very comfortable explaining exactly "what's wrong with you isthatso is..."..."what your problem is ...." "what you need to do is"...
I didn't ask for advice either.

There are lots of big brothers and sisters in the world who thrive on that role. that's my conclusion.

 

[ThisSideOfTheRainbow]

There's a very simple solution for this mate.

Next time they do this, say to them, "So, how does it feel?"

They will say, "How does what feel?'

You say, "To be right. There's nothing as exhilarating as pointing out the shortcomings of others."

 

[Tiina63]

Yes, this often happens to me. I must try the advice offered above next time it happens.

 

[isthatso]

Yes, this often happens to me. I must try the advice offered above next time it happens.

I'll defintely try it.

 

[bulmabriefs144]

There's a very simple solution for this mate.

Next time they do this, say to them, "So, how does it feel?"

They will say, "How does what feel?'

You say, "To be right. There's nothing as exhilarating as pointing out the shortcomings of others."

No, no. "It must be great."

""What?"

"To be perfect. To have all the friends you want, the job you like, and especially nobody needing to give you advice."

Don't get angry when you say this, say it perfectly deadpan.