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i kept getting crying spells. i cried twice today at work. not out loud crying but when i cried was alone and thinking. .its more like weeping. whenever i get them im always alone and thinking about bad things. lately ive been getting crying spells. are crying spells good for you or bad?
 
Well I personally think that they are usually good for you. They are a release of pent up stress and tension. However, crying in the day is usually a sign of depression. Do you currently have a therapist and/or take meds? I would consider both to help alleviate some of the symptoms of depression.
 
That happens to me alot. I usually cry when I get mad or annoyed at something. I'll cry when I feel really lonely and I am pissed off at the world for not caring about me, or I even cry when I get frustrated about schoolwork or the printer not working the day before a huge project is due. I guess they can be good in a way since I can let my anger out, but my crying shows my weakness and makes others think I'm really weird...
 
I used to cry pretty regularly about 2-3 times a week- big bouts of sobbing that left me drained but feeling better afterwards. Lately I'm crying several times a day, every single day for the past 3 months or so. I usually shed a few tears once or twice during the day, but it gets really bad at night. That's when I really can't stop.

I think some crying is normal and healthy, but for those of us who can't seem to make it through a day without doing so or can't stop, it probably isn't that good. When I cry now, it don't feel better afterwards, I just feel sad still.
 
Elaeagnus said:
I used to cry pretty regularly about 2-3 times a week- big bouts of sobbing that left me drained but feeling better afterwards. Lately I'm crying several times a day, every single day for the past 3 months or so. I usually shed a few tears once or twice during the day, but it gets really bad at night. That's when I really can't stop.

I think some crying is normal and healthy, but for those of us who can't seem to make it through a day without doing so or can't stop, it probably isn't that good. When I cry now, it don't feel better afterwards, I just feel sad still.

omygosh !!!
you could be me its exactly whats been going on started with such huge bouts of sobing i would actually pass out somehwere thru it now i cry several times a day ,if i see a place anything that triggers memories
or feelings.
i still get a hopeless "why cant i just die now???" going on but its more like every 10days or so now with alot of lil ones in between maybe its healing maybe its getting worse after 3 mothes i would have thought it would stop too,i would have thoughg i would love less and yet i dont ,i do feel intense anger tho that i ever did before ,now sometimes i feel like i want to hit him,that wasent there before again is it good or bad i dont know maybe the anger is good that i feel to want to hit back and hurt him too but maybe its bad that am feeling viloent also.since that isnt how i am
anything can be taken as good or bad i guess what defines it in the end is does it hurt you or someone else or not? you have to wait and see mostly
 
I used to cry every day.. several times... now just 3-4 times a week... I'm becoming comfortably numb. :)
 
It's not unhealthy to cry, but just like alcohol and drugs if that's what you fall back on without getting back up all your tears are for nothing because you're not gonna get better.

If you cry several times a day take it step by step, try only crying once a day at first and after you let all your tears out think of something visually pleasing......taking a walk on the beach at sunset without shoes, laying on grass looking up at the stars at night.......There's so much beauty and happiness we let slip past us each day because we're all busy trying to look good, make money, be the most popular this and that but you gotta understand these people are just as lonely as you, they might not be abusing any drugs or anything but sex, work, popularity, and education are also things people try to fill up their empty gap with.

But you know what? All those things are artificial, this world revolving around stars and other planets, the abundant life this planet hosts, people who would love to be your friend, THAT's real.


Enough tears have been shed.
 
Hi brightstar, thank you for those thoughts. I was feeling depressed and angry today and your words certainly brought some cheer! :)
 
Just take it step by step, it's like trying to work out one day and expect to be schwarzenegger the next if you aim for dealing with loneliness all at once.

You gotta get back into flexing those positive thought muscles day by day and before you know it you'll take down bad feelings and thoughts with something positive instead of something artificial like most people prefer.
 
I cried a few days ago it was my estranged fathers bithday on the 16 th of June and I just lost it. The thought of him being happy with his new family and forgeting and having no use for me sent me over the edge. No wonder I feel worthless. I am wothless to him. But by feeling this way I'm not hurting him, only hurting myself. So whats the use.
 
Used to have em alot.

Thats all part and parcel of the daily struggle of depression.

But now, even if I force myself to cry, I just dont. Even if i feel "sad" and wanted to cry, I just dont. As if my crying mechanism has been disabled.

lol I guess thats what I prayed to God for. I asked him to make me strong so that I will no longer cry.

I got what I asked for. lol
 
After years of going through things that were really hard to deal with, and surviving them and becoming stronger for it, my emotions have been stunted.

I hardly ever cry. I wish I could cry to vent the lonliness, pain and difficulties I am having with my life now...also, I don't laugh much. It seems by blocking my emotions in the past, I have blocked both good and bad feelings and am just kind of numb.

I think it would be healthy for me to cry and get it all out, but all I do is shed a couple of tears maybe twice during a YEAR!
 
I call crying a "retro-appetite"; something inside that must come out, similar to anger, laughter, creativity, etc.. You may feel that the improvement in your mood has a time lag of between 50 and 180 minutes. Some folk only notice the improvements brought on by crying over a day or so after they've cried.

Sometimes, you may notice improvements in ordinarily unconnected things such as your ability to think clearly, concentrate more closely, write stories or poetry, draw, sketch, paint, and so on.

It's also important for tranquilliser takers (for example) to remember that any strong dose of a tranquilliser will cause "odd" thinking and definitely causes a weepy breed of depression that comes and goes in the guise of 'cyclothymia', or mood-swing disorder. Even some painkillers can do this, also.

Crying is always better out than in.

For those who experience difficulty in starting up their crying, well...you may be surprised to know that, often, you can very easily move from laughter to crying. The transition is extremely fast, once you master this. If you are, in some way, able to summon laughter, you will probably find that you can slide right into healthy crying from that...it's worth a try.

I use movies to help me to cry and some of those movie scenes are very capable of reducing me to a blubbering wreck, every time I watch them.

In the face of maverick unhappiness, it pays to box clever and stay clever!
 

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