do you think peoples addiction to ****/*** has something to do with lack of love in our society????
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solonely20
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I think **** is a desire for intimacy. Older I've gotten and the lonelier I've gotten I've watched it less and less. I could watch it for hours when I was younger but now after 20 mins I've done what I needed to do and I'm done .
I don't think it's a lack of love..I think there is always love out there you've just gotta find it.
I don't think it's a lack of love..I think there is always love out there you've just gotta find it.
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Sexual gratification has been compared to cocaine. It stimulates endorphins in the brain and can overcome depression and stress, albeit for limited duration. *** is a drug. Most people quit an addiction by distancing themselves from the substance they abuse. Not so with ***. It is always in your pocket. All that is needed is a quiet place and a bit of imagination.
As for ****, its limited entertainment value leaves its only purpose to be for sexual stimulation. It relieves the participant of effort of imagination. Lazy ***. Easy ***. Or just rapid ***. It's a need to abuse the drug.
There is *** with someone you love. Its aspiration is for sharing yourself with a partner. *** without love, partner(s) or not, is about self medication; fixing what's broke. That can be loneliness, lack of love (lonely doesn't need to be about love), despair, or even self-loathing.
Someone that indulges in ****ography has issues unresolved. Someone that quits **** has come to terms with issues that drove them there. That doesn't mean no more masturbation. *** is a healthy solution to help us cope with day to day stresses. It's better with a friend, but if it feels good do it.
It's not about ****. **** is a tool. It's about ***, which is about the drug. It's about putting a bandaid on what's broke.
As for ****, its limited entertainment value leaves its only purpose to be for sexual stimulation. It relieves the participant of effort of imagination. Lazy ***. Easy ***. Or just rapid ***. It's a need to abuse the drug.
There is *** with someone you love. Its aspiration is for sharing yourself with a partner. *** without love, partner(s) or not, is about self medication; fixing what's broke. That can be loneliness, lack of love (lonely doesn't need to be about love), despair, or even self-loathing.
Someone that indulges in ****ography has issues unresolved. Someone that quits **** has come to terms with issues that drove them there. That doesn't mean no more masturbation. *** is a healthy solution to help us cope with day to day stresses. It's better with a friend, but if it feels good do it.
It's not about ****. **** is a tool. It's about ***, which is about the drug. It's about putting a bandaid on what's broke.
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I think that ****, like any other medium of entertainment is like a boat in water: Yes, it can float in it, but it can also sink in it.
You certainly cant deny that there is a negative side to **** in terms of addiction and skewing peoples views on physical intimacy. But you also cant ignore that just like any other tool, people can use it responsibly as well. Sometimes people in loving and committed relationships and marriages can use it as a marital aid. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that when you have to consenting adults.
I always felt like social media and endless means to connect/technology and communicate itself is what makes society so loveless. Social media was a huge game changer. It made everyday Tom and Mary feel like they have a voice- and even worse than that, it made them feel like their voice matters. Dont mean for that to sound so harsh- but what I´m referring to is the sense of power it gives people with skewed senses of life. Everyone feels important. They aren´t. But the connection to the world will certain allow people to use their anonymity to feel invincible (and treat people as such). The web and over way to communicate instantaneously all over the world with a few keystrokes has turned the world into what amounts to a universal bathroom wall where anyone can scribble quite literally anything they want at any time. That stuff has rippling effects. I feel.
You certainly cant deny that there is a negative side to **** in terms of addiction and skewing peoples views on physical intimacy. But you also cant ignore that just like any other tool, people can use it responsibly as well. Sometimes people in loving and committed relationships and marriages can use it as a marital aid. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that when you have to consenting adults.
I always felt like social media and endless means to connect/technology and communicate itself is what makes society so loveless. Social media was a huge game changer. It made everyday Tom and Mary feel like they have a voice- and even worse than that, it made them feel like their voice matters. Dont mean for that to sound so harsh- but what I´m referring to is the sense of power it gives people with skewed senses of life. Everyone feels important. They aren´t. But the connection to the world will certain allow people to use their anonymity to feel invincible (and treat people as such). The web and over way to communicate instantaneously all over the world with a few keystrokes has turned the world into what amounts to a universal bathroom wall where anyone can scribble quite literally anything they want at any time. That stuff has rippling effects. I feel.
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Kind of, but also not really. **** exists to present a fantasy to people, usually to a very large audience, which is why there is so much money in the taboo industry despite the contrary nature of social stigmatization.
What I purpose instead is that love itself as we know it does not actually exist.
Instead, it is a feeling that is the result of neuroscience and endocrinology in the brain.
Or to put it simply: You're not in love, you're just high on your own supply and you don't even know it.
I DO however agree that these fantasies create unrealistic expectations in the minds of people who cannot separate what they see from what they want to see, and that is why and how you get unrealistic expectations.
If you actually take the time to dissect the data that even amateur **** stars are setting up as their "brand" and "market" you'll eventually catch on that a lot of it is staged fantasies, dumbed down to amateur budget quality to make it seem and feel more realistic, but yet it's still at its core a fake/act/fantasy. --And it is that way, because it is a business, that is the marketing and sales pitch.
When the human mind is stimulated by sexual arousal, in a way it's sort of in sensory overload. --You're not thinking about the detail work like the production costs, the actors and actresses external lives away from their business, why there are various scene cuts instead of it being more like a long-form live stream, and the lighting and effects. Instead, you're in sensory overload. You don't even notice the scene cuts and so whereas the scene cuts exist because the actors and actresses needed a physical break, what you notice instead is an hour or two of rough, flawless ***. --Which is not how that actually works at all for the average person.
Yes, that is achievable, yes you can train and teach and build your body to be able to do things like that, but the reality of the matter is that you are unable to separate the script and fantasy from reality when you're sexually aroused, and that is true for both men and women alike.
I think that **** and *** addiction exists because of smaller, underlying problems like these combined with repressed experiences or inexperience. Sexual repression causes sexual buildup and makes actions based upon that tension more likely. Sexual inexperience leads to unrealistic expectations, and the fact of the matter is that most people, men and women alike, have unrealistic expectations because they aren't having enough *** to be able to differentiate the difference between what realistic expectations should be, and what expectations are purely a fantasy, While it is true that those fantasies can be made into realities with the right people, the whole thing has to be prearranged,
What's really rocking the boat, in all actuality, is the lack of intellectual correlation of the general public to be able to dissect the media that they consume so often and so easily. --And that is an extremely dangerous state of affairs for all of society, even outside of that of the adult industry. It's like giving a science fiction book to a kid who loves science: If he or she is a kid, they're not going to be able to differentiate between science fiction and science reality if the fictional material is written with the base components of reality.
What I purpose instead is that love itself as we know it does not actually exist.
Instead, it is a feeling that is the result of neuroscience and endocrinology in the brain.
Or to put it simply: You're not in love, you're just high on your own supply and you don't even know it.
I DO however agree that these fantasies create unrealistic expectations in the minds of people who cannot separate what they see from what they want to see, and that is why and how you get unrealistic expectations.
If you actually take the time to dissect the data that even amateur **** stars are setting up as their "brand" and "market" you'll eventually catch on that a lot of it is staged fantasies, dumbed down to amateur budget quality to make it seem and feel more realistic, but yet it's still at its core a fake/act/fantasy. --And it is that way, because it is a business, that is the marketing and sales pitch.
When the human mind is stimulated by sexual arousal, in a way it's sort of in sensory overload. --You're not thinking about the detail work like the production costs, the actors and actresses external lives away from their business, why there are various scene cuts instead of it being more like a long-form live stream, and the lighting and effects. Instead, you're in sensory overload. You don't even notice the scene cuts and so whereas the scene cuts exist because the actors and actresses needed a physical break, what you notice instead is an hour or two of rough, flawless ***. --Which is not how that actually works at all for the average person.
Yes, that is achievable, yes you can train and teach and build your body to be able to do things like that, but the reality of the matter is that you are unable to separate the script and fantasy from reality when you're sexually aroused, and that is true for both men and women alike.
I think that **** and *** addiction exists because of smaller, underlying problems like these combined with repressed experiences or inexperience. Sexual repression causes sexual buildup and makes actions based upon that tension more likely. Sexual inexperience leads to unrealistic expectations, and the fact of the matter is that most people, men and women alike, have unrealistic expectations because they aren't having enough *** to be able to differentiate the difference between what realistic expectations should be, and what expectations are purely a fantasy, While it is true that those fantasies can be made into realities with the right people, the whole thing has to be prearranged,
What's really rocking the boat, in all actuality, is the lack of intellectual correlation of the general public to be able to dissect the media that they consume so often and so easily. --And that is an extremely dangerous state of affairs for all of society, even outside of that of the adult industry. It's like giving a science fiction book to a kid who loves science: If he or she is a kid, they're not going to be able to differentiate between science fiction and science reality if the fictional material is written with the base components of reality.
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