Family or friends meeting other friends?

edamame721 · Dec 9, 2013

I recently had my sister meet some of my friends and she had a very negative, judgmental reaction to them. I know she doesn't have many friends so I was hoping it would be a good experience. Needless to say, I won't be introducing anyone to her again.

That said, how do you decided when family or friends should meet your other friends? Do you keep them separate? Do you have to think carefully about it?

Regumika · Dec 10, 2013

You can't do much about family because they are your family. As for your friends meeting other friends, my take is that if they are going to be judgmental or offended by your other friend then one of them is not worth being friends with.

I don't want a friend that is judgmental.
I don't want a friend that takes things personally for no reason.
I don't want a friend that insults my other friends.

So, depending on who did what to who, someone is probably not going to be my friend anymore.

Gutted · Dec 10, 2013

I find that my friends are all quite different. So I try not to introduce them all. Crap like Facebook doesn't help though.

EveWasFramed · Dec 10, 2013

My family and/or friends are free not to like one another. They just can't talk **** about each other or be mean to one another in front of me. I wouldn't expect the ones who dont like each other to hang out at the same time either.

Tiina63 · Dec 10, 2013

Maybe your sister was envious of you for having a wider circle of friends than she has and so she looked for negative things about them so that she could feel a bit better about not having many friends herself?

edamame721 · Dec 10, 2013

Tiina63 said:
Maybe your sister was envious of you for having a wider circle of friends than she has and so she looked for negative things about them so that she could feel a bit better about not having many friends herself?

Maybe. But I don't have many friends myself and she knows this. Part of the reason I introduced her was because I know what it's like. It's really strange because she once complained to me about how her best friend won't agree to meet her other friends.