Feeling lost

[Ladysphinx]

I look in the mirror and I feel so lost. I don't even know whats wrong. I feels like my emotions are locked up in a dark, dark place. I won't say that I'm hurting, I just have this emptyness inside of me that won't go away.

 

[rosebud]

I look in the mirror and I feel so lost. I don't even know whats wrong. I feels like my emotions are locked up in a dark, dark place. I won't say that I'm hurting, I just have this emptyness inside of me that won't go away.

I too feel that way often. It has been a good 2 - 3 years now actually. How's your life? Once I looked myself in the mirror and after almost 20 minutes I realized I was still looking at myself, doing nothing... just standing there, feeling alone. Do you have friends, boyfriend, family? Did something bad happened to you lately?

 

[LGH1288]

I look in the mirror and I feel so lost. I don't even know whats wrong. I feels like my emotions are locked up in a dark, dark place. I won't say that I'm hurting, I just have this emptyness inside of me that won't go away.

Hi Ladysphinx -- If there was one thing in this entire world that would wash away your sadness and put a big smile on your face what would it be? Do you remember something in your life that brought pleasure to you? Think of your favorite things and grab onto the one that you like the best. Try hard to focus on positive things. Surround yourself with brightness. Reject negativity. Become your best friend first and others will become attracted to the new you! Best, LG

 

[Ladysphinx]

I have a loving husband and three beautiful kids, but lately it's feels like that is the story of my life. Stuck at home raising the kids with no friend. Don't get me wrong I love my family but feel like I'm stuck. I use to be beautiful now I'm just fat and ugly, loosing weight is almost impossible but even all these things don't seem as bad as the emptyness I've been feeling lately. It feels like the person staring at me in the mirror isn't me.

 

[LGH1288]

Dear Lady -- Could you spend a day at the spa to rejeuvenate and pamper yourself or devote one night a week to yourself and refuel? Perhaps a girl's night out (such as the cinema or a museum) or a date night out with hubby (dancing & dinner)? Both activities would give you a chance to spiffy up your looks and feel good about yourself. Your family sounds like they're wonderful and would want you to enjoy something special! LG

 

[Callie]

Losing weight is never impossible. Most people just feel that way because they don't get the results they want in the time period they want. Not every diet works for everybody, not every exercise works for everybody. You just have to find a routine that works for you. Join a gym, start a weight loss program. It WILL work in the end, you just have to want it to work.
LGH makes a very excellent suggestion. Go pamper yourself, go out for a night on the town with your husband.

And if all else fails and you are feeling like exercising won't work, FORCE yourself to do it. I had to do that A LOT in the beginning when I lost the weight.

*hugs* Things will get better! Fake it til you make it

 

[Ladysphinx]

Nobody knows how I really feel for years. Though hubby is a great guy I don't want him to know how I feel. I grew up in a house where you where not aloud to show your feeling. My mom had a way of using them against you as a weapon to inflict more pain. This is way I found this forum, I thought it will be easier to talk to ppl who might also struggle with the same problems of lonelyness. I once tried to tell hubby how I feel but couldn't.

 

[Callie]

Keep trying to tell him sweetie. Believe me, you'll feel like you're not shouldering it all once you do. *hugs*

 

[RealRecognizeReal]

I hope you are not offended by what I am about to say and if by any chance it bothers you, I'm sorry but it is just my opinion. I believe that you are suffering from depression. I suggest you try going to therapy. Believe me therapy helps a lot.

It's never good to hold in your feelings. You are destroying yourself inside and you push away your loved ones. I agree that you should tell your husband about they way you are feeling. You'll be surprised by the amount of support you will get from him.

Also LG is right about going on a date night, girls night out, or even a day out of the week to treat yourself to a day at the spa or just relax. It couldn't hurt to give it a try. These things might actually work and therapy won't be necessary.

 

[Ladysphinx]

Thx guys for listening. I'm going to make a point of haveing one day a week all to my self already convinced hubby that the kids have to go to grandma for a whole day. I will at some point tell hubby how I feel. I will let you guys know how I'm doing again.

 

[LGH1288]

Lady -- I'm happy for you! Yes, please keep us informed about "The New Adventures of Ladysphinx"! LG