First "Date"

[Shawn]

Ok so about 3 weeks ago I moved up to newark for college from NC
and my uncle who also goes to the school has been introducing me to alot of people and this one girl actually gave me a tour of newark and the surrounding area about 2 days after i moved here. and we were talking and we both had the same interests and i kinda felt "connected" i guess you could say. but she recently had a messy breakup and had been feeling down about it and well. about a week after the tour me the girl one of my other newfound friends and another girl who's birthday it was went out to a bar and me and the other guy didnt drink because 1 we were under 21 and 2 we were broke so basically we just watched out for the girls and made sure nothing bad happened to them the girl whose birthday it was introduced us to more of her friends and we all went to one of their houses
believe it or not the house is owned by the son of "Kool in the Gang" a famous band from 1964. well at this point the ladies are quite drunk and ,ill just call her Amy from here on in, Amy can barely walk. So i carry her to the car and we all go home. [she also had to be walked to the house] not by me though because she lives with her parents and if they had been up it would have caused alot of commotion so anyway after that night she seemed to kind of avoid me i guess. but were both in an honor society and we met at a park clean up and started talking again and it was cool again.

So on to the main point. Last night she called me and asked me if I wanted to go to a movie on friday. Which ofcourse i said yes. Were both avid anime fans so were going to see "Ponyo on a cliff by the sea"
Im just a little nervous because ive NEVER been out like this before
i know its probably less complicated then im making it out to be but
yknow how it is.

Any non-cliche advice?

 

[Lonesome Crow]

You mean...Like put your hand on her cookie to test her boundaries?

She's on a rebound...heal her broken heart. It's not that complicated.
Allow her to fall in love with you..it'll help her get over her EX.
Go with flow...

You're the new kind in town...start marking your territory

If she starts talking about her ex...shift the conversations.
Or tell her to put a cork in it..lol J/K
The less she talk and thinks about him, the faster she'll get over him...
Not unless you're one of those guys that wants to be her emotional tampon...mmm I mean the friendzone dude.lol

mmmm...you played basketball ?
You caught a rebound and made a slamm dunk before...no?
Like some women say...to get over man is to get under a man.

It ain't all about you...jump start her heart and be a man about it.lol
Screw guilt...man
She'll appriciate it more than you think.

 

[Shawn]

Lol thanks i guess. id like to avoid the "friendzone" but shes the quiet type most of the time
what actually surprised me is that she asked me out. that has NEVER happened to me before
and shes actually pretty hot. but i genuinely like her so i dont want to do anything rash
shes really difficult to read too.

 

[Jesse]

Sad to say if you don't initiate some sort of physical contact with her soon and my guess is no later than during the movie (it can be as little as trying to hold her hand), then you'll be put into the just friends zone.

But hey, get some more advice because I'm not exactly having any success in the dating world.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Lol thanks i guess. id like to avoid the "friendzone" but shes the quiet type most of the time
what actually surprised me is that she asked me out. that has NEVER happened to me before
and shes actually pretty hot. but i genuinely like her so i dont want to do anything rash
shes really difficult to read too.

Don't worry ...man most of the women I've been with ask me out..
they're hawties too....it's a trip aint it? I had to pinched myself.lol
I kissed and made out with my ex-wf on your first date.
She asked me out ...what else is there to read ?

She asked you out...what else is there to read.
Yeah don't mess up...show her you're interested.
She'll let you know what her bondaries are...
It's you job to test it.....
Errr..she's leaving it open for ya.

She asked you out...it's your trun.
The ball is in your court. Make your move.

Remember she asked you out...it took a lot guts and courage for her to do that, especailly if she's quiet.
If you whimp out and not have the balls to make a move on her, than you're messing up.

A. She'll trun it inwards and thinks there's something wrong with her..becauase you didn't tried.
She'll take it as you're rejecting her.

B. She'll think you're a total pusss...becuase she has bigger balls than your's.


It's dosn't matter how hawt a woman is...she'll still feel
a little bit of insecurties...especailly if after she went through a break up.

 

[sadface]

hi i want your username

 

[Brian]

I think you're probably her newest 'friend'.

Which is cool, friends are good. But you probably won't see anything else out of the deal.

 

[Badjedidude]

Just have fun and don't worry about honeysuckle you can't control.

 

[edgecrusher]

i want a first date

 

[Brian]

Oh wow, I got tricked in to responding to a year old thread.

And that tricked you guys in to responding too.


Cool.

 

[Badjedidude]

^^^Hahaha... thanks a lot.

Yet I still feel useful.

lol

 

[sadface]

give me your username