hey everyone

[Justanotherlaura]

I'm sorry to start off on such a sour note but I guess this is why I'm here.

Lately I feel lonelier than I have ever felt before.

No, I'm not socially retarded, I know how one should and shouldn't act, and I have had many friends who have truly valued our friendship. However my friends began to leave my school and I stopped hanging out with my group because I didn't believe we were like minded at all. And we weren't, they were al very slutty and didn't value school and I did and decided I didn't want to be classed as a moron who hung out with them. Well, my 'best-friend' was in this group who I had known all my life, we were very close but she tended to dump me for friends who she valued more at the time and I was sick of this so I just left the entire group, I felt out of place in it anyway. The other kids I hung out with left the school and I tended to just hang with kids I was friendly with but not great friends with.

However, now I have left school I don't have a friendship group to hang out with, and the individuals I was friends with are always too busy with their own friendship groups to chase me around. I do ask for them to hang out with me and we have a great time, but they're the only friends I truly have and they have heaps, I feel like I value them way more than they value me because without them I have no one and without me they're still fine.

What's made me feel worse lately is at my work people who are new seem to already be great friends with everyone there, going out together e.t.c and I'm never involved. I feel like they see me as not cool or shy and strange, (I have always been a bit shy) and what annoys me is I know what they're thinking because I have thought that way about the really shy quiet person before and now that person is me. I feel like people I meet also eventually just don't care about me and leave me. I'm so sick of this, I think I have low-self esteem and it's just a vicious cycle which is making things worse, I'm quite sure also that I have depression and ocd which as you can guess makes this worse or may even be the cause. I don't know what to do, I feel like I'm just destined to be a loser. All's I want is a group of friends who get me and want to be with me like I used to have.

 

[Firefly]

Hi there & welcome.
I'm not sure I can offer any advice as I recognise alot of your situation in myself. However, I think it's a comfort just to know there are others who feel like you do.
If you think you have depression, have you thought about going to your GP? I know some people (including me !) can find this very difficult. After a great deal of soul-searching I finally summoned up the courage to go to my doctor - I can't believe how understanding he was. I would recommend it if you can.

 

[I'm Fine]

As Firefly has suggested, talking to your doctor may be helpful. Whether or not you feel comfortable doing that, you can always talk here. There are plenty of us who know firsthand what it's like to be lonely. It can help just to know that you're not alone *hugs*.

 

[Poguesy]

Anyways, G'day