How do you deal with a conflicting mind?

[SomeoneSomewhere]

I'm sure this has been asked here before but I'll just go ahead and ask it again.

Almost always, it is like the two lobes of my brain are in a constant battle with each other. One half wants me to be alone and the other wants me to be social.

I know that I can be happy being alone but how do I get around the feeling of feeling lonely (I know that the whole sentence doesn't seem to make sense). I want to be alone but by choice and not because I'm left out or because people have rejected me.

How do I deal with it?

 

[9006]

The problem is that both have benefits, it comes down to which one you'd prefer. I believe it's healthy to have friends an it's something you can compromise, it doesn't have to be one over another.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

You don't have to be super social. Things like that are for the movies.

 

[ladyforsaken]

Have some time to socialise with friends and some time to be alone. There are times you feel like doing one more over the other.. that's totally fine. Just hope that the friends you have understand the way you are and not cling on to you and want to spend time with you every day or something?

 

[duff]

I'm sure this has been asked here before but I'll just go ahead and ask it again.

Almost always, it is like the two lobes of my brain are in a constant battle with each other. One half wants me to be alone and the other wants me to be social.

I know that I can be happy being alone but how do I get around the feeling of feeling lonely (I know that the whole sentence doesn't seem to make sense). I want to be alone but by choice and not because I'm left out or because people have rejected me.

How do I deal with it?

just do what you feel like doing. Don't follow the pack. Don't do what society says you should, eg drinking, parties, facebook, mobiles etc.

 

[UGLYDUCKLING]

I have the same problem... EXACT same problem '_'

Well for now,I've gone with the flow...I have been rejected and used by people before too..I just go with the flow..I get partially involved with people...As in be social just to keep that lobe quiet..and enjoy being alone at time...It's weird...But a weird yet relatable question would get you a weird response

 

[Okiedokes]

It's because we are programmed to need relationships with people, to care and care for others. We want a sense of belonging, but also our own sense of being. It's a balance that you have to find.

 

[SomeoneSomewhere]

I kinda realized a "flaw" in my plan.

Currently, when I think about the people that I want to be with, I see "smart" or focused people, people who can kinda match my level of intellect and I can have deep conversations with.

Now, I know that I'm stereotyping stuff with this but, smart people (read: doctors, entrepreneurs, and the like) don't probably get all that time to have that kinda of fun with large social groups and stuff.

 

[xaero]

I have the same problem, OP. Your plan isn't flawed at all. Nothing wrong with finding people to hang out with that are like you. No use trying to fit in where you don't belong.