How i am battling 'loneliness'

[JustALonelyGuy]

Before I write this I will make one thing clear. I am not religous( I dont ahve a problem with anyone who follows a religion either). I am spiritual. The two are very different things. So before anyone assumes and jumps on the 'youre religous' bandwagon I just thought I would let you know!

As we all know, the majority of us feel 'lonely from a wide variety of things. Having lost friends, never had friends, recently divorced/seperated, broke up with a partner or indeed never had a partner. All these things can make us feel extremely isolated and lonely. Sometimes the pain we feel is simply 'immeasurable'.

One solution I have found which is making me cope alot lot better is thinking of ourselves and others as 'connected' even if we do not know them. They are human beings, a reflection of us, or if you want to call it we are one big family. The sister and brotherhood of humanity.

Everyday I close my eyes and say in my mind 'help me be connected to others' or sometimes I make it an 'affirmation' or 'mantra' throuh the day saying to myself 'I am part of/at one with all humanity'

Everyday I have felt at ease with everyone around me regardless of age, gender, religion, creed and sexual orientation. The loneliness just for me, seems to fade and becomes so much bearable knowing that in the outside world where the pain can hurt the most, feelign connected to everyone allows you to know that you arent suffering alone. That you are just as 'connected' to the next single person, even a married couple. Because we are of the same essence, one big family.

As I said I am an ISOT (independent seeker of truth) I follow no religion as I feel none have and never will give me the answers that i am looking for. I was once a christian and still felt pretty ***** alot of days to be hobnest. So no, that didnt work for me.

If you are an athiest, you can still try this. Because you are not seeking or reachign out for a God you beelive may/or does not exist, you are simply connecting and aligning yourself with the whole of humanity.

You don't have to follow exactly or all of my methods as I have described above . What works for one, may be useless for another. We all have different ways of doin thing. Even if you find these methods not to your taste I hope by reading this you can draw some encouragement by reading with how I and amybe yourself can cope with loneliness.

Peace and love,

Chris

'Religion and politics will never lead us to true unity and peace, rather, they will stretch us further apart than ever before.'

 

[isthatso]

Everyday I close my eyes and say in my mind 'help me be connected to others' or sometimes I make it an 'affirmation' or 'mantra' throuh the day saying to myself 'I am part of/at one with all humanity'

I like it. Brilliant!

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an ISOT?

me too..Im an Independant Snacker of Timtams. Don't need anybody's help to finish off a pack.

 

[Peaches]

brilliant! I do that when I think of social networks, like this one, where you see others and you know they are in a similar situation and you feel their pain and vice versa. It's dangerously close to that terribly cheerful saying that I hate "a stranger is just a friend you haven't met" but actually, why the hell not?

 

[JustALonelyGuy]

brilliant! I do that when I think of social networks, like this one, where you see others and you know they are in a similar situation and you feel their pain and vice versa. It's dangerously close to that terribly cheerful saying that I hate "a stranger is just a friend you haven't met" but actually, why the hell not?

Exactly my point peaches thank you for commenting positely on my input

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Everyday I close my eyes and say in my mind 'help me be connected to others' or sometimes I make it an 'affirmation' or 'mantra' throuh the day saying to myself 'I am part of/at one with all humanity'

I like it. Brilliant!

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an ISOT?

me too..Im an Independant Snacker of Timtams. Don't need anybody's help to finish off a pack.

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LOL I like! what are TimTams? savoury or chocolate?

 

[Lady X]

I'm a Christian, but I still have **** days. Why? Well, God never promised me life wouldn't be tough - quite the opposite. Jesus said "take up your cross and follow me". He told us we would face hard times. So I would say to anyone who questions their faith (as a Christian), God never told you it would be painless, but he promised he would help you through it, and lighten the load. We live in a world of free will - we are often at the mercy (or lack of) of others.


However, I am not a "religious" Christian. Kinda hard to explain I guess, but in a nutshell, I do not follow the doctrine of any church or denomination. They are all man made, and biblically Jesus specifically wanted to end man-made religious practices. I follow Jesus. I am spiritual, not religious.

This guy sums it up for me better than I can explain in my current writers-block mentality


For me, everything is one creation. This works for atheists as well as those with any beliefs at all.

Think about this...

1 - Einstein's theory of relativity tells us that matter and energy are the same things, but at different speeds.
2 - The state of all matter, be it solid, liquid or gas, is determined by its vibrational frequency. Remember the high school physics about particle vibrations?
3 - Everything we experience, every sense, comes into our mind as a vibration, a wavelength, which is then translated by our brains into experience. Sight is lightwaves reflected into our retinas at varying "colour" frequencies. Sound is soundwaves etc.

So, regardless of how you believe all things came into being... everything in creation literally is one. The entire universe is just a collective of varying vibrations.

This idea of universal oneness really helps me as it literally does connect everything in the universe - be it people or stars or a rock on the floor.

 

[JustALonelyGuy]

I'm a Christian, but I still have **** days. Why? Well, God never promised me life wouldn't be tough - quite the opposite. Jesus said "take up your cross and follow me". He told us we would face hard times. So I would say to anyone who questions their faith (as a Christian), God never told you it would be painless, but he promised he would help you through it, and lighten the load. We live in a world of free will - we are often at the mercy (or lack of) of others.


However, I am not a "religious" Christian. Kinda hard to explain I guess, but in a nutshell, I do not follow the doctrine of any church or denomination. They are all man made, and biblically Jesus specifically wanted to end man-made religious practices. I follow Jesus. I am spiritual, not religious.

This guy sums it up for me better than I can explain in my current writers-block mentality


For me, everything is one creation. This works for atheists as well as those with any beliefs at all.

Think about this...

1 - Einstein's theory of relativity tells us that matter and energy are the same things, but at different speeds.
2 - The state of all matter, be it solid, liquid or gas, is determined by its vibrational frequency. Remember the high school physics about particle vibrations?
3 - Everything we experience, every sense, comes into our mind as a vibration, a wavelength, which is then translated by our brains into experience. Sight is lightwaves reflected into our retinas at varying "colour" frequencies. Sound is soundwaves etc.

So, regardless of how you believe all things came into being... everything in creation literally is one. The entire universe is just a collective of varying vibrations.

This idea of universal oneness really helps me as it literally does connect everything in the universe - be it people or stars or a rock on the floor.

Thank yuo for the great input Lady X. Nce to see you beelive in Jesus also that you ahve your own beliefs and ideas too. I too beleive in Jesus and who he was, but doubt the bible here and there.

as for the 'crap days' I am tryin somethin new. Such as positive thoughts and I ahve been trying a method in which I am tryin to temper my ego. This means that knowing that everything wont work out the way you planned on some days in advance, makes a 'crap' day more bearable and less crap if you get my meaning? Knowing that you cant chane anyones behaviour or way of life because their soul experience and rgowth is different to ours helps remarkably. This is helping alot because you then see even in your 'darkest days', I see there was a little bit of 'light'. It coudlve been someone just smiling at you. Something as simple as that.

Thank you agian Lady X I enjoy your responses

Peace and Love always,

Chris

 

[OnlyMe]

an ISOT?

me too..Im an Independant Snacker of Timtams. Don't need anybody's help to finish off a pack.

Tim Tams.......now I know you are a fellow Aussie.

 

[isthatso]

High five for fellow Aussie!

I'm off Tim Tams and into Bouchee now.
Do you know them? Highly addictive.

 

[Misanthrope23]

Before I write this I will make one thing clear. I am not religous( I dont ahve a problem with anyone who follows a religion either). I am spiritual. The two are very different things. So before anyone assumes and jumps on the 'youre religous' bandwagon I just thought I would let you know!

As we all know, the majority of us feel 'lonely from a wide variety of things. Having lost friends, never had friends, recently divorced/seperated, broke up with a partner or indeed never had a partner. All these things can make us feel extremely isolated and lonely. Sometimes the pain we feel is simply 'immeasurable'.

One solution I have found which is making me cope alot lot better is thinking of ourselves and others as 'connected' even if we do not know them. They are human beings, a reflection of us, or if you want to call it we are one big family. The sister and brotherhood of humanity.

Everyday I close my eyes and say in my mind 'help me be connected to others' or sometimes I make it an 'affirmation' or 'mantra' throuh the day saying to myself 'I am part of/at one with all humanity'

Everyday I have felt at ease with everyone around me regardless of age, gender, religion, creed and sexual orientation. The loneliness just for me, seems to fade and becomes so much bearable knowing that in the outside world where the pain can hurt the most, feelign connected to everyone allows you to know that you arent suffering alone. That you are just as 'connected' to the next single person, even a married couple. Because we are of the same essence, one big family.

As I said I am an ISOT (independent seeker of truth) I follow no religion as I feel none have and never will give me the answers that i am looking for. I was once a christian and still felt pretty ***** alot of days to be hobnest. So no, that didnt work for me.

If you are an athiest, you can still try this. Because you are not seeking or reachign out for a God you beelive may/or does not exist, you are simply connecting and aligning yourself with the whole of humanity.

You don't have to follow exactly or all of my methods as I have described above . What works for one, may be useless for another. We all have different ways of doin thing. Even if you find these methods not to your taste I hope by reading this you can draw some encouragement by reading with how I and amybe yourself can cope with loneliness.

Peace and love,

Chris

'Religion and politics will never lead us to true unity and peace, rather, they will stretch us further apart than ever before.'

the only problem is how to take that step to start "connecting with people." besides the obvious just do it attitude. because honestly i'm tired of people saying this all the time. i'm better off finding a way to kill myself than to find how to exactly "do it."

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also i'm beginning to think God is a lie. an excuse for people to say that life has to be hard because it's some sort of "test." yeah right, and i bet people born with a golden spoon in their mouth had such a tough life. i used to believe in fate but not anymore. it's more about luck really. knowing the right people. students like me that study their brains off while orange skinned ******** from the jersey shore have people pay thousands of dollars to just record them partying. yeah what a great equal life. and hell is just an excuse to make people feel better. like "don't worry, those jersey shore kids will pay for their sins." meanwhile when there long and dead people will be buying memorabilia of them. it makes me sick.