How long before dating?

[geordy70]

I am 18 years old and now a senior in high school. Ive seen many people who have had a girlfriend or someone to love, and i have never even hung out with a girl outside of school. No girls have ever liked me and i have never had the opportunity to talk to an interesting girl.

Im just wondering, is it bad for me to not have at least one relationship? because im not so sure when i will ever meet a girl, and im not sure it would be the best idea to have my first date when im 26 years old. Should i have some kind of experience, even if its with a terrible girl?

 

[whispers]

I dont think so, you are still young, when you go to college or start working you will meet different people, this will give you better chances. However going on dates to get toknow some nice girls in yourschool would be nice. Sometimes we have an opinion of someone and turns out they are not at all how we perceived them.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Relationship is learn as you go
Or on the job training.
At your age....even if its puppy love
Try to get experience.
Yeah plenty of fish...and they're
All not alike.
Of course you wanna to minimize
The negatives. They dont have psycho
Stamp on their forehead.
You cant just go by her first impression
Either...because some people put
On a front....like the mean ones will be on their
Best behaviors until after the honey moon stage.
Bait and swiych..
While some women will act tough but they're
Really nice after you get to know them better.
Whatever your petfernce on looks....
But women change theit looks or style clothe
They wear mote than men.
Alot of it is exposure.
But you gotta start with training wheels no
Mattet how yoing or old you are..

It the samething....if you didnt lesrn
How ride a bike until your 45 ...you
Still have start at the first step.

---

Plus we all evolve as poeple.
Some people go from good to bad
Others goses from bad to good.

Pius we all matue at different pace....

Have fun with it.
Look at it as a journey.
The good times and bad times...
Its all good.....youll learn either
Way.
Youll make plenty of mistakes too
But thats ok...make cottrctions as you
Go.
As you mature, you will also see
Things differently as you go.

 

[geordy70]

Not to be offensive or anything, and i honestly do appreciate your time for answering my question crow but... I cant really understand your posts....

Also i frankly dont see the point in going out if its just to go out, why not just be friends then?

 

[blackdot]

geordy70
No problem with not having a date yet. It wasn't until i was 35 that I started dating.
Now I don't recommend waiting that long as women in this age range no longer date.

 

[Lost Drifter]

Date when you feel ready and not a second before.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Errrr..
Why eat ice cream?

 

[cassia]

I think there are some benefits to going out on a few dates, even with "terrible girls". These may be opportunities for you to learn about other people, about yourself, and what you're looking for. I've been in relationships with people who didn't really have what I was looking for, but I mightn't have known that without having done so.

I don't think it's quite the same deal to just be friends, since that's a whole different domain with different goals and expectations, and involves different activities and states of mind, so it doesn't open up the same channels for self-learning.

Although, if you're prone to getting seriously hurt, you may want to save it for when you feel more comfortable and safe. (But to be honest, I often suspect that had I done more "casual dates" when I was younger, I would have been more protected for the hurt I got from a bad relationship later on. But I may be wrong.)

 

[Sci-Fi]

You might look around you and see all your friends dating and wonder, why not me? When you are ready you are ready. It's not unusual or anything, some people just come into it on their own. People need to slow down more and not be in such a rush.

 

[TheSolitaryMan]

Date when you feel ready and not a second before.

What this man said

 

[blackdot]

Date when you feel ready and not a second before.

But then you still have to wait for other people to be ready to date you. Unfortunately those 2 instances seem to never cross.

 

[Lost Drifter]

Date when you feel ready and not a second before.

But then you still have to wait for other people to be ready to date you. Unfortunately those 2 instances seem to never cross.

Life's too short to worry about when other people are ready brother, live for yourself now and those who want you are bound follow.

 

[blackdot]

but if no one else is ready to date, then you won't ever get to date.

 

[Lost Drifter]

There is always someone ready.

Out of all the people in the world, if no one else is ready to date then the apocalypse has arrived and we’re all getting screwed anyway!

 

[blackdot]

well, in this part of the country, women are not ready to date.

 

[geordy70]

I honestly want to stick to my own morals and i dont like the thought of going out with a girl just to get experience, because then it just feels like im using her and messing with her emotions. I dont want to do that to anyone. I guess while it may seem awkward to start my first date late i'd rather be going out with someone who is not second guessing themselves along with me. I dont want to end up in a relationship where either me or the person im with is just going to go out just for the hell of it. That sounds selfish to me.

I can tell thats what most people at school and around my area think about when it comes to dating, so it might actually end up being a while before i even have my first girlfriend. It really does sounds really strange though when you meet a girl in your 20's and you say that you have never been on a date before haha.

 

[Anten]

A date isn't a symbol of the commitment of a monogamist relationship it is just to see if you two are compatible. So if you like a girl geordy70 ask her out and if you guys have fun then go on a second, a third, a fourth, and so on. At some point on one of the dates you may both see that there is something between you and you become a couple.

 

[geordy70]

Well i do find some girls attractive but i cant seem to find any good personalities. When ever i see an attractive girl all i see is an infatuation and nothing else, if a girl does find me attractive i would just see it as an infatuation. i guess thats one problem for myself. I cant seem to find a reason to want to go out for such a reason if it will just end up with breaking up due to a lack of infatuation. thats all this dating for experience is about isnt it?

 

[Anten]

Well there are some who like having sex so they go out for that reason or they usually skip dating and go straight to sex. But you will never know if you liker a girl just for her looks if you never test it out. Though generally you do go out with someone because you are physically attracted to them. Like I said just because you go out on a date doesn't mean you are going to be in a committed relationship by the end of the night. It is like saying just because you went to the interview you got the job.

 

[geordy70]

Im sorry, this concept is very hard for me to grasp I cant seem to understand what your saying, so its like not looking for a serieous relationship but having one in the end?

And dont you go to an interview because you want a job?