how long did it take?

[NewBirth]

for you all to start making friends here
i feel like things maybe work a little slower here than im used to thats y i ask

 

[Blue Sky]

Hi NewBirth
Well it didn't take all that long for me to start making friends here. If there is someone on the forum you think you'ld like to be friends with, why don't you just send them a PM and introduce yourself. You can send me a PM if you want.

 

[SadRabbit]

Haha, newbirth you are right. I have been a member for 3 months and lol, well lets say, I have only made 1 friend.

 

[Whoaisme]

A friend...What's that?

 

[SadRabbit]

lol...whoaisme....why the pessimism?

 

[Whoaisme]

I don't think I've ever had a true friend in all my life. I consider a true friend someone who would be there for me when I am in need and someone who won't turn around and stab you in the back. I've never met such a person in my personal life. I wish I had a person like that.

That and my comment was just plain funny.

 

[NewBirth]

uh oh looks like this is gonna be harder than i thought LoLoLoL since i wont pm a girl cuz im trying to stay away from them and i would never pm a guy first

 

[Whoaisme]

Consider it this way... There's no reason not to PM a girl. I always think of them as unobtainable girls (Like out of my geographic range, my age range, my looks range, and I consider everyone already taken). That or think of them like a female cousin or something. Begin with absolutely no sexual interest whatsoever. Just shoot the breeze. I have NEVER had trouble talking to people male or female online since there is that sort of pseudo anonymity. In real life it is a totally different story.

Online, I'm not afraid to tell anybody anything. I usually tell very, very, personal details that I wouldn't even share with a therapist (if I still had one). It's not like I'm giving out my name and address, plus if you make a complete fool of yourself you can always register with another user name...

 

[Bluey]

Post regularly and be nice and you well make friends

I don't come hear as often as I shod but there still is some hear I think I could be friends with moor if I made moor effete.

The problem with me is I turn the PC on and get sighed tracked to doing other stuff.

Like right know am supposed be designing a 2008 calender put in sted am reading stuff hear

 

[AngryLoner]

I haven't been here too long but I also haven't really made any friends. My problem is the same as yours kinda... I hate to make the first move (it's one of my problems I'm working on). If I'm ever talking to a "girl" I find it way easier to just assume everyone's a guy until you hear their voice (on vent or skype). Don't trust pics either.

so ya I never go in to these things expecting to make friends, cause it seems like unless you're really an exceptional person, you will have to make the first move (online and in real life).

 

[Sunday]

Some people you meet you just click with right of the bat. Others it takes a little time to get to know them. It really depends on what you and the other person have in common. However, you have to be comfortable and open. It doesn't mean you tell them your life story but you shouldn't be really creepy and shady, lol. Just start with small talk and build up from there. I hate small talk, but its absolutely necessary. Once you get to know the person you can have more meaningful conversations.

 

[NewBirth]

Consider it this way... There's no reason not to PM a girl. I always think of them as unobtainable girls (Like out of my geographic range, my age range, my looks range, and I consider everyone already taken). That or think of them like a female cousin or something. Begin with absolutely no sexual interest whatsoever. Just shoot the breeze. I have NEVER had trouble talking to people male or female online since there is that sort of pseudo anonymity. In real life it is a totally different story.

Online, I'm not afraid to tell anybody anything. I usually tell very, very, personal details that I wouldn't even share with a therapist (if I still had one). It's not like I'm giving out my name and address, plus if you make a complete fool of yourself you can always register with another user name...

Oh ive got like a thousand reasons y i shouldnt pm a girl LoLoL trust me on this but LoL @ female cousin thingy cute.
I couldnt stand to talk confidentially to somebody i didnt even know no way dude and i would never go into hiding by registering another user name thats pretty sorry Lmao if u ask me but thanx for the advice anyways

 

[NewBirth]

thanx to all the rest of u 2 some really good advice

 

[Lost in the Oilfield]

hmm, how'd this get into discussing communication with girls?

Far as friends... you can PM me if you want to talk about whatever... guy or girl makes no difference.
I should be on at least on the weekends... works starting soon though so I can't say for sure... could be that our location will have satellite internet... not sure but the house/hotel should so I'll try to keep in touch.

As far as meeting girls online save yourself the trouble... I find they either play head games, have a boyfriend and just want to flirt online, or they don't look anything like they did in the picture... I've had all three of those encounters... all were really annoying, except for one... I wouldn't date her because I like girls around my own weight, but she has a great personality... kind-hearted girl just going through a tough time with exboyfriend. So, besides making a friend, I didn't have much luck in the love department.

As far as finding a date online with an attractive girl who has the same interests as you... not very likely...
but there is always that possibility I suppose...

Anyway, PM if you wanna chat... you have to talk to people if you want to make friends.

Best thing to do if you want to make friends is to go through the forums and find someone that says something interesting or whatever and send them a PM directly talking about it... that should open things up. Either they won't respond or they will, but at least then they will know that you are there.

 

[NewBirth]

hmm, how'd this get into discussing communication with girls?

Far as friends... you can PM me if you want to talk about whatever... guy or girl makes no difference.
I should be on at least on the weekends... works starting soon though so I can't say for sure... could be that our location will have satellite internet... not sure but the house/hotel should so I'll try to keep in touch.

As far as meeting girls online save yourself the trouble... I find they either play head games, have a boyfriend and just want to flirt online, or they don't look anything like they did in the picture... I've had all three of those encounters... all were really annoying, except for one... I wouldn't date her because I like girls around my own weight, but she has a great personality... kind-hearted girl just going through a tough time with exboyfriend. So, besides making a friend, I didn't have much luck in the love department.

As far as finding a date online with an attractive girl who has the same interests as you... not very likely...
but there is always that possibility I suppose...

Anyway, PM if you wanna chat... you have to talk to people if you want to make friends.

Best thing to do if you want to make friends is to go through the forums and find someone that says something interesting or whatever and send them a PM directly talking about it... that should open things up. Either they won't respond or they will, but at least then they will know that you are there.

Yah i know about meeting girls online most of em arent really emotionally stable & your so right u either get massive head games girls who look nothing like they say or chicks who just want sex. Ok so not in that order LoL but u know what i mean.
Like ive said i cant pm guys first but ive had a couple pm me now so its all good & i feel so much betterz now.
awwwwww sad sad your nick reminds me of a guy i used to chat with who worked on an oil rig its crazy how u can just forget people until something like that reminds u

 

[lonelyheartsxx]

Actually, I just met my first friend on here the night I registered, lol.....idk, I just make friends so much easier & faster online than in real life! I have a few friends on here now, and it's great....I love this forum & everyone here is really nice!