Hello there... hope your feeling okay today. I don't like reading posts like this, one, because the OP is obviously down about things, but also because it demonstrates perfectly how literally everybody 'certainly in the western world' is totally conditioned as to what so-called 'success' means.... and do you know what...?? It's all BS..!!
Success is... 'contentment' ... that's it. The amount of people that apparently 'have it all' yet are secrectly un contented and miserable is in the billions... You mention univeristy, it's only in recent years that seemingly 'everyone' simply 'has' to go to 'UNI' (ghastly term) ... but when I left school, out of a class of thirty kids, I would say you'd be lucky if five went to university (and it was free then) everyone else went out and got a job... also, book smart doesn't equate to genuine intelligence, and don't forget the millions of people that went to 'UNI' who have a job in the field they studied for... and guess what, yep, are still uncontented (down to their mindset and social conditioning as to always wanting more) so try not to worry about never having gone to university, honestly...it's not 'all that.' Relationships: yeah, all great at the beginning, then often becomes stale unless you both 'work' at it, and this is something many people fail to recognise, that relationships require 'work and effort' from both sides, I also think many people that are constantly seeking a relationship actually simply want the 'feeling' of 'being wanted and validated' rather than an actual relationship and all that goes with it. Marriage: been there, done that.. now divorced, and would never EVER EVER EEEVVVEEEERRRRRR get married again. Kid's...yep, mine are all grown up now, and yes there are nice times to having children, but something nobody ever tells you is that bringing up children is more often than not 'an awful, unrewarding..slog.' When they get into their twenties, you would be one of the lucky ones if they call you or bother with you very much, unless they want something from you that is. This isn't everybodies experience, but is the experience of many millions of parents around the world I'm sure. This may all seen to be very pessimistic and downbeat, but unfortunately it's the truth in my opinion, of course some of the scenarios above can be great, but they can also be, and often are 'not all that' and usually never come up to our delusional expectations, fuelled by Hollywood, social media, TV etc etc. You already have a HUGE headstart... you said 'I dont' want those things' thats such a massive plus for you as you seemingly know yourself, thats something many people if not most people don't know of themselves... so you must be doing something right..? The next time you see somebody you know either currently, or previously from school etc, posting pictures of themselves on social media or whatever it is (please excuse me as I don't do social media at all and have no idea of the names of them all).. the next time you see somebody posing about their house, their car, their job, their looks, their....oh lets just say 'their anything' don't think 'wow, they have everything and I have nothing... think, 'theres a person struggling with self worth, and in reality is seeking validation from anywhere they can find it' They are not contented, if they were they would not feel the need to self publicise their personal lives.
Also them bullies dont deserve a second more of your time, thinking about them or even seeing the best 10 seconds of their life on social media.
