Have had a few relationships that ended after 2 years or so, and have been single again for about that long.
My last girlfriend didn't approve of me joining the military, so we broke up. Anyway job and lifestyle wise it's been completely worth it as I've never been happier. To boot it's easy to find a group of single guys to hang around even at my age (28).
That said, sometimes it's *really* difficult to hang out with them. Every weekend their every thought is on hitting the clubs and getting laid. I've gone a few times, danced a bit, had a few conversations with the girls there but I can't help but get really... really bored. Don't get me wrong, I like getting some as much as the next guy but I have that ass-backwards mentality that I want sex to be a consequence of being with someone rather than being the driving purpose of going out.
Reasons I don't like going also involve the loud music, the money you spend on alcohol / cab rides / ********* clothes and the fact that you don't even get to hang out with your buddies when you are there because then you're cockblocking their own attempts. Even if they didn't think that, they bolt in all directions of the club in their attempt to dance and pick up.
Worse is that other events I get invited to by people end up changing into going to the club part way through, so now I'm wary about accepting any invitation to any party or gathering they do because inevitably someone will say they want to hit the bar and everyone will agree. So then I have that awkward choice of being the ass that tells his friends he would rather *not* hang out with them at the bar (which is funny because you end up not hanging out there anyway) or having to go and spending the next 3-4 hours being bored out of my ******* skull because I'm rarely even generally interested in the girls I talk to there.
Honestly, I'd rather just go to the pub! quieter music, better atmosphere and I get to actually hang out with my friends. But of course there's lack of available poon so that suggestion is right out when brought up. Even my gay coworker tells me that that doing that would be really gay, heh. (He genuinely likes dancing with the girls at the club - even though he has no intention of hooking up).
I like my buddies though, they're great people otherwise. They're also really the only crowd I can hang out with as I feel really awkward hanging around the married couples. I get that third wheel vibe from them when I do, even though I generally enjoy their quieter activities more. It's really all or nothing as far as the military is concerned, you pretty much have to hang out with your coworkers since you're sent to semi isolated locations where that's all they have.
That last bit isn't too relevant to my point, I just felt like sharing an extra bit of the situation. Even with it's disadvantages, I couldn't imagine any other life.
My last girlfriend didn't approve of me joining the military, so we broke up. Anyway job and lifestyle wise it's been completely worth it as I've never been happier. To boot it's easy to find a group of single guys to hang around even at my age (28).
That said, sometimes it's *really* difficult to hang out with them. Every weekend their every thought is on hitting the clubs and getting laid. I've gone a few times, danced a bit, had a few conversations with the girls there but I can't help but get really... really bored. Don't get me wrong, I like getting some as much as the next guy but I have that ass-backwards mentality that I want sex to be a consequence of being with someone rather than being the driving purpose of going out.
Reasons I don't like going also involve the loud music, the money you spend on alcohol / cab rides / ********* clothes and the fact that you don't even get to hang out with your buddies when you are there because then you're cockblocking their own attempts. Even if they didn't think that, they bolt in all directions of the club in their attempt to dance and pick up.
Worse is that other events I get invited to by people end up changing into going to the club part way through, so now I'm wary about accepting any invitation to any party or gathering they do because inevitably someone will say they want to hit the bar and everyone will agree. So then I have that awkward choice of being the ass that tells his friends he would rather *not* hang out with them at the bar (which is funny because you end up not hanging out there anyway) or having to go and spending the next 3-4 hours being bored out of my ******* skull because I'm rarely even generally interested in the girls I talk to there.
Honestly, I'd rather just go to the pub! quieter music, better atmosphere and I get to actually hang out with my friends. But of course there's lack of available poon so that suggestion is right out when brought up. Even my gay coworker tells me that that doing that would be really gay, heh. (He genuinely likes dancing with the girls at the club - even though he has no intention of hooking up).
I like my buddies though, they're great people otherwise. They're also really the only crowd I can hang out with as I feel really awkward hanging around the married couples. I get that third wheel vibe from them when I do, even though I generally enjoy their quieter activities more. It's really all or nothing as far as the military is concerned, you pretty much have to hang out with your coworkers since you're sent to semi isolated locations where that's all they have.
That last bit isn't too relevant to my point, I just felt like sharing an extra bit of the situation. Even with it's disadvantages, I couldn't imagine any other life.
