While self improvement is always good, such as losing weight. I noticed you mentioned about hating women, and you should probably try and tone that back as much as possible as that will only eat at you, and you'll end up bitter which won't help your dating chances.
For me personally I've always happened to have more female friends than male. Not through actively seeking it out that way. I guess I just have more in common with the former. Maybe the dislike of talking about football and sports all day. xD
But any relationships I've ever had have formed through friendship, not with the view of dating someone from the get go. Heck my last relationship was just that, long distance for five years. A friend who admitted to me that she had fallen for me.
The cliche' being that someone will appear when your not looking rings true. As it seems you have a sort of obsession with wanting to be with someone, which from your post seems understandable as to why. But just focus on self improvement, don't worry about the money thing (as honestly, would you want to be with a girl who just wants you for money anyway)?
And focus on just making friends rather than jumping right in with wanting to date every girl. Otherwise it might come across as desperate, and that's not an attractive factor to most people. Which would just add to putting them off.
