I settle for Friendzone because the other option is being Stalkerized

[Mr. Sir]

Can anyone help me with this?

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Friendzone is good. This way it might help you to talk to
other women also...make more female friends...It's okay.

I personally have female friends. This way I don't
freak out when I talk to a female. Mentally after being
around them. I know they're just human like me. They process
life just a little bit different. Plus I don't stair at their ****s all
the time and stuff like that...I get used to being around them
so my body or mind dosn't go to ***...***..***.

Plus my close females will open up and talk about thier emotions and stuff. It helps me get into touch with emotions more.
Plus I get to ask them questions my mama and I wouldn't talk about.
My father is more freaken clueless than I am with women.
Sometimes my female friends will ask me questions why guys
do what they do or how I process life. It helps them with thier
relations with thier partner.

I'm actaully more selective with male friends.
It's kind of backwards for me. I don't trust too many males.
Alot of it has to do with becuase i think my dad is a fucken **** or he treats me really
bad. That's the root of it.

I'm a daddy..It helps me to understand my duaghter more.
She tells me everything about her. Even though she's my daughter
ultimate I have to respect her as a human being and a female.
A lot of it is center around love and trust.

 

[Jesse]

Be happy with women friends man. Lately I've been trying to hang out with women just as friends (and I let them know just as friends) so I can get used to being around them and not be nervous. However, I keep getting ditched anyway! You're a step ahead my friend.

 

[EveWasFramed]

Wait...is this still about the same girl in your other threads??

 

[Lawrens]

Friendzone seems fine to me, it feels like it is going to be really painful though if you can't control how much you like the person. I'd be happy to be with friends with someone forever, but I guess it's not that simple sometimes.

 

[Mr. Sir]

I don't think you guys are getting what I'm saying. I make female friends fine. I try to act innocent and Forrest Gump like, being polite around them, because acting confident around them (in the past) has made me "intense" and "creepy". I have had plenty of female friends throughout my life in the places that I've been.

I'm 20 and my biological clock is ticking. My whole family is going to start thinking that I'm gay. I am so worried.

I can make all the women friends I want. I am polite and respectful as hell these days. But women don't find that sexually attractive. I'm not talking about one girl. I'm talking about girls in general. I make sure I never flirt, because flirting in the past has only gotten me stalkerized.

Please help me address this.

 

[Steel]

I'm 20 and my biological clock is ticking. My whole family is going to start thinking that I'm gay. I am so worried.

Lmao, you're male, not female. We don't have a biological clock - and even if we did, 20?

Oh, and what's so bad about people thinking you are gay?

 

[loketron]

stalkerized, lol!
thats the name of my next band/side project.
i already read a thread about an hour ago for pleantyoffish.com so no! i cant take anymore dating sites!
i already check okcupid.com and zoosk.com all the time to no avail, why would i want more!
although i never send any messages out just sit and hope some one will message me

 

[EveWasFramed]

Wait....you still haven't answered my question (or the same question from your other thread). Is this the same girl that you've been talking about in your previous threads...about how you texted her and she got annoyed at what you texted?

 

[Mr. Sir]

Wait....you still haven't answered my question (or the same question from your other thread). Is this the same girl that you've been talking about in your previous threads...about how you texted her and she got annoyed at what you texted?

im not talking about one girl im talking about girls in general. and so she is included in girls in general.

 

[h i]

i cant really give advice. im fail with friends and relationships. my closest friendships are out of state, and ive known them about a year or two. i put the option that if they ever wanted more to let me know, otherwise im not asking or trying for more. weve been good friends. we share stuff, close to visiting or rooming. i love one. but i would never try for more. i feel like that is deceiving. im a friend.

i meet local women every now that then. i struggle just talking with them, because they dont have emotions... its about what we can do... where we can go... what do i do... where do i go... honestly from the start all i can think about is if another guy would really put up with this, and if so, is it for ***, and when would he cash in? i normally just stop talking to them because i dont have the charisma to use someone like that, or even contemplate something like that. i do know, if you dont start as a relationship, its never going to be a relationship. im told stories of friends becoming more... maybe with true love and marriage and stuff. in the real world, friends are either friends, or FWB. if the chemistry isnt there to begin with, then it just wont ever be there.

 

[Mr. Sir]

There's another part to this.

I SETTLE FOR BLENDING INTO THE WOODWORK BECAUSE THE OTHER OPTION IS BEING CONSIDERED A WEIRDO.

 

[AllAlone1]

I don't think you guys are getting what I'm saying. I make female friends fine. I try to act innocent and Forrest Gump like, being polite around them, because acting confident around them (in the past) has made me "intense" and "creepy". I have had plenty of female friends throughout my life in the places that I've been.

I'm 20 and my biological clock is ticking. My whole family is going to start thinking that I'm gay. I am so worried.

I can make all the women friends I want. I am polite and respectful as hell these days. But women don't find that sexually attractive. I'm not talking about one girl. I'm talking about girls in general. I make sure I never flirt, because flirting in the past has only gotten me stalkerized.

Please help me address this.

I think I know where you are coming from I guess it just depends more on what type of girl she is it's like picking and choosing your battle because if you don't you usually be the one that ends up hurt!

 

[Catalyst]

Spending too much time in other peoples' heads can drive you crazy.
:club:

 

[Mr. Sir]

Spending too much time in other peoples' heads can drive you crazy.
:club:

What should I do?

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Stop putting self emposed limitations on yourself. Get rid of the shame, guilt or internal conflicts.

Yes, I've been stalked before by 3-4 women. If you been stalked obviously some women finds
you attractive

Never the less , sometimes I'll still flirt. Some women will let me touch thier bodies.

I had a very close female friend. I was having a hard time after going through a long term relationship
break up...I found it difficult to even look at another woman's *** or to think of other women in a sexaul manner
becuase my mind or habits still thought I was in a relationship. The fact was I was single..
Anyhow, she used to let me play with her hair, hold her hands or roll on the couch with her even though
we didn't have ***. I felt guilt or awkward at first. She did it to help me break my habits or mental blocks.
It was okay...she was dating someone else at the time and she was very happy that I started dating other women.
We could had taking the relationship to the next level but we didn't. She used to come visit me all the time
after I got involved in another relationship. She loves me as a person

An intimately relationship is not all about ***. I was having a very imtimate relationship with my female friend
becuase I open up to her about everything about me. It's about trust. By being able to do that or had practice
of opening up myself to women. I was able to transfer that to my GF or lover.
Sometimes I'm closer to my freinds than my partner...But I know it wasn't me. It was actaully my partner that had
trust issues. But I also learned to be more understand of that.

I was giving one of my female friends a ride tonight...
I winked at another babe and got a big from her. My friend was like..Err wtf??? right on dude.
At least that babe knows she's attractive. Who knows...maybe in her mind, she dosn't think guys
fines her attractive? It put a smile on her face..So what's wrong with that????....nothing.

My experince of having relationship with female as friends is helping now.
My duaghter is 21. She needs me to be there for her as a father and as a friend.
We're building or continuing our relationship. I will always love her. She is my child.
However she is a young woman now. She and I can talk about anything and everything.
She trust me enough to open up to me about alot of her issues.
By having expeirnce of being friends wiht female. I understand women better.
I'm able to understand my duaghter better. She still knows I'm her father and knows I'm also her friend.
She and I actaully have a bond between us than I had with her mother even when she was a child.
I love her as my child, as my friend and as a person.

It's even helping now with my ex-wf. My ex-wf and I weren't the closest of friends when we were married.
We had major sexaul chemistries between us. I still have a lot of emotional bonds with her.
However I'm learning to be her friend today which was something we didn't have a whole lot of when we were married.
She and I are closer today in many ways then we were married. Yes, we're having an intimate relationship.
We needed to become friends for the sake of our duaghter and it's had been healing for the both of us.
An intimately relationship to me today is totally different than what I thought it was as a young man.

 

[viviana]

yeah i did not want to say this, but your reply crack me up man
i am a female, and i have some serious ticking in my clock because hey i am 20 and 5
i only comment because this the first laugh i had in a long time that;s all.

I'm 20 and my biological clock is ticking. My whole family is going to start thinking that I'm gay. I am so worried.

Lmao, you're male, not female. We don't have a biological clock - and even if we did, 20?

Oh, and what's so bad about people thinking you are gay?

 

[Jesse]

Women have clocks?

 

[Mr. Sir]

Even though I appreciate the help, what people aren't getting is that I'm just too old now. Everyone else started ******* when they were 14 and I'm 20 now. Most girls will think I'm a freakshow if they find that out. I'm just so behind.

I don't have any more time to lose. But if I tell a girl I like her, and ask her out, she's gonna say no, embarass me, and tell all of her friends "watch out for that guy".

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Even though I appreciate the help, what people aren't getting is that I'm just too old now. Everyone else started ******* when they were 14 and I'm 20 now. Most girls will think I'm a freakshow if they find that out. I'm just so behind.

I don't have any more time to lose. But if I tell a girl I like her, and ask her out, she's gonna say no, embarass me, and tell all of her friends "watch out for that guy".

Errr...I didn't lose my virginity until I was almost 19 and out of HS...
Guys in HS talks too much BS. 95% of the guys in HS never got laid.


The woman that broke me in actaully thought it was the sweetest
thing in the world that she actaully had me a virgin.

Stop worring so much...You're just generating fears and conflicts
within yourself.

Stop compairing yourself to what other people say.

Stop judging your inside by other people's outside.