I think I suffer from loveshyness

[loveshyness]

I just turned 25 yesterday and I said to myself what did I accomplish in my life. I have many good friends and I have my dream job and I bought myself a nice house but there is one thing missing. I am missing a girl. I never had a gf in my life or ever been close or had a friend that is a girl. I feel like a complete failure. I always wanted to get married and have kids but it doesn't look like it because I can never meet girls anywhere. All I do is work and come home and hang out with friends on the weekends as guys and it's always in the backyard or in the house. Do I give up and accept my life?

 

[IgnoredOne]

Loveshy men usually do not have friendships with other men, so I don't think that you are?

 

[loveshyness]

Loveshy men usually do not have friendships with other men, so I don't think that you are?

i guess you are right. i am not even shy but for some reason i never had females as friends. i don't know if it's because i took school seriously when i was young. i have an education but i see a lot of educated girls my age with guys with no education at all. i don't know if it's just the western society. maybe i am just too negative

 

[freedom]

no!

dude, if i were you, and i had the good friends that you have, i would just be straight with them and tell them that i need a girl and if they could set me up with a few good chicks. then i would just date them and see which one i liked the most and stay with her. you sound like a very succesful young man, so i don't see why you wouldn't be a hit with the ladies. girls like succesful men, not bums. you just have to get over your "loveshyness". it's all in your head, dude. i can guarantee you that much. you're not really loveshy ( i don't even think that's a real word), you just have too much on your mind to think clearly.

why don't a bunch of you get together and hit the town? i'm sure there are plenty of things to do around where you live. go to a bar, or a game, or a club, or something. it doesn't even have to be that hard. just go out to a bowling alley and have some good clean fun and forget that you're looking for a girl, and you'll probably meet one anyway. go to the pool or the beach if you live near the coast. with these temperatures, the beach is probably swarming with fine-lookin' dames.

good luck. i wish you the best on your ventures.

 

[ShybutHi]

There is such a thing as loveshyness. I made a post on this a litte while ago.

http://www.alonelylife.com/showthread.php?tid=14808

No idea what ignored is on about. Think he might of got the term mixed up with something else.

 

[edgecrusher]

i dont know if they have no friends or not. im pretty sure that im love shy and i have very few friends. most are more like acquaintences than friends. there isnt really anyone that i hang out with regularly. the people im around the most are my sister and roommate because i live with them.

 

[Mazda13bRotary]

Good friends, dream job, nice house? Sounds to me like you were busy living life rather than chasing girls and/or love! Don't worry, she'll come along...get yourself out there and it'll happen sooner than you think. Be aware of the gold digging women though!! Don't settle just so you can have a girlfriend!

 

[IgnoredOne]

There is such a thing as loveshyness. I made a post on this a litte while ago.

http://www.alonelylife.com/showthread.php?tid=14808

No idea what ignored is on about. Think he might of got the term mixed up with something else.

Most of the love-shy men, but none of the non-shy men, reported never having any friends; not even acquaintances. The vast majority of love-shy men reported being bullied by children their own age due to their inhibitions and interests, while none of the non-shy men did, and love-shy men were less likely to fight back against bullies. Around half of the love-shy men reported being bullied or harassed as late as high school, while none of the non-shy men did. Even as adults, the love-shy men reported remaining friendless and abused by other people.[8] Love-shy men reported this lack of acceptance by others as causing them to feel excessively lonely and depressed. However, this also caused the men not to want anything to do with same-sex individuals.[1]

Again, I do not think that the OP is loveshy, just needs more experience and perhaps a great love for challenges at the very most. Loveshyness is quite different.