This exact belief is the root problem. Doing something about it is not a choice, it is a necessity. You will have to do it. If you have a functioning body, so much is possible, that you couldn't even attain in lifetimes.
Everything that one possesses as a man, has to be acquired by him. That defines his 'value' in the society. This is true whether you and I like it or not.
The primary qualities of a woman that man finds attractive are physical beauty and femininity. Sure, we look for more things but these are the dominating aspects. Much of this is granted to her without too much effort. This is not true in case of a man. The things that make a man attractive have to be acquired by him. This takes effort.
The good thing about this is that the potential is infinite, your belief is the limit.
It is fine that you started as average, but it is not okay to stay average. Do something about it.
Take things differently this time. Take a positive approach on improving yourself, for once. It is a hard and painful endeavor, but it is totally worth it.
It is very easy to come out of the "average" thing.
You don't have to be a 10/10 at something. You should strive to be a 7-8 at 3 to 4 things.
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Consider this:
Let's look at physical attractiveness. 90% of young men do not even do any sort of physical training. Simply by starting physical training, you're standing out from 90% of men. Now zoom in on those 10%. 90% of them don't have a planned regime, a nutritious diet and consistency. If you do that, you're already in the 1%. Here, there will be cut throat competition. Things are way harder here than so far. People here are very serious about their goals.
Now let's consider another aspect. Wealth. Most people save nothing. Most of the people who save do not invest. Most of the people who invest do not do it strategically. If you start investing your savings strategically by gaining the necessary knowledge, you see how you are way ahead of most of the people.
NOW. Let's mix the two. Most fitness freaks are not strategic investors. Most strategic investors are not fitness freaks. Imagine you are working on both these aspects with utmost dedication for a long time. Tell me how you are still "average'.
Now mix 3 aspects and try to excel at those. See where it takes you.
Above things are just examples and could vary based on things you want to work out on.
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This is very good advice and posts like this show that the internet is not all trash.
But the thing is, this type of mindset has to be built up when young.
It is, or should be, the primary responsibility of a boy's father to do this -- to train his son both physically and mentally to be a man.
Unfortunately many of us, myself included, did not receive this training (though my father was more than capable).
That's where the internet comes in.
Teenage boys and young adults can read advice like the above and have online mentors to help them improve.
There is a limit though. Once a guy hits his mid/late 30s, 40s or 50s...there just so much that can be done.
I know people here will disagree, but...while you may be able to teach an old dog a few new tricks, it just won't be the same.
This has to happen earlier in life to have the full effect.
Not saying older guys can't be better, or shouldn't keep trying. But the results will not be drastic.
Father's day is next Sunday.
To all you dads out there, remember to train your sons. It's the most important job you have!
