Insignificant

[rockyoursocksoff]

Hi everyone, and thankyou for accepting me in to your group. Here is a brief introduction of my current circumstance

Insignificant. That sums me up. Low self-esteem has led me to feelings of terrible loneliness and feelings of isolation (even in a room full of friends). I am 35 years old 4'11" tall, slightly over-weight, wear glasses and feel terribly un-attractive and as a result I have never had a girlfriend. It has got to a point that when I see a woman I am attracted to I never think of trying my luck with them, as who in there right mind would be attracted to me. 35 years old and already resigned to dying a lonely old man.

Because of my height I have always felt different to other men. I am also not very good at telling friends my feelings so I always just act the comedian even though inside I am crying. I am overly cautious of telling anyone I know my true feelings just incase they cant keep my secret.

 

[PrinceOfPeace]

Dude, some of the most unattractive friends I have are some of the coolest guys I know, with beautiful girl friends seriously an awesome character can make up for alot and if u have humour to go with it then u can actualy be more attractive than u think, making people laugh & feel good about them selves is a great quality and sometimes thats all you need to make someone fall head over heels in love! Dont give up my friend!

 

[Sci-Fi]

No one is insignificant.

Welcome to the forum.

 

[PrinceOfPeace]

By the way I used to think I wasnt attractive to females cos Im a big guy full of tattoos people look at me think im the violent type, but when they get to know me and see that im just a quietly soft spoken humble person they find it attractive for some reason & so Ive had some very beautiful girls ask me out, sometimes it takes someone else to show you the beautiful qualitys you have inside you.

 

[Jocsaint]

Welcome to the forum, my friend. I'm sorry that I can't offer you any advice or words of wisdom, but there are others here who can. Enjoy your stay. Also, if you need someone to chat with, PM me. I'm usually always around and I respond to everyone as quick as I can. Here is a small list (link at the bottom) of my interests, maybe we have something in common.

http://www.alonelylife.com/showthread.php?tid=27293

 

[Edward W]

Hi and welcome

 

[Rosebolt]

You've never had a girlfriend because you resigned yourself to the idea of never getting any. Who wants to be with someone who views themselves as insignificant and unworthy?

You're only as insignificant as you make yourself out to be. You're a soul just like everyone else, you're an individual, a special person. There's no one on this world exactly like you. Show the world who you are, because you have every right to breathe, eat, and weigh 100000 pounds for all i care. You're worthy of all the space you need and/or want.

Significance radiates from your very being, insignificance is a mere lie that life throws at you to throw you down. Don't stay there! Get up again! You know you can, and so do i!

Good luck.

 

[9006]

Welcome to the site.

 

[ladyforsaken]

Hey there, welcome to the forum.

 

[ZynischeWirklichkeit]

Welcome to the forum! I do hope that you enjoy your stay here

First off, you are not insignificant. Society is brainwashing you into thinking this. Society tries to demand men to be tall, muscular, and emotionally strong. Society tries to tell women to be skinny and look like a model. Not everyone fits the "standards" of society. The first step to gaining self-esteem is to let go of society's wants and desires physically in a human being. To a caged mind, society has rules about how people need to look, but to the free mind, there are no rules about people having to be skinny or tall. Society brainwashes people through the media, radio, TV, etc. I see so many minds that need to be set free from their cages. Just because you look different, does not mean that you are insignificant!

Another thing is that society tries to define success and significance in life by the relationship status of people. Just because you do not have a girlfriend does not mean that you will never have a girlfriend. It does not mean that you are insignificant. You never having a girlfriend before might be due to the ignorance of society. So many TV shows, radio songs, etc place the highest value in a relationship on how physically attractive someone is. This causes people to look for what society defines as attractive. Screw society! Screw what they think. Be yourself and someday, you will find a lovely lady to accept you for who you are. There are very few people out there that place personality as the highest attracting factor, but there are still some people. You are not a failure. Society is the failure. No wonder there are so many people with low self esteem like you and me. No wonder there are so many people with eating disorders. Society has messed up so many people.

Maybe you are beautiful. Perhaps your personality is really great. Just because you don't look like how society wants you to, doesn't mean that you are unattractive or ugly. A beautiful personality outshines physical beauty in my opinion. I can tell you one good thing right now. You have shown your emotion on here and that takes a lot of courage these days. You did very well on that.

I know what it's like to sit in a room full of people yet still feel lonely. I know what you mean by that. I understand that it is hard for you to express your true feelings. It is difficult, especially since so many people gossip and judge. I hope that we can all help you to feel better about yourself.

One more point, different people feel attraction different things. Some people like blond hair, some like brunette. Some people are attracted to heavy people, other people not, etc. People have different preferences.