Is It Really This Simple?

[AFrozenSoul]

So Yesterday I stumbled upon this article. I am doing my best to try and get over my fear of talking to others so I can go out and meet people. Yes I won't lie it is to meet women, but I also want to make new friend. This article kind of annoys and.. umm gives me hope.

It annoys me because of the fact that they make it seem like meeting people is easy. All you have to do is these 4 things. Granted they are relatively simple things. However, too someone like me they seem like an impossible hurdle. Even the small stuff like smile. I know that will make me more inviting, however, that will not invite the people I want to meet over too me. Then there is the problem of figuring out what to say to others. I mean when I look at this list of 4 "simple" things I see for complicated tasks laid out before me. How does one even go about doing some of this?

I also said it gives me hope. Because while I see 4 huge hurdles in front of me. Everything is daunting in the beginning. Hell just trying to wake up in the morning a little earlier was a challenge so I could eat breakfast. However, I after I stuck with it for a while it became easier. Also if I could do just these 4 things and make a few friends, I would be content... possibly.

I don't know, this is the first relatively simple guide to meeting people that I have come across. It basically says what I have been told by others, however, it gives me simple examples to work with as well. Which is something that I rarely get advice on. Most of the time I am just told to go out and "do it".

Any thoughts? I figured I would share this with everyone since most of us just want to figure out how to meet people.

 

[VanillaCreme]

From what I've observed from you, your desire for meeting women has kind of shunned anything else. Your focus on that is so strong, that anything else just flies out of the window. I would think that once you establish a social connection with people in general, then meeting females should be that much smoother. That article has some good tips and good examples. I know it's easier said than done, but take what that article said into consideration the next time you go out and talk to people. Have those four things in the back of your mind, like a guide.

 

[Badjedidude]

^^^Agree.

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(Am I the only one who finds this baby to be quite unsettling?)

 

[suckaG]

^^^^^^ no, no bjd, you aren't the only one! that baby is about one bite of swiss cheese away from trying to cut someone up with a carving knife.

 

[Badjedidude]

^^^LOL haha exactly.

 

[MrPUA]

Yes it is sir. Look at it this way, be confident with a woman, she will be attracted to you. It's THAT simple. But, how do you get confident? TALK TO WOMEN. Keep talking to them, realize, YOU WON'T DIE if you talk to a woman, despite the fact that just before the approach, it feels like you might. You will get comfortable and realize that you're a valuable confident dude.

 

[QuietGuy]

I think the golden rule for success when starting a conversation with a stranger is: pick a topic which is likely to lead to a good conversation without much effort.

Thinking back on the random conversations that strangers have initiated with me over the last few weeks, I realise that the occasion and the circumstances are key to success. For example, a museum is a great place, because you could easily start a conversation about a particular exhibit, and then keep the conversation going by referring to other nearby exhibits.

A few days ago, a guy on the train asked me for some advice about the best way to get to his destination. After we'd had a good chat about the possible options, the conversation branched out, to include the activities that we'd each got planned for the day, and I gave him a few interesting facts about the stations we were passing through.