Is your loneliness your own making?

[Pheenix]

Hahaha yeah that probably wouldn't be a good idea.

If you really enjoy women, then naturally, your mind will look for them or ways to get them by itself.

 

[IgnoredOne]

What the Secret gets right is this: you get what you want. As in, the two things one need to complete a task is motivation and competence. If you have motivation, you just need competence. If you have motivation for getting competence, you are basically home free for all troubles in life.
But in reality, it's a bit less black and white in that. You would need a heck-load of motivation to start doing something about your competence. If you had a fair deal of self-confidence on the side, you would need considerably less though.

The Secret relies a lot on the idea that visualization and thought to bring your vibrational level(some mystical influence) to bring what you seek into your life. In essence, its like watching the TV and if you want to watch action shows, you should switch your channel to the action channel - the Secret claims that its techniques basically show you how to control the remote.

Its an interesting esoteric concept, and one that is quite rooted in a lot of occultic thought, as well as some recent pseudoscience of the so-called quantum universe/consciousness. Being someone who has dabbled with occultism and read quite a bit, though, I find it laughably pop stupidity that takes one concept without considering all the other underpinnings.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

What the **** do we know ...also
goseinto quantum physic....

Really its not that complicate....
If you observe a person with
with poor self confidence...
The way that person carries him/herself. the vibration or VIBE that persons gives out...gives otther
people instructions how to them..
such as dont approch them

Just like u can observe members on here mking threads of how their lifes
suck over and over again or whatever crap they getinvolve in the chat....people get tired of the negative **** . they drive people
away. Therfore creating thier own
misery...Notice how the complain
aboiut whatever..FB, other couples.
lack of firends...etc
These are the negative thoughts
they.re holding in their mind...and everything is manifestting itself...

so it that process is working in a neghative way for a person....why wouldnt work in positive ways?

 

[Pheenix]

That is true. The Secret ***** that thought over, though.

 

[IgnoredOne]

That is true. The Secret ***** that thought over, though.

And then has incest with its own babies.

 

[lonelyfairy]

''Is your loneliness your own making?'' <-------- Yeah, it is for me, I have to be more social or I never get any real life friends.

I have two good friends in here, thankfully. :'>

 

[WishingWell]

Sci-Fi Wrote:

Now to answer your topic question, yes it is of my own making, I'm a shy person, I find it very difficult to just go out and meet people. It terrifies me to put myself out like that. So I go home everyday after work to my small apartment, and sit online to chat with people I will probably never get to meet. People I can share things in common with.



I don't believe it is of his own making. Being shy and being terrified to put yourself out there is a FEAR.

As far as my lonliness being of my own making, if I had the opportunity to get out of my situation where I live, wasn't disabled, and could drive and go places, DON'T YOU THINK I WOULD???

 

[nerdygirl]

I wrote you a PM some time ago, and you never wrote back. In addition, I've got to say that from what I've seen you post, you're not the friendliest of fellows, yourself.

My loneliness is of my own making. A lot of people have a hard time maintaining a friendship without fairly constant communication. Unfortunately, I get these stretches of time in which I just want to be alone. Even Instant Messages are overwhelming for me during that. When I re-emerge from my self-imposed isolation, there isn't anybody around. I totally understand, and I don't resent people for it, but it doesn't make this any less lonesome for me.

 

[Ak5]

Sure my social isolation was my own making. I am using this as a way to prepare myself for inclusion into society. The way I was before, I was on the path to being a hostile person or possibly suicidal; this is why I chose to be isolated for a temporary period. Now that I soon have an opportunity to start fresh and new, of course I would never miss it. From fat, ugly, un-confident to tall, fit, confident person.

 

[Poguesy]

You guys want to bitch and rant about how bad stuff is for you, but actually you do not want to engage with anyone on a personal level…

LOL

 

[Ak5]

We're here to support each other, not become personal. Personal issues is for your family and someone with a degree in Medicine. We listen to others troubles and offer advice.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

The cells in our body reproduces itself..almost a replicate of current
cell..which was a replicate of the privious cell.
The receptors in our brains adjust
to semse in the same way...over time.
Our body produce and release these chemicle accordingly....
Misery or loniness becomes a sort of addiction. So people set up condtions
to release those chemicle over and over again. Hence creating their own misery....
When changing. A person will go through a stage of withdraws of negative thinking.
All is require is just willing and presevernce as a peron create possitive thoughts and emotions.

A person can use this process to work for them or againt them..

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Motivations.....
None of us lack motivations..
Its in the pay offs.

We.re either more motivated to
sit on our ass or get off of our *****.

Whats the payoff of wanting people to feel sorry for us or playing fucken sick???? The attentions
Play sick...the payoffs would having others take care of us. Therefore we remain lazy..whats the payoff in being lazy...if dont have to do ****.

Whats the payoff in getting GFs with big ass titays? She slaps her tityas againt my face as she riding me like a wild stallion..feels so so good as my brain releases those feel good endorphins..again n again...
yes...Im addicted to BIB ****S

 

[beans]

I have been on this forum a while. Now I came on this forum because I thought I could meet and get to know like minded people who were feeling alone and low like me. But after a good few months I have to say. Your not the friendliest of fellows!

I have tried to talk to a lot of people on here. But it is never reciprocated. It never goes anywhere. Those who do reply do so out of politeness. You can tell. You guys want to bitch and rant about how bad stuff is for you, but actually you do not want to engage with anyone on a personal level…

Someone posted a poll that said “do you hate me”.

I don’t know you! How could I like or hate you. You people moan you do not have friends but how will you get any if you don’t want to talk to anyone?

What should be good about this forum is that we all have problems and are all lonely therefore we should all have some form of common ground to be able to get along with each other. Out of this some friendships should be born.

But no. Nothing. People post their self indulgent moaning but don’t actually want to talk to anyone.

I’m a 30 yr old ex alternative music DJ and ex singer/producer with 5 cats, my own business and I’m gay. Surely I am appealing to some people?

Why do you guys not want to talk?

PS this post is dedicated to the user “SOUP”.

Hmm my question is, are those people who you tried to talk on here mainly guys? Just asking sincerely ok.

 

[Jilted John]

Your post answers your question.

 

[lovelace]

In real life - yes, my own making.
On internet - no. There are actually two persons that I would love to talk to more. But there is nothing much that I can do about it.

 

[cumulus.james]

I have posted this a trillion times and I will do it again: People aren't social on forums. That's not what forums are for. Find an IRC channel and hang out there.

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To the topic name question, that seems kinda off, yes, my loneliness is my own doing. I was a pretty pathetic person when I was younger. I thought that manners, patience and discipline all the qualities a person needed. That said, people were a-holes in my school and I can see why I wouldn't hang out with them in retrospect.
In the end, I'm fatalist, and believe that everyone are consequences of what happened to them. People messed with me, I messed with myself...

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I don’t even know what an IRC is let alone how to find one….It sounds very geeky.

 

[Pheenix]

Ha, it is mildly geeky, but finding googling a client and googling a databse over channels is really all one needs to do to make it work.

Anyway, it seems I wasn't quite right in my initial assessment. Apparently some people do bring in large social dimensions to their forum-going. But I know a heck of a lot of people who don't, also, so one should never take it as an insult to be ignored on a forum, lest one is actively being ignored in an ongoing conversation with someone.

 

[cumulus.james]

When I walk down the street and pass people and I am curios about them and wonder what they are like as people I very rarely imagine them "googling a client and googling a database over channels".

That is not how the general population behaves.

So it is is surely wrong to think you would meet a friend in your area though such elaborate and complex means. My village has 4000 people in it. I would be surprised if just one of them knew how to "Google a client and Google a database over channels". This is the behavior of "comic book guy" from the Simpsons surely? Not of everyday people?????

 

[Pheenix]

It's not exactly high-end stuff. It's easier than learning how to switch a graphics-card.
IRC's are just chat rooms, which is where people will actually exchange greetings and try to know each other on a more personal basis. That's all I was getting at.

 

[IgnoredOne]

So it is is surely wrong to think you would meet a friend in your area though such elaborate and complex means. My village has 4000 people in it. I would be surprised if just one of them knew how to "Google a client and Google a database over channels". This is the behavior of "comic book guy" from the Simpsons surely? Not of everyday people?????

Hello, my name is I. O. and I am a IRCoholic.

No, use of chat rooms is hard any extreme of rarity; I personally use MUSHes more, however, and that has been a means of social dimension once upon a time.

cumulus.james, to be completely frank, you seem to conceive the world very differently even from many of the others here who share concerns of loneliness. This might be why communications with you are difficult; I once tried to provide advice to what I knew, and you all but lashed out and insulted my entire way of life. That does not lead to amicable communication, in my experience.