Im leaving this shity world just trying to get the courage up.The reason 35yo never had a girlfriend have had heaps of sex but no girlfriend i dont care about sex i just wanted that feeling of being in love the little things like holding hands laying on the couch together hugging and kissing the closeness .Even if i got a girlfriend tomorrow so what i wasted all those years doing nothing while everyone else had girlfriends i am deadset a loser. Most of you people will reply and say keep your head up and stuff like that which is nice but i bet you people where and are normal and have or had girlfriends/boyfriends. My advice to any younger shy guys who think a girl is going to fall on your lap it aint dont be like me do somethng or you will live to regret it.
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Walley
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do you know how many people say or think like that?
oh, because you have had a girlfriend you can never understand, or because you have a job you can't know what it's like to be poor, or because you have a house you don't know what it's like to be homeless.
well guess what? there are (dare I say) millions of people in the same boat as you! and even those that may be married now, may have once known what it was like to feel deperate and alone.
but you know what else?
even though you may not head the advice of someone you dont see as "being able to understand", just maybe they are the ones you should listen to?
those who have been in your place and had the oppurotunity to move past it?
i'm sorry if i sound like i have attitude, but I do tire of hearing people discount opinions of others because they think others can have no idea what they are going though just simply because their lives in at a different stage at this time.
the only way you are going to understand that though is when you get there yourself... but that won't happen by giving up.
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Bob Arctor
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Yeah I gotta say this is an incredibly lame reason to check out early.
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Ryan76 said:
Wait, if you've had "heaps of sex", why do you feel so distant from having a girlfriend?
It sounds to me like perhaps you only need to slightly adapt how you approach girls or something. It's really not an issue worth ending your life over, it's something you should be able to fix.
Also, dwelling in the past and writing off your future because of what you could have done doesn't make sense. Why don't you make up for that "lost time" now and get yourself an amazing GF? After all, you only need one special girl to provide you with all of that stuff you "missed out" on. And 35 isn't old, you're not even middle aged yet.
There are lots of girls who are amazingly smart/funny/physically attractive in their 30's, plus they're often more mature than their slightly younger counterparts.
I say all this as a single virgin too, not someone with loads of exes giving you sentimental BS. Sometimes I even wish I was a tiny bit older, just because girls in their 30's feel so much easier to relate to than some of the people around my age (20's).
In short: don't throw your life away because of some perceived inadequacy, you still have everything to play for.
PrincessShameless
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Dont do that. Everyone has someone. Just stop going straight for the sex an actually give yourself the time to know someone. When you come right out and just give a girl your dick shes going to think thats all you wanted in the first place and is not going to want to be in a relationship with you because whenever you hang out all your going to do is have sex. Why dont you put it in your pants and leave it there. And then talk to a girl without trying to get it in for like 5 months or so. Really get to know her and get her to fall inlove with you. Take her on a date. Take her home. Send her cute text. Let her know you are interested in everything but her vag. Dont say things like "i just want to touch your boobs but im not going to " because that just ruins everything. You prolly just dont know how to control yourself around women. Or you go for the sex to fast. You cant be ugly if youve had tons of sex.
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WallflowerGirl83
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Yeah recently all I felt I was needed for was sex and but I wanted love. What did I do? I put up a wall around me now. I want a person to love me for me rather than jump into sex. Just take a step back and look at your life and how it's going. If you don't like what you see, try doing something for yourself for a change. Sex now is serious to me, and I don't take it lightly anymore. If I see all they want is sex I move on cause I want love. A relationship. And be by there side always. Love is very hard to find. And I'm sure you'll find love one day. Meaningless sex is nothing.
