Just looking for a friend

[Fvantom]

all Ive ever wanted was someone I can talk to every day, someone whos always there when I need a friend. I always treat people as a friend rather than a simple acquaintance but they rarely ever return the favor. It seems like everyone around me has great friends, many of them dont even know it, just take it for granted, and it kills me to see everybody being happy while Im still alone. Ive been trying to find a real friend for over 7 years now, my entire teen years I was completely alone, and I still am, yet everywhere I look, I see people with real friends, as if its so easy to find someone who actually cares while Im having to fend for myself, all I ask is why cant I find what Im looking for, yet it seems to come so easy for everyone else?

 

[LoneKiller]

Hey Fvantom.

I'm sorry to hear about your dilemma. Maybe you are trying too hard. What I would do is frequent certain places where you can't help but talk to others. Places like the YMCA where basketball tends to be the most popular activity, if you are not down with basketball, maybe join a gym and workout every day.

I've met several pretty decent folks at my local gym. I've also met a lot of people attending my Tae Kwon Do classes. You will find several references in some of my posts about the benefits of martial arts. It has given more confidence, keeps me in shape and there is nothing like the feeling after class is over. Nice and loose and with a good kind of pain.

If you like chess, join a local club. It's a great place to meet pretty decent people. I'm not sure what else to say except that if you need to talk privately, send me a pm and I talk with you about anything you want, and it will be strictly confidential. I'm the only user of this computer.(Can't stop the Administrator from reading though. I'm not saying he or she does read them. I believe that they do have an option available to do so.)

I haven't been here long, but so far, I've come to realize just how compassionate the members here are. I'm certain they will be more than happy to help. Keep your chin up Boss, you've picked the perfect spot to come to when you need a shoulder to cry on.

Be well.
LoneKiller

 

[Fvantom]

Well the problem isnt so much meeting people, I know several people, my problem is that Im trying to find friends that I can be really close with, but everybody I talk to just wants to be acquaintances.

 

[Ian Haines]

Where, in this world, are you?

 

[Ak5]

If your not happy with you people you know now, find other friends.

Finding close and enduring friendships are difficult, I believe. You can only find these with people whom you share the same ideology and hobbies.

Try to get closer to the people you know now, or try to find new people.

The most important thing: Do not give up. You will make friends in College, you will graduate, and you will make friends on the job.

Well, another thing: Try everyday to say "I can!" it really works.

 

[Fvantom]

Im in the US, Florida to be exact.

And if real friendship is so hard to find, why does it seem like everyone around me has it?

 

[Ak5]

Im in the US, Florida to be exact.

And if real friendship is so hard to find, why does it seem like everyone around me has it?

Hey, I am living in FL as well!

 

[Fvantom]

Really, what part?

 

[Ian Haines]

Ding! That's one of the secrets of breaking the loneliness up, just a bit!

The closer you get, geographically, to other forum users, the more hurried and keen you feel.

Could be a clue for us in there, somewhere.

My only advice is that you all go back to your profiles and say which country you're in.

One day, you might see, "Really, what part?" aimed at you, also!

 

[twinklestar]

all Ive ever wanted was someone I can talk to every day, someone whos always there when I need a friend. I always treat people as a friend rather than a simple acquaintance but they rarely ever return the favor. It seems like everyone around me has great friends, many of them dont even know it, just take it for granted, and it kills me to see everybody being happy while Im still alone. Ive been trying to find a real friend for over 7 years now, my entire teen years I was completely alone, and I still am, yet everywhere I look, I see people with real friends, as if its so easy to find someone who actually cares while Im having to fend for myself, all I ask is why cant I find what Im looking for, yet it seems to come so easy for everyone else?

hey I'll be your friend..xxx

 

[xrchz]

Ding! That's one of the secrets of breaking the loneliness up, just a bit!

The closer you get, geographically, to other forum users, the more hurried and keen you feel.

Could be a clue for us in there, somewhere.

My only advice is that you all go back to your profiles and say which country you're in.

One day, you might see, "Really, what part?" aimed at you, also!

Seconded!