**** Loneliness.

[Solitary man]

:club:

 

[Callie]

I agree :club: :club: :club:


I really just wanted to use the club

 

[Poguesy]

Yes, let's give it a good old ****

 

[putter65]

I think you've got to reach out to people. Instead of waiting for people to get in touch with you. I've just sent a message on facebook to this woman I used to work with. She answered it straight away. I could think, 'I am getting on her nerves' or 'why doesn't she send me messages first ?' or 'what does she think about me ?' - I should really be thinking 'she was happy I thought of her and got in touch' - I am quick to dismiss compliments people give. This woman I had coffee with yesterday said 'she was happy when she got a text from me' - but she didn't have any credit on her phone to answer. Of course I felt she didn't care and deleted her number off my mobile and deleted off my facebook. Unknown to me, she tries to send me a message on facebook but can't. She then borrows a mobile from one of her mates and sends me a text. She then rings me up from work and asks me if I fancy a coffee and a chat. (The coffee and chat was really nice, she wants to be friends with me, wants me to send her a text every week. She sounded upset that I didn't bother with her for awhile)

She made all that effort. I thought she didn't care about me one bit. When you think about it, it's no wonder I'm lonely when I think like I do. I obsess about the bad and ignore the good.

 

[Ak5]

**** off, is more like it.

 

[Solitary man]

She made all that effort. I thought she didn't care about me one bit. When you think about it, it's no wonder I'm lonely when I think like I do. I obsess about the bad and ignore the good.

I used to look upon pessimism and cynicism as being realistic, and viewed people who were positive as being naive and foolish. Experience has taught me that it's just as feasible to view the glass as half full as opposed to half empty.

 

[Ak5]

She made all that effort. I thought she didn't care about me one bit. When you think about it, it's no wonder I'm lonely when I think like I do. I obsess about the bad and ignore the good.

I used to look upon pessimism and cynicism as being realistic, and viewed people who were positive as being naive and foolish. Experience has taught me that it's just as feasible to view the glass as half full as opposed to half empty.

I've always preferred the optimistic look, but sporadically fall into the pessimistic one. Who wants to stay depressed all the time? Seeing it as half full is a better viewpoint, I agree.

 

[putter65]

She made all that effort. I thought she didn't care about me one bit. When you think about it, it's no wonder I'm lonely when I think like I do. I obsess about the bad and ignore the good.

I used to look upon pessimism and cynicism as being realistic, and viewed people who were positive as being naive and foolish. Experience has taught me that it's just as feasible to view the glass as half full as opposed to half empty.

I think am getting there. It's probably about 20 years later than it should have been though.

That woman I had coffee with, I told her I used to have feelings for her. It didn't bother her. I'm not fretting or embarrassed that I told her. Maybe next time I will tell a woman at the right time and not a year later. When I was in my 20's I would have never of dreamed of saying what I did.

I think you learn and develop from having experiences. And finally I am having some.

I've always preferred the optimistic look, but sporadically fall into the pessimistic one. Who wants to stay depressed all the time? Seeing it as half full is a better viewpoint, I agree.

 

[tusk]

"Half empty" doesn't even make sense. 0.5 * 0 = 0!

 

[Solitary man]

Man, I've tried ******* this loneliness, but it ain't shaking.

Ever thought about ending your lonely life?

Me too.

 

[beautifulsorrow]

yeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaas **** it all

 

[aribeth]

I think loneliness gone past the point of no return. I'm alone I tell myself but it doesnt mean I have to be lonely. I get bored with myself though. When I first moved to this small town I was lonely. Had a couple of friends in the big city. Tried many ways to make friends but no luck. Meet some people at church but they are more just acquantances. I've grown past loneliness to just being alone. But I sure do get bored with myself often. Most times I just sleep the day away.

 

[Solitary man]

I moved from the city to the countryside, to a very beautiful location. I never thought that the peace and quiet of the country, something which I perceived as a positive, could actually be a negative. It's so peaceful and quiet here that the silence can actually become oppressive.

 

[Lost Drifter]

"Take away a man's light, his clothes, his food, his friends, his air, and you leave him with nothing but himself. And for most, that is not pleasant company."

 

[Tiina63]

"Take away a man's light, his clothes, his food, his friends, his air, and you leave him with nothing but himself. And for most, that is not pleasant company."

This is true. Your thoughts start to gather in on you like vultures circling a dying person in the desert.

 

[Fitz]

"Battle not with monsters, lest ye become a monster, and if you gaze into the abyss, the abyss gazes also into you."

 

[Gutted]

I think you've got to reach out to people. Instead of waiting for people to get in touch with you. I've just sent a message on facebook to this woman I used to work with. She answered it straight away. I could think, 'I am getting on her nerves' or 'why doesn't she send me messages first ?' or 'what does she think about me ?' - I should really be thinking 'she was happy I thought of her and got in touch' - I am quick to dismiss compliments people give. This woman I had coffee with yesterday said 'she was happy when she got a text from me' - but she didn't have any credit on her phone to answer. Of course I felt she didn't care and deleted her number off my mobile and deleted off my facebook. Unknown to me, she tries to send me a message on facebook but can't. She then borrows a mobile from one of her mates and sends me a text. She then rings me up from work and asks me if I fancy a coffee and a chat. (The coffee and chat was really nice, she wants to be friends with me, wants me to send her a text every week. She sounded upset that I didn't bother with her for awhile)

She made all that effort. I thought she didn't care about me one bit. When you think about it, it's no wonder I'm lonely when I think like I do. I obsess about the bad and ignore the good.

You remind me of me a little there. I am way too stubborn sometimes to people lol. I stopped talking to some people because they didn't appear to care. But when they eventually contacted me, they showed that they do care. They just happen to live a busier life then myself (Which is good and bad I suppose lol)