Long term friendly neighbor moving I feel very sad and lonely

[HappyYogi]

Hi.

Just found out one of my neighbors is moving. She has been here for 12 years and has been a supportive "email" friend. We've chit chatted about many issues and she has always been supportive. She also walks my dogs when I am busy or tired for a good price.

We'll she is leaving and I feel so sad. Although I totally understand her leaving...it's very natural to leave, to change to move when you have a better deal. And in this case she has a chance to live in a much larger home for similar price because she'll be managing it.

So, of course, I understand but I feel so sad right now. Makes me feel lonely! It's like knowing she is there is comforting.

She said we can still email and she will still help with the dogs so it isn't a totaly good bye.

I wonder if I'd be feeling this if I didn't live alone. We never became real time friends (I manage the building so perhaps she didn't feel comfortable)....but she felt like a friend in many ways because she was just an email or text message away and could discuss many things.

Normal? Sigh....feeling really lonely right now.

 

[fox]

Sorry to hear that, HappyYogi.. certainly it is understandable, you are sad in this situation. Maybe that she moves away now, and you no longer manage the building she lives, there will be opportunity.. you can become a friend with her really.

Since you plan to keep contact, very well it can be a possibility, so maybe it can be a good thing. In any case, I hope you can feel better about it soon.

 

[Tiina63]

I'm sorry to hear that your nice neighbour is moving. But, as fox, says, maybe you will be able to become 'real' friends now that she won't be living in the building you manage. You said she will still be helping with your dogs, so it sounds as if she will still be fairly nearby? And you will still have the email contact. I hope that someone nice moves in, as well, to her old place.

 

[Sci-Fi]

What you are feeling is completely normal, but at least you aren't losing her for good. She wants to keep in contact with you so that's good too. Like others have said, this may be more positive than negative. You might be able to build more of a real friendship now.

 

[HappyYogi]

Thanks everyone. I think part of the pain is that she is "moving on" with life and it makes me wonder if I am moving forward "enough" with life as well? I am always trying, doing new things but have stayed here for years because it is so affordable and I have a large yard/garden. And she is only moving her place and taking the awesome opportunity to move into a coveted neighborhood, a four bedroom HOME, for the same price as her two bedroom apartment...OF COURSE she should take it! She is a single mom...she must take it...might not come again!

Well, this is another inspiration to declutter my life more...and make room for new ideas, new experiences, new life as well.

I'll be fine. Thanks everyone.