Papabear
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So my best friend, the person other than my parents who has been in my life the longest is starting to fade. We met back in high school and are now pushing our late 20's.
Unfortunately he's starting to be lost because of a woman. They met YEARS ago on the internet, however people met back then. Ever since I can remember her existing he has had LESS than 10 positive things to say, yet nearly every time she called or he called her, it ended with her hanging up on him, pissed off because he was in the middle of dinner or something or other.
I took the initiative to try and get to know her, be friends, learn about her and what not. Over the few years we talked online (which wasn't super often) all she EVER did was ***** about my friend that she's dating, another friend of ours has said the same thing.
Well we all moved out to another place due to some circumstances and now we are all living together. She is a god damned monster. There is NOT a time when she is not freaking out at him. Every night ends with her slamming the doors as she runs to bed, last night it was because he tasted the hummus we bought before dinner (OMG I KNOW RIGHT). When he's not around ALL she does is ***** and complain about him. She isn't fun, entertaining, or anything like that. All she wants to do is sit around. He is starting to become a shell of a person he used to be, he's miserable CONSTANTLY, hasn't done anything outgoing, fun, or that he likes to do in ages. The only time he'll ever go out at all is when she goes and that always ends with her pissed about something stupid half-way through and him being reserved the rest of the time.
We have several other friends, all of which made the mistake of getting someone pregnant and ending up in these AWFUL relationships (product of having a child when you are 20 with a druggie, abusive person, etc.) My friend that is now in the ****** relationship used to talk **** on these guys allt he time, calling them out, etc. etc..
Now I try to talk to him about this ****, and his response "I don't want to talk about it". Now I'm pissed off at him for being a hypocrite, not to mention that his relationship is far worse (she hits him when she gets mad... to the point that it hurts him), AND they don't have a damn kid (read: the one semi-viable reason to stay). Then when he finally does talk about it all he says is "i cant **** stuff up with her" or he comes up with some damn excuse for her thats so full of shi* it's pathetic.
I want my god damned friend back and I don't know what to do.
Unfortunately he's starting to be lost because of a woman. They met YEARS ago on the internet, however people met back then. Ever since I can remember her existing he has had LESS than 10 positive things to say, yet nearly every time she called or he called her, it ended with her hanging up on him, pissed off because he was in the middle of dinner or something or other.
I took the initiative to try and get to know her, be friends, learn about her and what not. Over the few years we talked online (which wasn't super often) all she EVER did was ***** about my friend that she's dating, another friend of ours has said the same thing.
Well we all moved out to another place due to some circumstances and now we are all living together. She is a god damned monster. There is NOT a time when she is not freaking out at him. Every night ends with her slamming the doors as she runs to bed, last night it was because he tasted the hummus we bought before dinner (OMG I KNOW RIGHT). When he's not around ALL she does is ***** and complain about him. She isn't fun, entertaining, or anything like that. All she wants to do is sit around. He is starting to become a shell of a person he used to be, he's miserable CONSTANTLY, hasn't done anything outgoing, fun, or that he likes to do in ages. The only time he'll ever go out at all is when she goes and that always ends with her pissed about something stupid half-way through and him being reserved the rest of the time.
We have several other friends, all of which made the mistake of getting someone pregnant and ending up in these AWFUL relationships (product of having a child when you are 20 with a druggie, abusive person, etc.) My friend that is now in the ****** relationship used to talk **** on these guys allt he time, calling them out, etc. etc..
Now I try to talk to him about this ****, and his response "I don't want to talk about it". Now I'm pissed off at him for being a hypocrite, not to mention that his relationship is far worse (she hits him when she gets mad... to the point that it hurts him), AND they don't have a damn kid (read: the one semi-viable reason to stay). Then when he finally does talk about it all he says is "i cant **** stuff up with her" or he comes up with some damn excuse for her thats so full of shi* it's pathetic.
I want my god damned friend back and I don't know what to do.
