Lost lonely blogger will not befriend other lost lonely types

[HappyYogi]

I reposted this:

I read a blog, written by a 40+ year old single woman. She is anonymous, of course, and talks about her pain in being single at this age, her friends fading away due to marriage and children leaving her lonely and how hard it is to find dates she likes. She talks about all sorts of things.

She hasn't said she is lonely or sad but it's pretty clear. She talks about her "low points" of this year, working all the time, little personal life, etc etc.

We are all supportive.

Here is the clincher...even though she is lost and lonely she is critical and rejecting of others who are also lost and lonely and seeking attachments. She calls them "problematic".

Huh? This irritates me. Tell me if I am wrong here or perhaps I am reacting from something personal here...but I think if you want more love in your life, and you are lonely and feeling friendless, perhaps you should be more tolerant/accepting to those who are in the same place?

This is one thing that really bugs me about people. They can't tolerate the needy, the wounded, the lonely, the forsaken...everyone wants someone who is very "together" even if they are not "together" themselves. To me it reeks of a lack of self-acceptance and awareness.

I would say this is an "effect" of loneliness where maybe someone hates their situation so much, or they hate themselves for feeling it they can't tolerate another in the same situation!

Thoughts?

 

[whispers]

I agree, what hurts her, is what she doesnt want to deal with in other people... it makes sense. It would be unhealthy, put two depressed people together and its very dark, put two obsessive compulsive people together and they will kill each other.

I do understand that she is probably not aware of this so she just brushes off people who she classifies as problematic... sometimes it pisses me off to see distressed people spit on others, maybe to make themselves feel like they are not that bad... still is unfair to those who are ''in the way''.

BTW, it has happened to me to reject certain peoples friendships, because i knew they would bring me down. I simply told them that i was not well and that i had nothing to bring to a friendship and i was too exausted to even try. Seems to have worked, we keep in contact on FB, giving each other some cheer, but they respect the boundery.