Monkey face

[madnessfillsmyheart]

I have always had self esteem issues since i can remember but lately it's at a new low. I remember back in grade 10 this boy messaged me just to tell me "you look like a monkey" i obsessed over that for a long time. Family and friends were irritated at how this took over most of my thoughts. After a year or so after being convinced i don't look like this i just put that at the back of my mind and never mentioned it again. Well my freshman year at college (in a different town hours away) i got a private phone call from another boy. The phone call said "Stop thinking that everyone likes you" i was pretty confused because i think i'm pretty humble so i said "i don't think that at all ?" he said "then stop acting like it... you're just a monkey faced freshman anyways". I changed my phone number so none of the people back home besides really close friends and family knew it. When i heard him say that, it brought up all those feeling i had back in grade 10 and more. It made me think that if someone else saw that resemblance hours away that means that everyone sees it. Every time i look in the mirror now i see one, just looking in the mirror i'm repulsed by how i look. I know this is all caused by what these two people said. It hurt me that they went out of their way to tell me this. I know looks aren't everything for sure, but thinking that i look this way kills me. Does anyone have a similar experience where a name really hurt them? If so how did you get over it, i'd really like to.

 

[Spare]

These are just two petty, unhappy people who are trying to bring people down to their levels. Misery loves company, and all that. I know it's easier said than done, but pay them no mind. They're not worth your slightest thought.

Good luck!

 

[Peter Lorre]

Hey, I just wanted to say that it's probably a big coincidence; when people want to insult other people, they often use the 'you look like a monkey approach'. I'm sure you don't look hideous and that you don't look like a moneky at all, so don't pay any attention to those jerks!

PS: Welcome to the forum! Feel free to PM me if you ever feel like chatting to someone!

 

[Brian]

People are silly, and Spare is right. Misery loves company.

While it was just normal blue-collar-workplace joking around, the guys at one of my old jobs used to tease me about my teeth. It kind of got to me, even though they were actually more or less decent guys and one of them is still a good friend. We just ragged on eachother was all. But your situation is different, and the intent is malicious.

My point is, you're dealing with juveniles still, and the adult world doesn't look for silly things to try and bring you down. I haven't heard a peep out of people about my oddities since moving in to more of a professional environment and you probably won't either. Don't let it get you down.

 

[Joseph]

I often see animal traits in other people. There are some people I've thought had monkey traits, some cat traits, some dog traits, some wolf traits, some fish traits (lol).

It doesn't mean you aren't cute though.

I think everybody has resemblances to certain animals, even me.

Monkey ain't that bad! Just imagine having sloth traits or something.

 

[Badjedidude]

In some places in the world monkeys are seen as creatures of wisdom and fun.

Don't let what others say bother you. Usually people only say something like that if THEY don't feel good about themselves. They try to project their own insecurities on you and spread the negativity.

Just do your own thing and laugh when someone tries to insult you. Really, they aren't worth your time. Just move on and realize how small those people truly are.

 

[Poueff]

Pics or it's not true

 

[friendlyheart]

You know some people do things like that for fun because they are immature and they have no idea what they are doing.
No matter how you look, and i'm sure you don't have a monkey face, what you have inside is a lot more important. And what you have to focus on is to let that part be seen. The people who will appreciate you for what you are like on the inside are those who know you and who matter. I know it's not an easy thing to do. But once you get happy about yourself, based on your abilities or inner self you will start to shine and that will be reflected on your looks as well. Smile