My apology

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

Hi guys,

I don't know if this is allowed, but I feel I need to give everyone here, especially the female posters, an apology. I acted like an idiot, and was offensive, outrageous, and not to mention sexist, in that last thread I created.

I suppose I have a lot to learn about LDR. I need to stop talking, and start listening, because it's clear my view is distorted.

Again, I apologize. I hope you will all accept my apology.

 

[LoneKiller]

It's cool man. Everyone has their moments. Good and bad. God knows I certainly have. I think that sometimes we forget why we are members of this kind of forum. No harm. No foul.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

Thanks man. Sometimes I feel like you're my only friend on here.

I don't handle relationship forums well. I seem to go over the same negative ideas, and this has been going on since 2007. I am really trying hard to break the pattern.

I just read the Heartless ******* website, on nice guys. I understand I am not owed sex or a relationship. I shouldn't feel angry for this. Some guys take slower to cook than others. I should remember this.

And it's certainly not anybody's, especially the female posters, fault that I'm alone. Not every woman thinks the same.

 

[LoneKiller]

Thanks man. Sometimes I feel like you're my only friend on here.

I don't handle relationship forums well. I seem to go over the same negative ideas, and this has been going on since 2007. I am really trying hard to break the pattern.

I just read the Heartless ******* website, on nice guys. I understand I am not owed sex or a relationship. I shouldn't feel angry for this. Some guys take slower to cook than others. I should remember this.

And it's certainly not anybody's, especially the female posters, fault that I'm alone. Not every woman thinks the same.

I think that you would be surprised at how many like you. I think that we can all agree that it takes a lot of courage to apologize openly when a member does so. We've all ****** up before, and we will **** up again. It's human. Apologizing like this isn't an easy thing to do for anyone.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

Thanks man. Sometimes I feel like you're my only friend on here.

I don't handle relationship forums well. I seem to go over the same negative ideas, and this has been going on since 2007. I am really trying hard to break the pattern.

I just read the Heartless ******* website, on nice guys. I understand I am not owed sex or a relationship. I shouldn't feel angry for this. Some guys take slower to cook than others. I should remember this.

And it's certainly not anybody's, especially the female posters, fault that I'm alone. Not every woman thinks the same.

I think that you would be surprised at how many like you. I think that we can all agree that it takes a lot of courage to apologize openly when a member does so. We've all ****** up before, and we will **** up again. Apologizing like this isn't an easy thing to do for anyone.

Well, it's so much that I seemed to stir up bad memories in here.

It's so much that I don't know how to break free of this thinking sometimes. It comes from low self esteem, depression, and self hatred; the psychological word is projection.

I am not denying that a lot of stupid and unnecessary cruel **** has been done to me and around me, but some of the posters in that thread were trying to make me see sense...and I just got angry. Now I am ashamed of my actions, because I not only made myself look like a fool, I insulted many people that I care about.

I need to focus less on the people that hate my guts, and actually focus on the ones that do appreciate me.

 

[LoneKiller]

That's a mature attitude to have. And you are right. It's hard sometimes to try and focus on the good and forget the bad. Sadly, you can't have one without the other. I had to learn that the hard way. I'm still learning.

 

[Barbaloot]

I don't think anyone here genuinely hates your guts... and if they do they need to find something more productive to do with themselves. But, I am glad you realized the error of your ways and took the time to apologize, most who have made similar threads in the past never do. Just... don't do it again.