My ex is acting weird

[dorotka]

We broke up about 4 weeks ago. He then found a quick fix for me, a girl that is unfortunately known as a ***** all around town. She's very young and really just a bit stupid (and I'm not saying that because she's with my ex). Anyway, they're not together, they're just "having fun", you know.. but they haven't slept together. She doesn't want a relationship with him and I don't know if he does.
Anyway, I've been making no contact with him, I just see him on fridays at clubs and stuff. We have a lot of mutual friends, too.

The thing is, we were at this club yesterday, and I ran into him. He was with her ofcourse, but he came up to me and talked to me. He asked me "Why don't you wanna talk to me?" "Why have you deleted me from your Facebook?" "I hope you don't think I'm dating her, because I'm not!"
I told him I still liked him and all, but when I found out he was with her that was the bottom line for me (because he was always saying the worst stuff about her). I told him I know they're not dating. He said they were friends, but I just laughed at it and said, "Yeah, friends who make out." He told me about 5 times that they weren't together. Then he wanted to kiss me on the cheek, but I wouldn't even let him do that, so we just hugged and he kissed me on the cheek somehow anyway.
I came back to my table later, and he was there with her. I told my friend "What is she doing here? I really don't feel like having her at our table." And my ex stood up and took her away with him, saying "Ok, if this is your table." It was really corny and embarassing, the way he left with her. I got really upset afterwards, started thinking about him again.

Please tell me, any tips on what could this mean? Really, what does he want from me now?

 

[Sarah_Lbnz]

Welcome to the forums.

Good on you for no-contact with him! I know that can be hard to do.

How you acted was totally normal for someone who just broke up with the guy 4 weeks ago: you don't have to keep him on facebook (who does?) and you don't have to talk to him, and you certainly deserve to have your wishes respected in terms of contact. You don't need to be embarrassed, he was acting like a tool. Like, you told him not to kiss you and he did anyway - he doesn't care about your boundaries.

That being said, it's okay that he is hanging out with whoever he wants to, and I get that your pride is hurt but he can do that. If I was that girl, I think I would be embarrassed, but she went into that situation knowing that you two just broke up. If she wanted to, she could have confronted you to let you know that you had nothing to worry about, and that they were just friends. But she might have been afraid to do that, or didn't feel like she had to explain anything to you. Or maybe they are dating, as you suspect.

Who cares what he wants from you? You don't need to guess at what he wants - this is waste of your energy. If he wants something, he can ask *directly*, and you are under no obligation to give. He already made you upset, why give him any more of your power? You broke up with him. You're done.

 

[9006]

Good on you for no-contact with him!

You need to keep doing this, he seems as though he's trying to make you jealous but acting all innocent by his actions - it's all ******** what he says. 4 weeks isn't much for being out of a relationship (Presuming it was a significant one) an I think he's being an idiot acting how he is, it just shows you his mentality, an he clearly mustn't have thought that much if he's already hanging around this slag "for fun" as soon as he is.

I dislike people like this, I think I'd like to punch him.

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PS; welcome to the forum.

 

[dorotka]

Welcome to the forums.

Good on you for no-contact with him! I know that can be hard to do.

How you acted was totally normal for someone who just broke up with the guy 4 weeks ago: you don't have to keep him on facebook (who does?) and you don't have to talk to him, and you certainly deserve to have your wishes respected in terms of contact. You don't need to be embarrassed, he was acting like a tool. Like, you told him not to kiss you and he did anyway - he doesn't care about your boundaries.

That being said, it's okay that he is hanging out with whoever he wants to, and I get that your pride is hurt but he can do that. If I was that girl, I think I would be embarrassed, but she went into that situation knowing that you two just broke up. If she wanted to, she could have confronted you to let you know that you had nothing to worry about, and that they were just friends. But she might have been afraid to do that, or didn't feel like she had to explain anything to you. Or maybe they are dating, as you suspect.

Who cares what he wants from you? You don't need to guess at what he wants - this is waste of your energy. If he wants something, he can ask *directly*, and you are under no obligation to give. He already made you upset, why give him any more of your power? You broke up with him. You're done.

Thank you, I know I'm doing the right thing with no contact and stuff. But I've really missed him, and when he says he still wants to talk to me and he's not with her, it just gave me more hope (AND IT'S WRONG!) and I started to miss him even more.
It's pretty hard for me..

 

[9006]

Thank you, I know I'm doing the right thing with no contact and stuff. But I've really missed him, and when he says he still wants to talk to me and he's not with her, it just gave me more hope (AND IT'S WRONG!) and I started to miss him even more.
It's pretty hard for me..

Don't fall for it.