No point..

[ShybutHi]

It is very hard to be optimistic. Nowadays I try to just shut the idea of relationships out of my mind and get on with what I do in day to day life, trying to involve myself in the things that I enjoy, but sometimes it is difficult.

One advantage of being single I suppose is that you have a little more time to indulge in the things you like.

I am 27 and have never been in a meaningful relationship, never had any real hints from women... Any nice comments I get or anything of the sort are just from girlfriends of my male friends.
What makes it really hard is the fact that in my social circle, 99% of them have partners or are even married/engaged, some also have kids. I feel really left out a lot of the time... I dislike to go to a party of say 17 people when literally everyone there is there as a couple except for me.

Anyone else in a similar situation where they feel left out in regards to relationships and their social circle? Or just in relationships in general? What do you think the reasons are?

 

[EveWasFramed]

It is very hard to be optimistic. Nowadays I try to just shut the idea of relationships out of my mind and get on with what I do in day to day life, trying to involve myself in the things that I enjoy, but sometimes it is difficult.

One advantage of being single I suppose is that you have a little more time to indulge in the things you like.

I am 27 and have never been in a meaningful relationship, never had any real hints from women... Any nice comments I get or anything of the sort are just from girlfriends of my male friends.
What makes it really hard is the fact that in my social circle, 99% of them have partners or are even married/engaged, some also have kids. I feel really left out a lot of the time... I dislike to go to a party of say 17 people when literally everyone there is there as a couple except for you.

Anyone else in a similar situation where they feel left out in regards to relationships and their social circle? Or just in relationships in general? What do you think the reasons are?

I cant really offer a lot of good advice here, because I dont really HAVE a social circle.
However, it seems that if most of your social circle is already attached and it makes you feel left out, might it be a good idea to find things to do that other singles might be doing? Im sure it wouldnt be easy, but it would be worth it to broaden our social net at this point I think.
Good luck, Shy.

 

[ShybutHi]

Thanks for the reply Eve.

The dilemma is there because I am not someone to go out "looking" for someone to get with... That is just very alien to me. I suppose I am a bit alternative of sorts too so I don't go to clubs which is where a lot of single people go, it is just not my scene. The problem is also there because I know pretty much all the people who enjoy the same things as I do (mainly music) in the town that I live in and where all these people go if they are out. Practically all of them are couples you see. At my age there are very few singles who go to the very few places which appeal to me in the town that I live in.

 

[Regumika]

Well.. on the other end of the spectrum you have the blooming city where opportunities are so abundant that you're just another number. If one thing didn't match up with you, then it is on to the other guy.

Your problem right now I think is the fact that you are opposed to long distant relationships. People like you are all over the internet believe it or not. However, the problem you face with online relationships is trust. It is so easy to be duped so most people have their walls up really really high. Considering the 1% success rate online versus the 0% success rate in your little town.. online is still the better choice in my opinion.

 

[ShybutHi]

Well.. on the other end of the spectrum you have the blooming city where opportunities are so abundant that you're just another number. If one thing didn't match up with you, then it is on to the other guy.

Your problem right now I think is the fact that you are opposed to long distant relationships. People like you are all over the internet believe it or not. However, the problem you face with online relationships is trust. It is so easy to be duped so most people have their walls up really really high. Considering the 1% success rate online versus the 0% success rate in your little town.. online is still the better choice in my opinion.

Actually I am not opposed to long distant relationships at all, I have never had the opportunity to be in one though. Online dating is pretty pricy it seems and I simply do not really have a lot to offer, here comes my pessimism... But from real life experience, the pessimism in this area is warranted.

 

[Regumika]

Actually I am not opposed to long distant relationships at all, I have never had the opportunity to be in one though. Online dating is pretty pricy it seems and I simply do not really have a lot to offer, here comes my pessimism... But from real life experience, the pessimism in this area is warranted.

You're not opposed to online dating? Well that's good. Also, you do not need to spend any money to date online. As long as the interests are mutual between you and the other person, it really doesn't matter how you two meet.

A forum, PM someone you find interesting.
An online game, whisper them and let them know they're interesting.
Maybe even a hobby site (art, cars, music, etc), send a PM.

Now I'm not saying to randomly confess.. but once you find a common ground just go with it. Also think it about it both ways.. Say you find someone that you like, but after talking you find out stuff about them that just puts you off. It doesn't mean that person is bad, it just means that person isn't for you. You might be the person that isn't for someone, so don't take rejection so seriously every time.

 

[Triple Bogey]

It is very hard to be optimistic. Nowadays I try to just shut the idea of relationships out of my mind and get on with what I do in day to day life, trying to involve myself in the things that I enjoy, but sometimes it is difficult.

One advantage of being single I suppose is that you have a little more time to indulge in the things you like.

I am 27 and have never been in a meaningful relationship, never had any real hints from women... Any nice comments I get or anything of the sort are just from girlfriends of my male friends.
What makes it really hard is the fact that in my social circle, 99% of them have partners or are even married/engaged, some also have kids. I feel really left out a lot of the time... I dislike to go to a party of say 17 people when literally everyone there is there as a couple except for me.

Anyone else in a similar situation where they feel left out in regards to relationships and their social circle? Or just in relationships in general? What do you think the reasons are?

I've always felt left out regarding relationships. Never felt good enough, never felt any hope really. Life doesn't seem fair, everything is so hard for me but there is little point complaining about it. Little things make me happy such as text message or facebook messages from people asking me how I am. Doesn't happen often but it's nice when it does. I do enjoy my freedom though ! I can do what I want and when.