non-existent self-esteem

[break-my-heart]

there isn't a single thing i like about myself and this keeps me from being everything i want to be
i feel as if everyone is judging me and only sees the the bad traits
i am literally afraid of people (their opinions about me)

am i suffering from some kind of mental disorder??

 

[evanescencefan91]

*hugs break-my-heart*

if that's a mental disorder everyone has it

I've felt the same way for a long time, but that isn't going to help anything at all

we're all concerned about what others think about us, even if some of us won't admit it, we all want to liked by our peers

but people can usually sense insecurity and low self esteem and it isn't very attractive,

but i've kinda come to the conclusion that at the very least you should fake it till you make it's hard at first and awkward

but even if you don't believe it, give yourself compliments

people with no confidence rarely accomplish great feats
everyone including yourself has good qualities and potential to do great things

we just have to get over our fear of failing looking like a fool, but people usually aren't as judgmental as we fear them to be

a japanese proverb says we are fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance

you are awesome and tell yourself that everyday

 

[LucieMay]

No you sound pretty normal. You think everyone is judging you but really they're just thinking about how they themselves are being perceived. As humans, we strive for acceptance and love. Some people are just better at hiding it and not dwelling on their insecurities. It does worry me that you don't see anything good about yourself. Not being able to acknowledge *any* positive traits is worrying and unrealistic. Everyone on this earth has some positive traits, even the very bad people (and you certainly sound too nice and gentle to be a "bad" person). Just the very fact that you are posting on here and reaching out to other people is a good thing.

 

[Sci-Fi]

A lot of people go through this at some point, especially those of us on here. I bet there are a lot of things to like about yourself, you're just in a rut. First thing first, you do need to identify what you do like about yourself, anything. Maybe it's your laugh or eyes, or certain things about your personality. Then work on the things you don't. Don't worry about what people will think of you. You need to be you, express yourself and find yourself. I did that way back in high school. I didn't like who I was and I always hid my true self from everyone. I was afraid I'd get picked on and teased, but that happened anyway. So I finally embraced and let the inner me out, thankfully my friends embraced me too and liked who I really was much better.

Honestly, I still worry about what people may think of me, but I like who I am so if people don't like it, well they can all just go suck an egg.

You know what I like about you? That you were able to come on a forum like this seeking advice and help. You opened yourself up in just a few sentences and shared your fears and concerns.

I don't think you are suffering from a mental disorder at all, you just need to reconnect and redefine yourself.