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BeyondShy, try not to get so defensive all the time. Some of the things Solivagant said, I've said to you as well in private. I think people won't "attack" you (generic) if you don't give them a reason to. I'm not saying that you are giving people a reason to "attack" you, but .. well, I mostly agree with what Solivagant has said. I hope you don't take her comments as attacking you, because it's clear that she's not and is just trying to help you here.

You pretty much lumped me in the entire category of "everyone on the forum" with regards to this initially. And we talked about it in PM. I'm not trying to rehash what has been discussed but I really hope you realise that people, not Solivagant, not me, not anyone else here wants to purposely attack you or blame you or exclude you for no apparent reason. I've told you possibilities of why people might feel apprehensive to approach you or reply to your posts - and Solivagant clearly reiterated some of these points herself.

That's all I wanted to say. Apologies if this is totally off-track and unnecessary but I felt I had to say something.

<blockquote data-quote="ladyforsaken" data-source="post: 765324" data-attributes="member: 27514">BeyondShy, try not to get so defensive all the time. Some of the things Solivagant said, I&#039;ve said to you as well in private. I think people won&#039;t &quot;attack&quot; you (generic) if you don&#039;t give them a reason to. I&#039;m not saying that you are giving people a reason to &quot;attack&quot; you, but .. well, I mostly agree with what Solivagant has said. I hope you don&#039;t take her comments as attacking you, because it&#039;s clear that she&#039;s not and is just trying to help you here.You pretty much lumped me in the entire category of &quot;everyone on the forum&quot; with regards to this initially. And we talked about it in PM. I&#039;m not trying to rehash what has been discussed but I really hope you realise that people, not Solivagant, not me, not anyone else here wants to purposely attack you or blame you or exclude you for no apparent reason. I&#039;ve told you possibilities of why people might feel apprehensive to approach you or reply to your posts - and Solivagant clearly reiterated some of these points herself.That&#039;s all I wanted to say. Apologies if this is totally off-track and unnecessary but I felt I had to say something.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="ladyforsaken, post: 765324, member: 27514"] BeyondShy, try not to get so defensive all the time. Some of the things Solivagant said, I've said to you as well in private. I think people won't "attack" you (generic) if you don't give them a reason to. I'm not saying that [i]you[/i] are giving people a reason to "attack" you, but .. well, I mostly agree with what Solivagant has said. I hope you don't take her comments as attacking you, because it's clear that she's not and is just trying to help you here. You pretty much lumped me in the entire category of "everyone on the forum" with regards to this initially. And we talked about it in PM. I'm not trying to rehash what has been discussed but I really hope you realise that people, not Solivagant, not me, not anyone else here wants to purposely attack you or blame you or exclude you for no apparent reason. I've told you possibilities of why people might feel apprehensive to approach you or reply to your posts - and Solivagant clearly reiterated some of these points herself. That's all I wanted to say. Apologies if this is totally off-track and unnecessary but I felt I had to say something. [/QUOTE]

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