I wish I could post some happy story of a relationship to cheer you up, instead I am always ranting about something.
This one is not really a rant, is more a relationship problem.
Some new friends (yay! maybe there are some new friends! this is the happy part) introduced me a friend of them as a possible partner, he is very funny and nice, but (BUT) after we met casually on an evening with other people he started writing me one-two pages long emails, for a total of 6 of them, writing very personal things, making assumptions ("I saw that you were upset because I said this, you should not judge people, you don't know me" only I don't even remember what he said and honestly I don't care) and blaming, mentioned previous relationships in which it was normal to physically hit each other and anyway his lifestyle is to travel around the world on a motorbike, and in general he gives this vibe of being quite unstable, so he is REALLY not my type.
Now, he keeps writing these unrequited letters, so he clearly needs some kind of help, but in this period I am recovering from illness, and struggling to keep up with some sort of life, and I really don't feel like being his therapist, also I am afraid he got the wrong idea from these common acquaintances that I am desperate for a guy (which I am not, I want a GOOD stable guy, otherwise I am contented with my loneliness).
Also, I suffer from post traumatic stress disorder, because only crazy guys seem attracted to me and I have a shocking amount of bad memories of abuse that I try to forget, so I am having all these emotions that are quite out of place, because this poor guy didn't do anything, he just expressed a sympathy and offered to repair my laptop (with a lot of pretty annoying self-praise, I am always so good with everyone etc), but I feel the danger and it's freaking me out.
Is there a good way to deal with this without getting involved with this clearly unstable person? I am not even sure I want him in my life as a friend, I had my share of horrible scenes and I can't have not even one more, and I feel like he is the kind of person who runs after you yelling in the street (like one of my exes used to do). But maybe I am wrong.
I cannot just ignore him, because he is friend with this couple who I really like and I would like THEM into my life. Also, he is calling for help to me and I feel sorry for him, but what am I, the red cross? Is it very selfish to feel like this? How do I deal with this situation?
Also, I am really depressed because I still have to meet a mentally normal guy who is interested in me, but that's another story.
This one is not really a rant, is more a relationship problem.
Some new friends (yay! maybe there are some new friends! this is the happy part) introduced me a friend of them as a possible partner, he is very funny and nice, but (BUT) after we met casually on an evening with other people he started writing me one-two pages long emails, for a total of 6 of them, writing very personal things, making assumptions ("I saw that you were upset because I said this, you should not judge people, you don't know me" only I don't even remember what he said and honestly I don't care) and blaming, mentioned previous relationships in which it was normal to physically hit each other and anyway his lifestyle is to travel around the world on a motorbike, and in general he gives this vibe of being quite unstable, so he is REALLY not my type.
Now, he keeps writing these unrequited letters, so he clearly needs some kind of help, but in this period I am recovering from illness, and struggling to keep up with some sort of life, and I really don't feel like being his therapist, also I am afraid he got the wrong idea from these common acquaintances that I am desperate for a guy (which I am not, I want a GOOD stable guy, otherwise I am contented with my loneliness).
Also, I suffer from post traumatic stress disorder, because only crazy guys seem attracted to me and I have a shocking amount of bad memories of abuse that I try to forget, so I am having all these emotions that are quite out of place, because this poor guy didn't do anything, he just expressed a sympathy and offered to repair my laptop (with a lot of pretty annoying self-praise, I am always so good with everyone etc), but I feel the danger and it's freaking me out.
Is there a good way to deal with this without getting involved with this clearly unstable person? I am not even sure I want him in my life as a friend, I had my share of horrible scenes and I can't have not even one more, and I feel like he is the kind of person who runs after you yelling in the street (like one of my exes used to do). But maybe I am wrong.
I cannot just ignore him, because he is friend with this couple who I really like and I would like THEM into my life. Also, he is calling for help to me and I feel sorry for him, but what am I, the red cross? Is it very selfish to feel like this? How do I deal with this situation?
Also, I am really depressed because I still have to meet a mentally normal guy who is interested in me, but that's another story.
