http://www.mensfitness.com/women/dating-advice/7-pick-lines-never-use
At first I thought these were all going to be of the typical "Did it hurt when you fell from Heaven?" cheesy/LAME-O variety, but they actually aren't. In fact, I was guilty of using quite a few of them when I still tried to approach/talk to random women while out in public. The author makes some excellent points, so I thought that some of you guys might want to take a quick look. Personally, this one REALLY hit home for me:
Terrible Pick-Up Line #1: “I’m sorry to bother you, but…” or “Excuse me…”
She’s at a bar or a party. She’s there to meet people. She’s not at work trying to do a difficult math problem. So just go talk to her.
If you act like you’re bothering her, she is more likely to feel like you’re bothering her. This has broad implications, by the way. Act like she’s attracted to you and she’s more likely to actually be attracted.
In addition, approaching her this way implies that you have a history of women being bothered by your presence.
Be polite, sure. But not apologetic.
^^^^I have been guilty of that approach many times. I can definitely see how it can be viewed (by women, especially) as betraying a general lack of confidence. "Ummm, excuse me, I'm sorry to bother you but..." is basically one step away from: "umm, will you please talk to me for a bit and not get angry at me for having the temerity to approach you...please....?" Anyone else agree?
Another common approach:
Terrible Pick-Up Line #2: “Can I buy you a drink?”
Let me be clear. If you’re already talking to a woman, even for just a minute or two, and you order a drink, it’s polite to offer to get her one too. Especially the first one. But these should never be the first words out of your mouth. If you do that, you’re implying that there needs to be some added bonus for her to want to talk to you. High-value men seldom approach women in this way, so you’ve already ruled yourself out of that category in just your first six words.
Similarly, don’t ever approach a woman offering something cheesy like to show her a magic trick. Don’t be a dancing monkey.
- See more at: http://www.mensfitness.com/women/dating-advice/7-pick-lines-never-use?page=2#sthash.QiyBpevD.dpuf
At first I thought these were all going to be of the typical "Did it hurt when you fell from Heaven?" cheesy/LAME-O variety, but they actually aren't. In fact, I was guilty of using quite a few of them when I still tried to approach/talk to random women while out in public. The author makes some excellent points, so I thought that some of you guys might want to take a quick look. Personally, this one REALLY hit home for me:
Terrible Pick-Up Line #1: “I’m sorry to bother you, but…” or “Excuse me…”
She’s at a bar or a party. She’s there to meet people. She’s not at work trying to do a difficult math problem. So just go talk to her.
If you act like you’re bothering her, she is more likely to feel like you’re bothering her. This has broad implications, by the way. Act like she’s attracted to you and she’s more likely to actually be attracted.
In addition, approaching her this way implies that you have a history of women being bothered by your presence.
Be polite, sure. But not apologetic.
^^^^I have been guilty of that approach many times. I can definitely see how it can be viewed (by women, especially) as betraying a general lack of confidence. "Ummm, excuse me, I'm sorry to bother you but..." is basically one step away from: "umm, will you please talk to me for a bit and not get angry at me for having the temerity to approach you...please....?" Anyone else agree?
Another common approach:
Terrible Pick-Up Line #2: “Can I buy you a drink?”
Let me be clear. If you’re already talking to a woman, even for just a minute or two, and you order a drink, it’s polite to offer to get her one too. Especially the first one. But these should never be the first words out of your mouth. If you do that, you’re implying that there needs to be some added bonus for her to want to talk to you. High-value men seldom approach women in this way, so you’ve already ruled yourself out of that category in just your first six words.
Similarly, don’t ever approach a woman offering something cheesy like to show her a magic trick. Don’t be a dancing monkey.
- See more at: http://www.mensfitness.com/women/dating-advice/7-pick-lines-never-use?page=2#sthash.QiyBpevD.dpuf
