Really don't know what to do

[EveWasFramed]

I did warn you, in one of your other threads, that if you chose to make this type thread, you needed to be prepared for honest responses.
You have two choices here:
1. You can stop reporting every post you find "abusive" when you clearly keep opening yourself up to whatever it is you think is "abuse" or...
2. I can close all of the threads where people are abusing you.

Your choice.

Perhaps you should consider using private messages to and from those who are being supportive to you during this troubling time?

 

[someguy23475]

There is a difference between constructive criticism and abuse. I feel like some members are doing the latter, which I do not appreciate. Surely there has to be some kind of forum rules about that? I don't come on here and abuse people, and I only shout back when someone starts it. I learned at an early age from my late father to stand up and defend myself.

 

[EveWasFramed]

So far, only one post you have reported as been deleted. Nothing so far has been deemed "abuse." Remember, there are four moderators here on the forum and we make these decisions together.
I will simply refer to my previous post and that should end this particular disccussion.

 

[Pheenix]

Someguy, I know I keep bringing myself up in this thread, but if some of what I said is what you see as abuse, could you please point it out? I am very interested in a conversation about that, and I think other people could get something out of it as well.

 

[Doubt The Rabbit]

Tbh, Sophia has a far tougher row to hoe than you, 'somebody' and she does it with simply admirable grace and gentle positivity. You would do well to read and listen, more than post.

This I agree with wholeheartedly. I couldn't imagine receiving wisdom from someone like Sophia, and then throwing it away to sink into my own pity party. It takes a real coward to do that.

 

[Ak5]

Try changing your point of view...Don't have much to say though, don't want to get involved

 

[someguy23475]

I have sent posts as abuse but I probably shouldn't point them out here. There's a deeper problem here which I am not sure I can discuss, but it explains why some posts are not being removed.

 

[Doubt The Rabbit]

There is a difference between constructive criticism and abuse. I feel like some members are doing the latter, which I do not appreciate. Surely there has to be some kind of forum rules about that? I don't come on here and abuse people, and I only shout back when someone starts it. I learned at an early age from my late father to stand up and defend myself.

And who do you suppose makes the choice of what is abuse and what isn't? You? From what I see, you see anything that you refuse to face as a threat. Those pointing out your obvious flaws are a threat to you, and anything that comes from their mouths you call abuse just so you can shield yourself from that which you need to face.

Don't misunderstand. The only one abusing you is yourself. The only thing you need to defend yourself from is YOURself.

And, FYI, disputing everything YOU DON'T LIKE is not standing up for yourself. There's only one word for something like that: Denial.

 

[someguy23475]

It's how some things are being said. It doesn't help that I'm not exactly the mods best friends right now.

 

[Pheenix]

I suppose you are right that several people here, me definitely included, could be a little more graceful with our responses. We should take that to heart. But it is still far from abuse.

 

[someguy23475]

Not everyone has abused. Some have however. One has a specific reason of which I will not discuss here.

 

[Doubt The Rabbit]

It's how some things are being said. It doesn't help that I'm not exactly the mods best friends right now.

The mods would not act based upon their personal opinion on someone. Don't get that mixed up.

 

[someguy23475]

I'm not so sure about that, well not all but some.

 

[Doubt The Rabbit]

The mods you're currently dealing with wouldn't.

 

[someguy23475]

Not from some experiences, sad to say. Some are better than others though.

 

[VanillaCreme]

I have sent posts as abuse but I probably shouldn't point them out here. There's a deeper problem here which I am not sure I can discuss, but it explains why some posts are not being removed.

It's how some things are being said. It doesn't help that I'm not exactly the mods best friends right now.

First, they're not being removed because they're not abusive posts. You think that just because you report them as such that they'll certainly be removed for you. When someone reports, we read it, and report it to each other, then we deem if it's fit or unfit to keep. I'm sorry, but I've seen several reports you made just because of the poster and not the post itself.

And second, even if you were our best friends, that would not give you any special attention. We do not show any special attention, nor do we give any special favors. I told ChristinaSarah that if she were to do something wrong, I'd correct it, and if she continued to do it, she'd be banned. And she's been one of my best friends for about 6 or 7 years now.

It's unfortunate that you're continuing to be like this, because like some have said, you're making people dislike you. Even the people who don't know what happened the other night, see it.

 

[SophiaGrace]

Here's a general rule of thumb i think might help you.

In general, i would reccomend that you post a lot more in other peoples threads than you make new threads & post in your own threads.

Unless the threads you make are interactive (such as "what did you eat for lunch?", which is a good example of an interactive thread)

If you post a lot more in other threads than make threads about your issues, then, when you DO make a thread, people will be more likely to respond to it. Why? Because all relationships are give and take.

Generally you have to give, before you can receive.

Give information about yourself, so others can learn to know you.

Give compassion, so others can care about you.

...

Hope this helps.

 

[someguy23475]

I have sent posts as abuse but I probably shouldn't point them out here. There's a deeper problem here which I am not sure I can discuss, but it explains why some posts are not being removed.

It's how some things are being said. It doesn't help that I'm not exactly the mods best friends right now.

First, they're not being removed because they're not abusive posts. You think that just because you report them as such that they'll certainly be removed for you. When someone reports, we read it, and report it to each other, then we deem if it's fit or unfit to keep. I'm sorry, but I've seen several reports you made just because of the poster and not the post itself.

And second, even if you were our best friends, that would not give you any special attention. We do not show any special attention, nor do we give any special favors. I told ChristinaSarah that if she were to do something wrong, I'd correct it, and if she continued to do it, she'd be banned. And she's been one of my best friends for about 6 or 7 years now.

It's unfortunate that you're continuing to be like this, because like some have said, you're making people dislike you. Even the people who don't know what happened the other night, see it.

You know why I reported a specific poster, and that has since been resolved.

Sorry, but I don't see it like that. I see special attention around here all the time, and it bothers me.

 

[Pheenix]

And I want you to question that assertion. Not that I know what you are talking about.

 

[VanillaCreme]

If by special attention, you mean people getting along, then yes, there is special attention. Perhaps if you were a little more pleasant, you'd get the same.